If It Sounds Too Good To Be True, It Probably Is.

If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.

anything that sounds too good to be true is probably a lie

media social media entertainment industry porn. they intentionally want to keep you hooked

romantic love consumerism any kind of relationships. they are not what they show themselves to be

spiritual religious self development communities. trust no one just because they have a good or moral image

every community curates its image for the rest of the world. the truth gets lost within the noise

everything around us is a lie. 1/100 times you meet a decent human and that too for a particular transaction

the most clean image good person you know can have the worst personal life behind the scenes

emotional abuse is so normalized that we dont even consider its impact on our psyche and self esteem. ever since I realized this, have distanced myself from music movies drama TV shows meme communities

success stories are highly curated. the author rarely remembers the bad days and success is more like walking in the dark with blindfolds but taking right turns anyhow

expectations lead to disappointment. external validation is a scam. never expect love or respect or anything from anyone. if someone shows you a lot of love, beware they are manipulating you

I dont know how much of this applies to others because a lot of people do actually have comfortable life themes so they will think I am being unnecessarily dark and gloomy. Me being an 8th house native have been through some shady sides of life. it was not a good ride but it did tell me a lot about the world around me.

we just dont expect anything bad will happen to us until it actually does happen. it didnt happen to our friends or loved ones, so it is not our concern. our brains are wired to be optimistic but life themes are crazy.

Undeveloped, developing and developed energies in astrology:

I often see in astro world that people talk about how Aries, Libra, Gemini are this, that and whatever. Scorpio Pisces Capricorn are this, that and whatever. But according to me, the personality of a person is constantly evolving. So I like to break it down in three parts:

UNDEVELOPED ENERGY: Any planetary placement or sign if undeveloped can show its worst traits and characteristics. For eg, we often read how Scorpio are so loyal and devoted but they can also be the most cheaters and unfaithful if they are undeveloped and not self aware.

DEVELOPING ENERGY: This is where all of us are. We are a work in progress. We are living, learning, unlearning, learning again, exploring ourselves and experiencing life. Psyche has a life of its own.

DEVELOPED ENERGY: When a native has battled their worst traits and improved themselves through habits, inner work, discipline, authenticity, skills, knowledge, they show developed energy. They show the best qualities of their planets and signs because they have mastered their self and integrated their worst sides of traits. This is what it means to use astro for shadow work. So for eg, a Gemini placement can be grounded, less spoken, stable minded, organized (contrary to their image being scatterbrained, unstable, blabbering) because they have overcome the pull of the negative sides of their birth chart.

What I am saying might not make sense at first instance. But think about it. From birth, we are constantly evolving and growing. At different ages and life stages, we show different traits and personality. Our personality decides our career school studies relationships family life hobbies and quality of life.

I think that when the time period of any planet starts, the native begins to battle the low energy of that planet as per their birth chart which they battle and overcome. Then they see positive results in their life like improved relationship, improved mental health, improved finance, better job opportunities, etc.

8th house impacts our earnings because it's a house of self-worth and self-discernment

8th house is Opposing the 2nd house of our personality

8th house makes us see ourselves from the point of view of other people and challenges us to realise our own self-worth despite criticism of strangers

8th house is character and appearance traits that make people judge us the most because they don't express them as brightly as we do

Hi I just saw ur post about moon and Venus synastry in the 8th house. I also have a Venus 8th house and ur story feels so close to mine. But it was with my best friend and I was the narcissistic one. I feel unworthy and can’t find anyone else I could rly call my best friend. I have tried and it never works out. Do you ever feel like your love language is too much and overwhelming for others? Like I’m very self aware and spiritual as well and have improve this but others still seem bothered :/

Hi! While I dont give personal life advice but I dont think that narcissism goes away so easily. If you know that you're narcissistic then your love language is probably excessive admiration, words of praise and inflated ego. You're very self aware but let's dig down a little deeper. Narcissism develops in response to early childhood neglect, emotional abuse and undeveloped self.

I know quite a few narcissistic people who are self aware of their tactics and are also very religious. it just doesn't make any sense.

Astrologically, I know that aries placements especially Aries sun are narcissists!

I think you need to do more shadow work and bring more inner motivations to surface. You're full of anger, confusion, inferiority, powerlessness and insecurities. You have to realize that the only thing you have power over is your mind not other people. You dont own others and leading others will not fulfill you.

You probably need to lower your expectations and gain more self control. Not all of our desires are valid and relevant. Not all desires have to be fulfilled by others. I think that you're still seeing people in black and white. People have both good and evil parts in them. They might show their good side to some and evil side to others.

Analyze yourself. What do you talk about with others, what is your active imagination, what is your inner dialogue, what do you feel around others, how do you view yourself, do you have realistic expectations from life, do you live in fantasy world, do you expect perfection, do you seek utopia, do you want the world to be how you want, do you have FOMO, do you have an expressive relationship with your parents, are you wounded? Have you healed your emotional wounds?

