Would You Consider It A Red Flag If Someone In Your Fandom Said "____should Never Be Glorified/romanticized/portrayed

Would you consider it a red flag if someone in your fandom said "____should never be glorified/romanticized/portrayed positively in fic because young readers might believe this is what a healthy relationship looks like"? Or am I just paranoid about seeing antis everywhere? (not in the mood to be shamed/called out if someone went digging for the (relatively tame yet still unhealthy irl) kind of fic I write)

Most blatantly, yes.

Far too often fiction is deemed as the topmost or sole source of what we as people and society reference as what is 'normal' or what is to be idolised or idealised by, quite frankly, idiots. Its the same mentality as 'seeing boys kiss will make you gay.' They're essentially just claiming that people inherently lack the ability to think for themselves and will adopt what they see in fiction as a direct translation of reality.

This does, however, largely stem from our appalling global educational systems and online culture and religious oppression.

Fantasising about unrealistic relationships and relationship dynamics is nothing new, dangerous or damning. Trying to blame and condemn fiction as 'glorifying' anything because its romanticized or dramatized is just poor critical thinking skills, a lack of media literacy and frankly the poor ability to just have fucking fun.

Fiction is not inherently propaganda. It should not be treated as such. Fiction is not reality. It should not be treated as such. A reader's inability to healthily consume fiction is not the fault of the creator.

Frankly, if young people are reading or watching fiction and absorbing the stories as actual teachings and influences, that is a failure of a much larger system. And also an individual flaw.

If people are attempting to hold you responsible for the education of younger generations through your fanfiction, just block them or remove their comments. Or, do what I do, and simply reply back with multiple links to sources evidencing the contrary. And then block them.

tbh all the people complaining about "i NEED to vent in non-vent spaces" reek of selfishness and narcissism. there's a server i'm in with two vent spaces. one is 18+ because there's an 18+ section. legit watched one person vent about another who couldn't see the 18+ section. using it to deliberately hide from them. despite the fact. yknow. DMs with other people exist. small group chats can be made at any time. nope! have to vent in this subsection where the members who can see both vent chats can report me for it.

Yeah, internal member conflict is another reason why honestly things like venting channels and negativity spaces in open-access things like Discord servers are just.... Not a good idea, no matter how therapeutic or helpful or easy to ignore you think they are.

Allowing members to just spew out negativity and complaints and toxic thoughts just allows other people to respond to them. I've lost count of how many times I've seen someone venting and someone else has started commenting lashing out at the original person or accusing them of bad behavior or blaming them for what happened. Then other members pile in to agree or disagree and before you know it half the server is at verbal war.

Its just not healthy for anyone involved. If you try to outlet your emotions and get shut down, its going to impact you worse in the long run. It is absolutely more beneficial to privately release your thoughts and use those public spaces in order to farm more positive outlets and distractions.

E.g; keep a diary. Write down all your bad shit then go to the Discord server and say hey, I've had a bad day, spam me with fun shit to cheer me up. Find something worthwhile to engage with. Have a fun, dynamic conversation with other people.

I think far too many people think the only proper way to process and move on from negativity is to involve other people and actively dissect it and honestly, it really isn't. Especially when other people already have their owns shares of misery and suffering.

has anyone brought you being proship into it ?

https://www.tumblr.com/myfandomrealitea/751733048900452352/excuses-ive-heard-for-people-who-think-needing-a?source=share

Yep.

"If you're a proshipper you should kill yourself!"

Sure, but I have social anxiety and I can't do it alone so I'll have to kill you at the same time.

Antis are so obsessed with children that it's frightening. They shouldn't be that obsessed. It gives some thought. Were the antis really paedophiles?

The thing I've always found most ironic is the fact that antis often use "proshipper spaces are used to groom children!" as a gotcha tagline, while steadfast refusing to understand that their spaces are also used to groom children, abuse children and vulnerable people, and that antis have collectively shared more real life child pornography than proshipping spaces ever have.