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HEARTSTOPPER (2022-) SEX EDUCATION (2019-2023)
Ruby deserved better.
She deserved proper closure from Otis. She so very obviously still loved him, and was heartbroken when he ignored her texts because of Maeve. It's like Eric said, "When Maeve is involved, Otis doesn't care about anyone else anymore."
I kept waiting for Otis to go up and have a genuine talk with her, sincerely apologizing to her, but it never happened. The only thing was, "Want to be friends?" I'm so happy she turned that offer down because girl deserved better.
(I was rooting for them, though, ngl. I just really love their chemistry and interaction.)
I wish she would have had more interaction with the rest of the cast. Maybe her and Eric discussing how awful it feels when they're being neglected by Otis because of Maeve.
I wish she would have had a little more growth shown, actually on screen, where she acknowledged that her having been heavily bullied made her a bully herself as a means to protect herself. Just a bit more than just that little speech she gave at the end of wanting to become better. I mean, it was all implied very well, but I wanted her to have more screentime to have fleshed that out more. But good for her for saying condolences to Maeve about the latter having lost her mom, and not defending herself when Maeve brushed her off because Maeve had every right to do that.
Also, there should have been a mention that she's such a political powerhouse (she got Connor elected for therapist in two or so weeks, while the other two candidates have been therapists for years) and she would want to pursue a career in that. I could easily see her become a softer version of Jen Barkley from Parks & Rec.
Honestly, Ruby really deserved better.
VIV and JACKSON in SEX EDUCATION SEASON 4 (2023)
Iām still finding it really hard to be fully out. When did you stop feeling ashamed? Oh, itās a, itās a long road. Ncuti Gatwa and Connor Swindells as Eric Effiong and Adam Groff in Sex Education S04E06
-A lot of female artists like to use self-portraiture.
-Maybe it's because other people don't see them how they really are.
I still cannot believe that Sex Education showed us Ruby and Adam excitedly talking about reality TV together and then did not expand. It's the friendship we all deserved.
Because I still have shit to say, apparently.
The thing thatās been really frustrating me about how the Adam/Eric break-up played out and how people have been reacting to it, is that I think there are two entirely different things at play here, and conflating them creates confusion.
The first thing is Eric feeling the need to break up with Adam because he feels like he canāt be his true self with him. And this might be controversial, but I think Eric had every right to do that. No matter what, everyone always has the right to break up with someone if the relationship doesnāt work for them.
The second thing is that, for the moment (weāll see how a potential season 4 deals with this), I get the sense the show wants me to believe that objectively speaking, Eric was correct in thinking he couldnāt be himself with Adam, that he was losing himself because of Adam. And thatās the thing I have a problem with.
People have already talked about how Adam never once tried to get Eric to be anything but his true self as far as Ericās behaviour and style goes. And while, yes, he wasnāt out to his mum yet, he was out to literally everyone else in their livesāand all he was asking for was a little time to gather the courage to come out to his mum too. But the thing I want to talk about is how, after a whole season of Adam going out of his comfort zone in various ways (and not just for Eric, but for his own sake too, like asking Ms Sands for help in getting better with school), Adam says he didnāt think putting make up on and going to a gay club would be his thing, and Eric immediately, without even talking to him about it, decided that was a fixed point of Adamās character and that meant Adam wasnāt the guy for him.
And again, Iām not actually saying Eric was wrong to feel that. Iām just saying that, based on Adamās pattern of behaviour, I wish the show wouldnāt act as if it was an objective truth.
Because the thing is, Adam doesnāt like poetry. Thatās not his thing either. And the second Eric actually used his words and told him that he liked it, Adam went and not only read a poetry book, but actually put real, impressive effort into writing poetry himself. All because Eric told him he liked it.
What Iām saying is, the idea that Adam wouldnāt agree to go to a gay club with Eric (with or without putting make-up on himself), if Eric actually expressed that it mattered to him, just doesnāt work for me.
So, yeah, Eric broke up with Adam because he wanted to fly while Adamās still learning to walk and, you know what, thatās fair enough. But it seems to me that the only reason Eric didnāt think Adam was ready to fly is because he never actually paid all that much attention to Adam, and all the ways in which he already wasnāt the person Eric thought he was. (See also Ericās dismissive laughter at the idea Adam could ever write him poetry, when in fact, thatās exactly what Adam then did.)
Also, I really could have gone without the idea that not wanting to go out to a gay club while wearing make-up means Adam isnāt ready to fly. It probably means he and Eric arenāt compatible, sure, but itās not actually a sign that Adam isnāt on Ericās evolved level of queerness yet. Shockingly enough, itās possible to be a fully realized queer without enjoying the club scene!
Idk, I just wish the break-up happened because Eric realized they werenāt compatible because they enjoy different things. Presenting it as an issue of Adam not being on Ericās level of queerness yet really left a bad taste in my mouth, especially as it was used as a way to sort of excuse Eric cheating.
And I know Adam loves Eric and is devastated by the break-up, but the main reason Iām okay with it is because he deserves better than someone who not only constantly pushes him out of his comfort zone, but then completely fails to even see the progress heās making.
the sex ed guide your parents didn't give you
how to put a condom on
where to get free birth control
the hymen debunkedĀ
cleaning your vibratorsĀ
how to avoid pressures
signs you may be pregnant
safe guide to anal sex
all about dental dams
disabled sexual resources
what is hiv?
feminist porn
female ejaculation
fisting 101
communication during sex
setting sexual boundaries
bdsm vs abuse
lube during sex
the clitoris
sex education games
understanding gender
what to do if your nudes were leaked
intersex
sexual consent
all about masturbation
tips for your first time
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Day 16: Adam Groff from 'Sex Education' who is bisexual!
