Honestly I Think The Key To Preventing A Lot Of Dangerous Actions Is Education, Not Fear.

Honestly I think the key to preventing a lot of dangerous actions is education, not fear.

You want college students to stop drinking? Setting up a workshop to educate them about the effects of alcohol on their brains then trusting them to make an informed decision is a lot more effective than saying "no!! alcohol bad! you should ever ever ever drink because it's bad!!!" One of these things provides actual information and teaches strategies for making safe choices. The other will be completely ineffective.

Similarly, if you want to prevent the spread of stis, it's way more effective to distribute condoms, dental dams, and finger cots along with informational pamphlets than it is to tell everyone to never ever have sex because it's bad!! Reason being, if they decide to ignore your advice in the latter scenario, they have no idea how to do it safely.

if vampires can't come inside without permission does that mean that you can just keep riding that thang and they can't um . yknow

The assumptions you make about people affect how they act. People try, subconsciously, to conform to how they're perceived, which is known by psychologists as a "self-fulfilling prophecy." Expect someone to be an upstander, they become an upstander. Expect someone to be sexual harassment perpetrator? Even if you tell them not to, they may act in those negative ways

Studies show that approaching youth with a bystander-intervention model is actually a lot more effective for reducing sexual assault, and it is also more enthusiastically received than programs that bill themselves as anti-rape.

We can tell youth that they are basically “rapists waiting to happen” (anti-rape initiative), or we can tell them that we know they would intervene if they saw harm happening to someone and we want to help empower them to do that (bystander intervention). The kids jump in with both feet for the latter! It was amazing to see children (and young boys in particular) excited to do this work and engage their creativity with it. Also, studies show that not only do they go on to intervene, but they also do not go on to sexually assault people themselves. Bystander intervention also takes the onus off the person being targeted to deter rape and empowers the collective to do something about it. It answers the question in the room when giggling boys are carrying an unconscious young woman up the stairs at a house party, and people are not sure how to respond and are waiting for “someone” to say or do something.

Richard M. Wright, “Rehearsing Consent Culture: Revolutionary Playtime” in the anthology Ask: Building Consent Culture edited by Kitty Stryker

can i stress the importance of boundary setting? of being able to say no? if you want to be able to play with this shit, or really engage sexually at all, you need to be able to look someone in the eye and say “i don’t want this.”

Bro I have GOT to stop referring to my labia majora as my "vulva cheeks"

I LOVE THIS SO MUCH I LOVE PEGGING I CANT BELIEVE THEY PUT IT IN A MARVEL MOVIE AHHHHHHHH SQUEAL

why is nobody mentioning the fact that Wade couldn’t get Vanessa pregnant because he’s the one getting pegged😭and they make sure to mention it in every movie so we know he LOVES taking it up the ass…like ok mr g spot