You Just Pinpointed My Other Side Of The World In That Maladaptive Daydreaming Post. I Have Saturn In

You just pinpointed my other side of the world in that maladaptive daydreaming post. I have Saturn in 5th conj moon and venus in cancer in sidereal which makes it fall in 4th conj moon in tropical. Thank you for that post. I've been working on it for a long time

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Hi!

Maladaptive daydreaming is a really complicated issue. Moon and venus in cancer along with Saturn--how is your sensitivity antenna? Do you get triggered easily? Do you take offence easily?

I daydream a lot when I have been triggered. The trigger is almost always some kind of insult or humiliation or criticism or rejection. I used to aggressively daydream revenge fantasies. I wanted to settle scores and shut up everyone with my speech.

But the world won't change to accommodate me. I cannot afford to waste any more time in ruminating about past. I think there are some people who are more prone to attract negative interactions with people. These people need to learn to toughen up and harden their skin. Dont take things to heart. It is your life theme to face bad experiences with people. But how people treat you is a reflection of themselves.

Please do a culture about scorpio rising women

Hi!

I would like to share some insights into this ascendant. I am Scorpio rising with empty first house and 7th house planets. Naturally, my personality and emotional life were unstable until I realized what was going on.

Shadow self: Scorpio rising people seem to trigger shadow in others and also their own shadow traits get triggered easily. It is a sign of transformation and rebirth. We transform and reborn when we understand the conflicts of our shadow, let this part die and deliberately create a new personality for ourselves. For Scorpio rising, people naturally trigger their insecurities and shadow triggers. If these natives are self aware, they can do psychoanalysis and become self aware. Otherwise, if they are undeveloped, they will play mind games, be jealous, envious, full of hatred and resentment. These natives often hold a grudge against others as if the world has done them a lot of harm. They are the ones to write down what others said/did to them to keep scores in check.

Looks: Something about their eyes and stares is really captivating. People notice their eyes a lot. Their eyes tell a lot of stories. It is common for all Scorpio natives, whether rising or otherwise, to have captivating magnetic stares. It seems they try to bind you to a spell through eye contact. Whether they dress up like femme fatale is up to them. I think "femme fatale" vibe for Scorpio rising is too dramatic.

Hobbies: Darkness, horror, mystery, self expression. Anything to do with these things. They can portray self exploration theme in their art. They can be into psychology. They can be into horror movies or novels. They like to express themselves by changing their looks as their personality changes. They can also be into gore, dark, NSFW art.

Social life: I like to believe most of them are loners. They need solitude to shed their skin and reborn. Conflict and trauma brings out the worst in them and then it evolves them. They are the type of people to begin life with a new blank page after each event. For eg, after primary school/high school/college, I left behind all my classmates and connections to recreate myself and begin a new chapter of my life. I need that solitude and blankness to reborn.

Emotions: Thin skinned, very sensitive, they feel like they have a ball of emotions in their chest which contracts and expands as life passes by. Their emotions can be so intense that it hurts to touch. Most of the times, they are swimming in their emotions. They can be prone to dissociation. Sometimes they lack common sense. Impulsive and prone to act on emotions. This can be countered if they have other Earth placements that make them grounded and mature. They can also be very sensitive to the psyche of other people--they kmow what I am talking about.

A lot of people might complain that not all Scorpio people are intensely emotional, then in that case they should look at their other placements. Other elemental energy in chart makes them grounded and mature.

Life advice for 8th house natives:

The energy of the 8th house is very complicated. Most of the people around them react in a weird way towards them. They face rejection, neglect, humiliation since childhood. Often times they remain unaware of their childhood trauma that shaped their personality as adult.

Once they become aware of their subconscious, it is natural to harbour resentment and anger towards parents, family, friends, world, God, fate and life itself. These natives do face extreme reactions from people. If people are good to them, it is always because of some selfish interest. They either want their money or resource or sex or power or benefits. It creates a deep sense of mistrust and worthlessness in them.

One way to counter this situation is to lower your expectations from people and to not take life so seriously. Forgiveness is a decision. By forgiving, you do not necessarily forget. You remember but you have forgiven already. Every hurt is an opportunity to gain insights into yourself and become wiser of your inner world.

First step is to forgive. Not revenge but forgive. Not resentment but forgive. Not judge but forgive. Not gossip but forgive. Not angry but forgive. Not bitter but forgive. Not projection but forgive. Just forgive. End the cycle of karmic wheel then and there. I forgive you. Take this energy back. I have nothing to do with this karma anymore. I keep forgiving every minute of the day. I do not respond to your attacks. I simply forgive. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive.

This is hard. But this is possible. Forgiveness is not cowardice. By no means do I advocate being silent and bear injustice. But do not seek eye for an eye. Tell your thoughts with logic and rational, then forgive the person for doing/saying whatever they did/said.

