When Is It My Turn To Say "you Came"??????? Why Am I Always The "you Called" Person????

when is it my turn to say "you came"??????? why am I always the "you called" person????

I had dinner with my father right there, across from him. Later, when I was in my room, he called me and was like, 'Why aren't you having dinner?' I mean, am I invisible? I guess I am like I used to wonder before, but now I'm pretty convinced yayay

Being the eldest daughter is like them putting a lid on the love shower you soaked up when you were a little kid, all so you don't end up this big-time spoiled brat. Instead, you're supposed to grow up all responsible and mature (which earns you those "you're mature for your age," "you're an old soul" comments). So, you end up being the person everyone turns to when things need straightening, even if you have to push your feelings aside. Eldest daughters become experts at sacrificing, so when they actually let go of things they care about, it throws everyone off. They pretty much become the third parent for their siblings, and sometimes they're even parenting their own parents. And here's the twist – you can't really vent about stuff because you're the oldest daughter. Making compromises becomes your middle name. All of this adds up to bottling up feelings and not really letting your parents in on much. But, when the whole act slips and you finally show how you truly feel, parents come back with, "Why are you so down? You've got a roof over your head, everything you need – some kids don't even have that." So, you end up feeling guilty about opening up. They do care, seriously, but it's mostly about your physical well-being. They're always bugging you about drinking water and eating on time. And their logic? "Who's gonna be stuck next to you in the hospital if you get sick? I've got a ton of important stuff to deal with, you know!" So, you dodge emotions. Then you get blamed and yelled at because your younger sibling gives your parent attitude and somehow it's your fault because you're the oldest daughter. You're taught that oldest daughters have to be soft, kind, and gentle, even when someone's wrong, even when the other person is acting like a jerk – you're told not to lose your cool. How does it start? You know, from simple things like "don't be like that, share your stuff with your siblings," "you're a bad kid for scolding your sibling because they wrecked your project, come on, they're just naive, you can do it again, right?" "You're a grown-up, stop whining about that." So, giving up on things becomes a casual thing, and then your whole life you're seeing yourself giving up on people, hobbies, everything, and you let other people take your stuff without a complaint or a single tear because that's selfish and oldest daughters aren't supposed to be like that.

friends are so precious like yes I love you and your rants pls don't apologize for your rants cause have you ever wondered: what if I actually love those rants???? basically everything about you? you can be a little unsettling but I absolutely adore every part of you. I have so much love in my heart and I'd gladly share it with you. All love that I have ever shown to you is yours to keep. Please keep it with care and double it cause I can guarantee you I'd always love you more than I love you today.

cupid is shooting its shot and I am constantly dodging it bc my attachment and abandonment issues said, "no thank you, we have got enough problems"

i was talking with someone and asked if they had friends. They answered, "i know a bunch of people but they're not really my friends" like totally got where they were coming from and totally related to that, but you know what i said? i was like, 'oh. well. everyone's my friend' and deep down my inner voices were screamingly reminding me that 'a friend to all is a friend to none' but anw