One Thing I'm Noticing In Some Of The Fandom Reactions To This Breakup And The Aftermath Is That The

One thing I'm noticing in some of the fandom reactions to this breakup and the aftermath is that the characters have been put on a pedestal and are being judged against some pretty unrealistic standards. They get raked over the coals for every single mistake. I've seen it with both characters but recently I've seen it the most with Tim.

Don't get me wrong, in no way am I condoning his current behavior. He's made multiple mistakes and he's broken Lucy's trust and her heart. He absolutely needs to be held accountable for all of these things and he owes her an apology and that adult conversation and a whole lot more if they're gonna be able to be together again.

But what he's doing right now, his imperfect actions as he navigates this period of his life... it's very human. This is a man who is at rock bottom, and when you're drowning in the weight of your own trauma like he is, you often don't have the strength to see beyond that and understand how your actions are impacting the people around you. He's not being cruel (which, by the way, implies intentionality to one's actions) by breaking up with her or denying her that conversation. He's drowning.

He truly can't see that she's *not* better off without him. He can't see how much he's hurt her, and that he continues to hurt her with his actions. I don't even think he could answer her questions right now about why he did what he did, because he doesn't fully understand it himself. He can't see anything beyond his own lack of self-worth. Right now, expecting him to be able to fully comprehend what he's done and why is completely unrealistic.

Now, does this excuse his behavior? Absolutely not. But it does explain it.

And the thing that's bothering me the most is the posts saying Tim doesn't deserve Lucy's forgiveness. This is a man who has completely fallen apart but is finally taking the first steps toward healing. Shouldn't he be given a chance at redemption before being written off as unforgivable? And shouldn't Lucy be the one to decide whether to forgive him?

Again, I'm not defending his actions. He has a lot of work to do on himself and he has a lot of work to do to gain back Lucy's trust. It's not going to be easy. But to say he doesn't deserve forgiveness without even giving him a chance? That's pretty harsh. He doesn't deserve to spend the rest of his life being defined by his worst moments. No one does.

"You can choose to see that tattoo as your greatest failure. But I see it as proof that you're a survivor. It wasn't your day of death, Officer Chen. It was the first day, of the rest of your life. And no one can take that away from you."

FUN FACT FRIDAY!!! What’s one fun fact about you that you haven’t shared with us yet?

Hmmmm…

I grew up in a middle class family with five younger siblings in Washington state. We lived comfortably. I always had enough clothing and food. It was a good life. But we never did anything big or exciting or traveled much. When I graduated from high school, I had only been to 7 states. The furthest EAST I had traveled was Wyoming, which is solidly in the west. I had only been on an airplane once to fly to college.

Then I served a mission for my church in Korea for 18 months in the middle of my college years. My time there really turned on my desire to see more of the world.

I studied my heinie off to get into medical school and spent the meager amount I made by working part-time in college to fly around for interviews.

I moved to Upstate New York for med school where I met my husband. He’s half Japanese and spent half of his life in Japan and half in the US. He grew up traveling a lot more than I did with all the moving he did growing up.

We now live comfortably in the Midwest with our 4 sons. We are able to do SO much more than I did growing up. We travel and do all sorts of interesting and fun activities. I’ve now been to 47 states and 16 countries. Even my youngest, who is 4 years old, has been to 34 states and 6 countries.

Travel gets me away from my neverending to do list and my very demanding and tiring work environment. It’s the break I need for my mental health and well being. It’s one of the things that brings me great joy. I gave up my 20s for my education, but now I have a job that I love and get to see and do really cool things.

I don’t know if that’s the type of thing you wanted for this question, but there you go.

Do you want to share a fun fact about yourself??

Whoa. There’s a lot to analyze here.

" Lucy, I've been lying to myself for a long time. "

Tim's struggle to move up + putting Lucy over himself\his career.

WAIT, WAIT, WAIT…

I just realized something. Kojo came to the door just a minute after Lucy entered her apartment. That means Tim and Kojo were probably already there just waiting for her to show up. Somehow that makes that scene soooo much more sweet to me.

If you could bring back any character for another episode who would it be? Can be a guest star, a dead character, or someone from rookie Feds

I would 100% bring back Jackson West. He added a decent amount of humor. He was a great support for Lucy. His character wasn’t super complicated (like Tim is turning out to be), but he had his struggles. I know Aaron is sort of his replacement, but I would take Jackson back in a heartbeat. Plus, he added some LGBQ flair to an otherwise hetero cast.

Honorable mention goes to Captain Zoe Andersen. I loved her character and was shocked at her untimely death.

Hopeful mention goes to Genny Bradford. I think especially with Tim’s more complicated storylines, I would LOVE to see her come back to talk to him and give him some unconditional love and advice like only a close sibling can.

Thanks for the question, Anon!