If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.

anything that sounds too good to be true is probably a lie

media social media entertainment industry porn. they intentionally want to keep you hooked

romantic love consumerism any kind of relationships. they are not what they show themselves to be

spiritual religious self development communities. trust no one just because they have a good or moral image

every community curates its image for the rest of the world. the truth gets lost within the noise

everything around us is a lie. 1/100 times you meet a decent human and that too for a particular transaction

the most clean image good person you know can have the worst personal life behind the scenes

emotional abuse is so normalized that we dont even consider its impact on our psyche and self esteem. ever since I realized this, have distanced myself from music movies drama TV shows meme communities

success stories are highly curated. the author rarely remembers the bad days and success is more like walking in the dark with blindfolds but taking right turns anyhow

expectations lead to disappointment. external validation is a scam. never expect love or respect or anything from anyone. if someone shows you a lot of love, beware they are manipulating you

I dont know how much of this applies to others because a lot of people do actually have comfortable life themes so they will think I am being unnecessarily dark and gloomy. Me being an 8th house native have been through some shady sides of life. it was not a good ride but it did tell me a lot about the world around me.

we just dont expect anything bad will happen to us until it actually does happen. it didnt happen to our friends or loved ones, so it is not our concern. our brains are wired to be optimistic but life themes are crazy.

Friendly tips for emotional people/Scorpio/cancer/pisces placements/4th/8th/12th house placements:

I have observed that people who are emotional thinkers, who have Scorpio cancer pisces inner placements, who have planets in 4th 8th 12th houses often face problems in their social, family and friendly life. If the people in their environment are emotionally intelligent then it is good. Otherwise, they may face problems in expressing themselves.

Emotional thinkers act on their emotions rather than logic. The worst kind of audience for them is someone who is emotionally illiterate. These people will show no empathy, no remorse, no kindness. Air/Fire dominant people can be really cruel towards water people.

Water people are just more sensitive and perceptive than others. Air/Fire people can gossip, bully, ridicule, roast each other like it is nothing but water people take things to heart and get offended + defensive.

Air/fire people can also lie, gaslight, manipulate like it is nothing. They are naturally that way. Water people are prone to people pleasing and being submissive. People love to get emotional reaction from you. These are the people to cry over a puppy video and rage over slight threat.

Add to it childhood trauma, and water babies are fucked up. Now you have an emotionally sensitive person living on survival mode. Oh my my!

So how to deal with social life when you're a water baby?

Learn to control your emotions. I often mention this in my blog but how to do this? Water babies are deep into their emotions. This emotional intensity is their strength as well as their weakness. They feel deeply. I again and again advice studying stoicism. It will change your life. Practice controlling your emotions with your trustworthy friends and family.

Prioritize your needs and wants. Dont be a doormat for others. Serve yourself first then serve others. Air/Fire people naturally know they are self centered but water babies can be lost as to whom they are to serve. Dont be like "I do so much for you but you dont care".

Trust a person for their action and you will never be fooled by their words. Water babies really trust what others say. They are naive and sincere like that. It doesn't even cross their mind that others can lie and manipulate them. Beware of those who lie. They are sure to backbite you someday.

Not just their personality but their surroundings also is determined by their planets and placements. They can attract both wholesome and unwholesome people into their lives. How to avoid unwholesome people? Boundaries and self esteem. When you assert your boundaries, toxic people will leave you. If you have weak boundaries, they will eat you alive. Trust me, I know this 😢

Water babies are some of the most authentic people. They know who they are. If they find company of people who also water babies, they will flourish. Beware of narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths because they will cause you much karmic loss.

Learn about transactional relationships. Nothing is unconditional. Not even a mother's love. A mother loves her child because of natural connection, obligation, preservation of offspring and to fulfill her own emotional needs. Romantic relationships are transactions = companionship, conversations, mutual interests, similar traits, sexual needs, financial needs. Friendships are transactions: conversation, similar traits, companionship, learning and laughter. Please know that there is no such thing as unconditional love or devoted love. Learn self preservation.

Some of the closest people to me are the water babies. I often see them being bullied by air/fire placements. My loved ones toughened up and bore it. But soon we realized that the world can be a cruel place. Air/fire people know this. When they lack any water placements, they can be some of the most cruel people around you.

So, water babies, find company of fellow water babies and befriend them using aforementioned tips. Best of luck, sweeties! 💙

For undeveloped and immature astro:

--All water placements have a "favourite person" whom they are obsessed with. This person could be anyone or even an animal. If they analyse themselves, they will realize that their favourite person is actually their own traits. It is themselves whom they imagine and project on an external person.

--All fire placements have a "favourite person" person whom they mirror. They mirror the words, actions and style of that person. This person could be their parent/child/sibling/friend/partner/fiction role model or even imaginary person whom they mirror.

For some reason, these two elements have a fragile and unclear self image. They are also prone to be somewhere between the range of "borderline to narcissist" in Cluster B spectrum.

This is my observation of these placements. I am researching more into it.