If It Sounds Too Good To Be True, It Probably Is.

If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.

anything that sounds too good to be true is probably a lie

media social media entertainment industry porn. they intentionally want to keep you hooked

romantic love consumerism any kind of relationships. they are not what they show themselves to be

spiritual religious self development communities. trust no one just because they have a good or moral image

every community curates its image for the rest of the world. the truth gets lost within the noise

everything around us is a lie. 1/100 times you meet a decent human and that too for a particular transaction

the most clean image good person you know can have the worst personal life behind the scenes

emotional abuse is so normalized that we dont even consider its impact on our psyche and self esteem. ever since I realized this, have distanced myself from music movies drama TV shows meme communities

success stories are highly curated. the author rarely remembers the bad days and success is more like walking in the dark with blindfolds but taking right turns anyhow

expectations lead to disappointment. external validation is a scam. never expect love or respect or anything from anyone. if someone shows you a lot of love, beware they are manipulating you

I dont know how much of this applies to others because a lot of people do actually have comfortable life themes so they will think I am being unnecessarily dark and gloomy. Me being an 8th house native have been through some shady sides of life. it was not a good ride but it did tell me a lot about the world around me.

we just dont expect anything bad will happen to us until it actually does happen. it didnt happen to our friends or loved ones, so it is not our concern. our brains are wired to be optimistic but life themes are crazy.

The weakness of 8th house native/Scorpio placements

in my observation of these natives, if they have their moon or venus in the 8th house or scorpio sign, they tend to be very emotional rather than logical. I have seen a lot of them trusting people easily. After learning through their gullibility, they become cynic and dont trust easily again. So the stereotypical hard to trust image comes after many unwholesome experiences.

They are not very rational. They tend to hold on to grudges and revenge sentiment instead of letting go. They might push and pull, test your waters, play mind games to see if you abandon them. They crave deep emotional connection. They want to merge their souls with their loved ones. So when their parent, partner, sibling, friend, even pet show affection to others, they get very jealous and possessive. This is why they fear betrayal so much because they tend to invest their soul and heart into the beloved.

Their decisions are emotional not logical. They are the ones to love for person not the money. They are prone to fuck up many life choices because of impulsivity and lack of rational thinking. They use heart not mind. They are easy to manipulate because of their tendency to go with the feels.

Since they are so intense, most of the times they are lost in their feelings. They can't distinguish feelings from facts. Their perception is clouded by feelings and they wonder why others are not as emotional as them. The positive side is that they can be genuinely empathetic, kind, devoted. The negative side is that the world can be cruel and selfish to them.

They need to acknowledge and treasure their nature. Realize that your gift of emotional depth was not given to you to let others use you. But to explore your spiritual nature, occult gifts and metaphysical experience of life. Scorpio is the most spiritual sign. It can open the gates of enlightenment.

I dont know if moksha is possible but I do know that self realization is pretty close to moksha. Please understand, scorpio people, that you're different from others. Give them a very successful and handsome person but they will love that person for their soul bond and emotional connection not their money or status. This can be their weakness because the world does not work like that. They have to be transactional. Do not be a doormat otherwise you ill only get sorrow and disappointment.

You just pinpointed my other side of the world in that maladaptive daydreaming post. I have Saturn in 5th conj moon and venus in cancer in sidereal which makes it fall in 4th conj moon in tropical. Thank you for that post. I've been working on it for a long time

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Hi!

Maladaptive daydreaming is a really complicated issue. Moon and venus in cancer along with Saturn--how is your sensitivity antenna? Do you get triggered easily? Do you take offence easily?

I daydream a lot when I have been triggered. The trigger is almost always some kind of insult or humiliation or criticism or rejection. I used to aggressively daydream revenge fantasies. I wanted to settle scores and shut up everyone with my speech.

But the world won't change to accommodate me. I cannot afford to waste any more time in ruminating about past. I think there are some people who are more prone to attract negative interactions with people. These people need to learn to toughen up and harden their skin. Dont take things to heart. It is your life theme to face bad experiences with people. But how people treat you is a reflection of themselves.

For undeveloped and immature astro:

--All water placements have a "favourite person" whom they are obsessed with. This person could be anyone or even an animal. If they analyse themselves, they will realize that their favourite person is actually their own traits. It is themselves whom they imagine and project on an external person.

--All fire placements have a "favourite person" person whom they mirror. They mirror the words, actions and style of that person. This person could be their parent/child/sibling/friend/partner/fiction role model or even imaginary person whom they mirror.

For some reason, these two elements have a fragile and unclear self image. They are also prone to be somewhere between the range of "borderline to narcissist" in Cluster B spectrum.

This is my observation of these placements. I am researching more into it.

Scorpio placements really need to calm the kid down

These are some of the most dramatic people in astro world. One can call them a puppy--they are that intense, spontaneous and maniac.

