Evan, What Do You Haunt?

“ evan, what do you haunt? “

I think an important thing to think about here is that monogamous romantic relationships have two elements: connection and partnership. Connection is the part we tend to associate with relationships more often. That's your romantic feelings, your platonic love, the emotional connection and meaningful care.

On the other hand, partnership is the agreement made in a romantic relationship (although other relationships like qprs also involve partnership, romance is more common and thus will be used for the purposes of argument). Of course all relationships are unique and personal, but in general, a romantic partnership is a mutual agreement to:

1. Prioritize your partner

2. Provide emotional labor/support

3. Provide physical affection/support

4. Be a reliable presence in your partner's life

In a monogamous relationship, these are obligations— in whatever agreed upon capacity— that a person has to a single partner, and vice versa. In my experience, that exclusivity makes it much easier to adapt to the desires and needs of my partner. Because I only have one agreement in place, I can focus my energy on fully understanding the way my partner wants those obligations to be fulfilled and adapting the way I do things to match. And I can rely on the fact that my partner is doing the same! Having another partner wouldn't change how much I love my boyfriend, but it would mean learning how two different people like to be prioritized, supported, shown affection, and shown up for. I'd have to switch between those two modes (at least!), and reconcile each with the other. Because I only have one partner, I can focus on that single agreement without having to compromise or pull focus to another obligation.

Meanwhile, I'm not at a loss for connection. I love my partner, and I love my friends, my family, everyone. I'm incredibly emotionally fulfilled in every aspect of my life, and I do try my best to prioritize them, give emotional support, show affection, and be reliable! The difference is, that's a choice. Unlike a partnership, I don't have set responsibilities for my friends. If I did, I would go crazy trying to fulfill them all. By keeping that partnership to one person, I have much more bandwidth to choose to provide those things in a platonic capacity more often and more reliably.

All this to say, do what works for you! A lot of people are more fulfilled by polyamorous relationships, and that's phenomenal!!! Genuinely, I'm ecstatic that people are finding systems of partnership that work for them. I just think a lot of people focus so much on the emotional aspect of romance, they forget the labor and responsibility involved in a capital r Relationship™.

also monogamy is just weird to me i guess. its one thing if you simply don't have the emotional bandwidth to nurture multiple romantic or sexual connections (i barely do atp!) but like. imagine if we treated ANY other kind of relationship this way. you can only have one best friend. you can only have one sister. you can only have one mentor. and if you want to have more than one of any of these relationships it means you don't love the first person enough. like that's CRAZY! why is this sentiment applied so strongly to romance!

how much do u want to bet that danielle radford will be the first wbn guest

@emp-t-man do I dig out the cosplays

guys hang on GUYS WAIT

disciple!macnamera au….

LIKE HE GETS SENT THROUGH THE PORTAL INSTEAD OF WILBUR

GENERAL WILBUR CROSS OF THE UNITED STATES MILITARY….

Okay, that's IT, I'm DONE. Here are some w359 characters playing Minecraft headcanons.

Eiffel! Nerd, grabbed a skin of his favourite character from some website, was happy since. Mostly plays with someone, ether mini games, adventure maps or just simple vanilla. Dropper champion. Prankster, obviously, you are never safe when playing with him

Minkowski!! Gives me the "I play hardcore" vibes, ether by herself or with Lovelace. They would try to drag Eiffel into their world, but he died on the first night. Builds, explores, collects achievements, great at PvE

Hilbert? Redstone. Not even in survival, I think the man just likes to mess with it in creative. Not as bad at building as you would think tho! Has a simple Steve skin

Lovelace plays bedwars, she is also GREAT at bedwars. PvP and strategy is her passion, can destroy bigger teams all by herself!! Shit at building, but she tries her best when they play with Minkowski

I think Hera would Make adventure maps. Doing some command blocks magic. But mostly enjoys building the environment, teraforming and making interiors. Also, armorstands. Absurdly good at armorstands magic.

Kepler's main skin is of himself, however he does have a lot of different "costumes". The dramatic rp kind of guy, although probably would be good at building

Jacobi. His skin is some stupid creature he drew when first got it, haven't changed it since. Master at building traps. He seems like a kind of guy who would go find glitches in the game to torture friends for fun or exploit in any way possible

Maxwell. Oh, Maxwell, you would love modded Minecraft. Create, vault hunters, anything and everything tbh. The more the merrier! Of course, redstone girlie. Master at farm building, villages whisperer. Skin? Ether just Steve/Alex or a very simple edit of it

The first Legendary Heroes of Bahumia... surely nothing will change that status.