Radkittyphantom - La Alienígena

If you had a houseplant, you'd look after it. You'd water it every other day, you'd check for discoloration, you'd throw open the windows to make sure it got enough sunshine and air. You'd hum a tune while you admired its leaves and nip in the bud what is bound to disease it. Yet you forget to do the very same things for your heart.

Ibn Abbas reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

رَبِّ اجْعَلْنِي لَكَ شَكَّارًا لَكَ ذَكَّارًا لَكَ رَهَّابًا لَكَ مِطْوَاعًا لَكَ مُخْبِتًا إِلَيْكَ أَوَّاهًا مُنِيبًا رَبِّ تَقَبَّلْ تَوْبَتِي وَاغْسِلْ حَوْبَتِي وَأَجِبْ دَعْوَتِي وَثَبِّتْ حُجَّتِي وَسَدِّدْ لِسَانِي وَاهْدِ قَلْبِي وَاسْلُلْ سَخِيمَةَ صَدْرِي

"O Lord, make me grateful to you, mindful of you, fearful of you, obedient to you, humble to you, turning to you and repenting. O Lord, accept my repentance, wash away my sin, answer my supplication, establish my proof, direct my tongue, guide my heart, and remove the hatred from my chest."

— [Tirmidhi]

What else but these remembrances (adhkār) are medicines of the heart? Gratitude. Repentance. Awe of God. Love of God. Supplication. Good speech and conduct. Guidance. Cleansing of the heart. That's the prescription.

Things that take time & many tries to get right:

learning to be a good friend/partner

healing from depression, failures or heartbreak

becoming amazing at an art or skill

overcoming anxiety, insecurities and low body image

overcoming the need to isolate yourself

changing self-hating thoughts to kinder ones

making a real connection with someone

overcoming self-defeating and self-sabotaging thoughts

learning how to study effectively

finding a sense of stability and calmness at your core

quitting habits or addictions

leaving people and behaviours that turn you into the worst version of yourself

getting used to healthier coping mechanisms & mindsets that feel fake

treating yourself like you truly care about yourself

becoming the person you always wanted to be

me to myself: relax

also me to myself: i cannot 

God has guaranteed you sustenance (rizq), so don't wear yourself out worrying about your future. You are being taken care of by the best of caretakers. Focus simply on your efforts and strive hard.

The human realm is the realm of effort, and human effort is limited to acquiring of the means. The realm of the ends and outcomes is the realm of Allah. Say insha'Allah and wake up every day with hope in your heart.

Very well said.

It is said: when your way of thinking exceeds your appearance in politeness, your feelings are more fragrant than your perfume, and your manners are more attractive than your looks - only then will you become elegant.