Thanks for trusting that I might know answer to your question. Good luck.

Please do post about the physical appearance and sexuality of a 8 th house Venus female

Hi! Trigger warning: abuse.

Can astrology foretell physical appearance of a native?

Well, they look like their parents or their grandparents. I look like a mix of my father, his mother and some other traits here and there.

I have often read such posts where Libra/Taurus/etc celebrities pictures and aesthetics are posted about natives. Perhaps it resonates on a subconscious level. For eg, I am venus in 8th house lady and I can subconsciously relate to femme fatale siren vibes but I dont act or dress like that in real life. So, perhaps you can relate to the aesthetic on energy levels but it totally depends on you how you style yourself.

When it comes to my appearance though, yes, I do attract a lot of envy and irrational reactions from people. As if they see me and want to project all the negative things on me. I also attract many narcissistic people.

Something that I have done all my life, even before I knew astro, was that I loved making eye contact with boys. I was a little kid staring into the eyes of my crush. We would have staring competition and we just stared at each other. I love staring. Eye contacts are my favourite thing about a relationship.

Throughout my school and college life, I always had a fanboy. Always. When I was a little girl, boys would stalk my house, write my name on the board, tease me in front of class, play with me, sing dirty songs at me, adult men would touch me, lots of cheek kissing and touching. During my teenage years, I used to get cat called, two boys gave me their phone numbers written on paper, one boy in my class was devoted to me like a servant (yes, he was that devoted), I always had a boy in my class who was just obsessed with me. In senior school, there was a boy who literally stared at me like crazy. He was the boy for whom I started using astro to know about. He was born on 1st May and I thought he was Taurus. I used to calculate our zodiac love scores lol. Little did I know astrology is much more dense and elaborate.

During my undergrad college years, there were 3 boys who kept flirting with me. One classmate kept asking me to ask me out and I kept declining because of some insecurities. I used to use online chatrooms during this period and talked to many obsessive stalker men, including my 8th house synastry that I became obsessed with.

During my post graduation, I again had a boy calling me out of nowhere to talk to me for hours about college stuff. We were in lockdown at that time. Now I am graduated and single. I have overcome my obsession and now I just want to get married and settle down.

You can see what a rollercoaster my love life has been. I am average looking for my society's standards. Nothing sensational. I am cute, well shaped body though.

As for sexuality, I personally was hypersexual but now I have calmed down. A lot of these natives go into porn work. They also have casual hookups. If not this, they might have been sexualized as a child and also faced some kind of sexual abuse.

Do pay attention to the rest of your chart too. This post will be useful if you can relate to my experiences. A lot of things very based on the whole chart, cultural differences, society, family structure and personal destinies.

Moon in 8th house mothers: What you see is not what you get.

Natives with moon in 8th house have crazy mothers. Their mothers display symptoms of mental illnesses, NPD/BPD to be specific.

What mother is in public is very different from how she acts in private. Mother is neglectful towards emotional needs of the child. Mother is depressed and frustrated. The child has to cater to the emotional needs of the mother rather than vice versa. House environment is literally like walking on eggshells.

These mothers are unpredictable, people pleasers, deeply insecure and lonely. Their physical circumstances are such that they always wear a fake mask for the world and do not show their real face to anyone. The reason being that the mother is living on survival mode so she never learned who her authentic self is.

Moon in 8th house child eventually comes to realize their mother's reality. They end up on r/raisedbyborderline or r/raisedbynarcissist communities for example. They unlearn the trauma their mother gave them and relearn self soothing and self development skills. These natives also discover occult to understand their own feelings. I have two astro observations about natives who have moon in 8th house and how their mothers turned out to be:

In one astro observation, the mother is a pathological liar, manipulative, self centered. She lies about being religious and wise. She lies about her achievements and her family's status. She is very controlling and frustrated. A saint in public and a demon in private. This mother is the embodiment of 8th house darkness. This mother is not really nice. She sowed seeds of hatred in the heart of his brother against his wife and daughter so that she could control him.

In other astro obersation, the mother is short tempered, controlling, impulsive and self centered. She does not lie though her face is different for public v/s private. This mother is immature and unpredictable. Cheerful in public, though she can be gruelsome in private. This mother does not have much control over her relatives and is not exploitative. This mother minds her own business but is very moody and doesn't listen to anyone.

Both natives have moon in 8th house, but their mothers are different although similar undertones. These natives keep their family life secret because of psychic reasons. People will not trust them if they tell their mother's truth. These natives also realize that their mother's emotional abuse was a blessing in disguise for them. The silver lining is that they venture into occult to discover the truth and secrets of life. They go into emotional and spiritual healing. This privilege is not available to everyone.