An undeveloped scorpio though could be really problematic. They are intense, impulsive, rash, defensive, possessive, irrational, emotional, attention seeker, controlling, manipulative and drama queens. It is not their fault either. Most scorpio placements have problems with people. People treat them to the extreme levels. They are ridiculed, bullied, hated for no reason and dismissed or ignored. As a result, growing up, they become defensive and live on survival mode.

What they need to learn is to calm down their inner child. The philosophy of tao teaches to go with the flow. Similarly, stoicism teaches us to follow reason and virtues. They will benefit the most from studying stoicism because it is all about learning to manage your emotions. A Stoic doesn't act on their emotions but evaluates the choices in front of them and work according to the virtues.

One problem that these natives often face is the problem of emotional thinking. They are not logical. They might even lack common sense sometimes. I have observed that these natives are some of the most irrational people in decision making. Their mind works emotionally and not rationally. If they feel something they act on it. They dont stand to think why they are feeling that way and whether it is proper to react to this situation.

Often these natives are born to parents who also have similar placements so it is also a learned behaviour and thought process for these natives. You can really learn to control your emotions by altering your thought process. For eg, start calculating the cost benefit analysis of your actions. Texting that crush out of maniac episode? Picking up fight over random nothing? Eating tubs of ice cream on a sad evening? Falling in love with a man you met last week? Breaking up with your partner to test their commitment? These are unnecessary tactics. It shows lack of self control. It shows lack of maturity.

Scorpio placements have the best potential to do psychoanalysis and shadow work because of their proponsity to be in touch with their feelings. But it is only possible once they lose the fear of not having control, abandonment, playing mind games, rejection, criticism, etc. Your fears are defense mechanism.

Another mindset these natives have is the mind of perfection/idealization. They idealize even worship their partner. In terms of career, studies and lifestyle as well, they have perfectionist expectations and delusional thinking. No, other people are not perfect. Grass is not greener on the other side. Every single person has shadow side, darkness, flaws, faults, mistakes. Anyone who pretends to be perfect is fooling you, whether on media or in reality. These natives have parents who also had unrealistic perfectionist expectations from them so they grow up thinking this is the norm of life. It is not.

These natives also struggle with trusting too easily. There is a sort of naivety and gullibility in them like a little toddler who trusts people blindly. They might have black and white thinking. They either see people as all good or all bad depending upon how they make them feel. They are prone to exploitation and manipulation because of gullibility and naivety. I am not even making it up. Observe any Scorpio placement native in your life. They all show the same intensity.

This distinguishes them from other "maniac" energy signs like Gemini Libra or Aquarius. Scorpio native is gifted in occult if only they learn to get handle on their emotions. Air signs are not naturally into occult.

You can learn to calm down and savor the little blessings of life. Accept the people for who they are. Do not wear your heart on your sleeves.

Can astrology pinpoint the tendency to do maladaptive daydreaming?

Maladaptive daydreaming is a chronic habit of daydreaming vivid imaginary world, characters and stories. The dreamer acts out the scenes, imagines plot in head, isolates themselves, spends hours and hours replaying the scenes in their head. It is highly addictive and satisfying. The dreamer finds more excitement in daydreams than in reality. The dreamer imagines romantic partner, storylines and dialogues in their head. This is not a mental disorder yet but it can ruin a person's life by distracting them from work and school, isolating from relationships and addiction to daydreaming.

This type of maladaptive daydreaming happens as a result of childhood abuse or emotional neglect or emotional invalidation or emotional abuse or loneliness. The dreamer imagines themselves to be popular loveable well liked cool smart famous multitalented etc. Their imaginary character is everything they want to be. It is like that movie the fight club:

Why does this happen though and can we pinpoint this in astrology?

Pisces sign and 12th house are both related to daydreaming and imagination. This is where they zone out into another world. Add to it, emotional trauma and the result is maladaptive daydreaming.

In one case, the native with Saturn in pisces in the 5th house was a maladaptive daydreamer lifelong. Saturn in 5th house shows restricted childhood, confinement, not allowed freedom and independence, strict and controlling childhood. Pisces sign is again the representation of imagination and daydreaming. This shows that the native started daydreaming as a defense mechanism against childhood abuse. As life goes on, it becomes an addictive habit. Some people start writing novels from their behaviour but I dont know if it is acceptable. If it works for them then good, otherwise it is something that you must fix.

I will add more observations for this placement when I find them.

This is the problem then what is the solution?

Psychologist Eli Somer is the forerunner of studying maladaptive daydreaming. One suggestion he has is mindfulness. But it is easy to say than practice. How do you reach the point of mindfulness? By breaking yourself down to pieces. Understand your projections and the projections of those around you. Build self esteem and balanced self concept. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Learn the shit out of narcissism; your daydreams are highly narcissistic in nature. This is a guarantee. Socialize and practice new interpersonal skills. Change your environment and live in a safe normal environment free of abuse. Stay grounded in reality.

Wish you the best in healing!