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Why should public sex be legal? It seems more like there just needs to be a redefinition of the laws of what's considered public sex
Maybe I'm just a bigot but I don't think the idea of some guy being able to legally jerk it in a public park where children are very comforting
Good question! (Anon is referring to this post, for anyone wondering.) Get ready for a fucking essay I'm afraid, because I want to be very clear and its not simple.
TLDR: Public sex is about the fact sometimes in public, people are having sex. Not "people are going to all be having sex in front of you and children!". No one is hurting you by having sex in a public bathroom, or in their parked car, or in the woods.
But you are hurting people [specifically queer minorities and homeless people who cannot have sex anywhere else] by falling in line with logic so closely related to fascist ideology, it might as well be hand-in-hand.
It's about sexual autonomy. This isn't just a situation where "hey, being anti-public sex can easily be interpreted and used by fascists to be transphobic/homophobic" but it's also a "hey, the logic you're using is related to fascist ideology and removes bodily autonomy from other people."
You've made up a scenario in your head (a guy jerking it, children seeing) and decided public sex being legal means this could happen, so you don't like the idea of public sex.
Let me make one thing clear first: the scenario you just described already happens. Mostly because homeless people happen to exist and often don't have "private places" to have sex in. And guess what, some of them do get arrested!
But that's not because public sex is illegal [cishet couples, specifically yts be doing it all the time], it's because cops will take any excuse to fuck up someone they assume is homeless/non-white/mentally ill.
And yes, masturbating in a park could be public sex. What is also public sex is having sex in a bathroom at a bar, having sex in a car [outside of a garage], having sex in the woods, masturbating in any public bathroom, ect. Those are actual common types of public sex that almost only minorities get in trouble for.
The truth of the matter is, you're talking about public space. Public sex isn't about someone dropping down in front of you to have sex with their partner, it's about the fact that sometimes in public, people are having sex. And that's okay, people are allowed to do things with their bodies you don't approve of, even in a public space.
Unless they're dropping in front of you or having sex in a children's school lineup, they're not doing anything wrong. Someone masturbating in a bathroom stall is not hurting you, someone having sex under a blanket in a corner of the beach is not hurting you, someone humping at the club is also not hurting you.
(Also a child seeing someone else off-TV having sex literally happens at home. That does not mean their parents are child abusers, it just means that home is their parents home as well and they're allowed to do things in that space that their kids shouldn't be watching.)
Your idea is that public sex should be illegal. Let's play that out for a second. Someone has to enforce that law! So cops have to answer any call claiming someone is having public sex, which obviously puts minorities at risk but also means they have to check the clubs, have to check cars, have to check public bathrooms and do what?
Put people on registries? We've already done that, doesn't work. Put people in prison? Yes, let's lock people away indefinitely and make them do prison labor for having sex in a bathroom. Oh, what about fining them? That way we can target poor people! What about community service? Yes, surely that won't put people in danger of being outed, losing jobs or be considerably worse for disabled people.
It's not just ridiculous. It's cruel. Homeless people, so many LGBTQ+ kids and people in general who aren't out/can't be out to the people they live with rely on public sex as literally the only way they can have sex. Do you know how much of LGBTQ+ history is built by people who regularly had public sex, largely through necessity?
You might say, "well its okay for those who have no choice" but how do you know who has no choice? Are you going to knock on the bathroom doors, go "hey, I'm sorry, I just want to make sure you don't have another spot you could be doing this?"
You can't separate "folks who need this" and "folks who are just doing this for fun" without not just making an actual nuisance of yourself but also being a bigot.
People deserve the right to do what they will with their bodies. And sometimes, yes, that means public sex. Unless they are literally dropping down in front of you to have sex, it's not your problem. It can be triggering for some people, or just uncomfortable for some people but that does not mean they're hurting you.
Often public sex literally isn't even visible. And all you do when you restrict bodily autonomy is make it riskier and more and more unsafe [not just for people having sex but for everyone's bodily autonomy]. Does that sound like a step in the good direction to you, genuinely?
Though if you want to bring down public sex rates, Anon, by all means, try advocating for free housing, end homelessness, end racism, transphobia, homophobia, ableism, cults, bring about general sex positivity and blow up a landlord or two.
But focus on the heart of the issue. Which is not public sex.
Since they donāt teach gay sex ed in school let me tell gay guys and anyone else that wants to use the back door that douching is bad for you. It will cause long term problems.
Also starving yourself all day will not work because sometimes it can take up to two or three days for something to move through you.
Just eat a bunch of fiber and use the bathroom at least an hour or two before your booty call if you can. If you hate eating fiber just get yourself some fiber pills to take with meals. If you eat enough fiber the section after the colon should remain relatively clean on its own. Just wash the outside part. Not your insides. Those clean themselves.
Also if he shames you for anything that happens by accident in the bedroom and/or refuses to use a condom heās a jerk-wad and an idiot and you should dump him.
Fandoms Iām in part 6: Live action shows
Something I agree with and have seen stated again and again is that you need to respect boundaries before you can push them.
We cannot maintain healthy sexual relationships if you blur the line of what's okay and what's not too much, respecting boundaries that were previously talked about and agreed on is So important at the beginning of a sexual relationship. It's very fun to push the limits and force out orgasm after orgasm, it's very fun to do cnc play and very fun to do knife play However! It's So important to communicate boundaries and set limits.
Trust me, cnc, bondage, bdsm, knife play all sounds very enticing until you start to feel unsafe or start to panic. You need to Trust and be able to ensure your safety in your play partner.
Some of y'all are rushing out here and it's okay to take your time, it's Necessary to take your time to make your play partners feel Good, Safe, and Happy with heavy-kink scenes