Eclipse Para :: A Flag/term For Paraphiles Who Don't Take Shit From Non-paras And Paramisics And Stand

✧ eclipse para :: a flag/term for paraphiles who don't take shit from non-paras and paramisics and stand up for themselves and their community.

eclipse paraphiles want to see paraphiles be liberated (not in the sense of allowing problematic contact to happen) and don't bend over backwards or throw eachother under the bus to appeal to non-paraphiles.

eclipse paraphiles are anti-assimilationism. they are also profiction and pro-roleplay and any other coping mechanisms and any other coping mechanisms that one may use as a harmless alternative to contact.

(consider us the "mean lesbians" of the para community. also calling yourself an eclipse para doesn't mean you can't also be another para sublabel, unless the para sublabel contradicts the values of eclipse para and i won't be making eclipse alternatives of existing paraphilia flags.)

pro-contacts, radqueers and radpara this is not your flag.

I'm going to put this as nicely as possible.

You're fifteen, according to your bio/pinned post. I'm 30. I have been alive literally twice the time you've been alive in this world. You are a baby queer. I don't mean that demeaningly. I mean this as to say this - you don't know smack about the LGBTQ world beyond the walls of the internet, maybe a queer club at your local school (high school if you're in the USA).

The online and club spaces for the LGBTQ world are so incredibly sanitized, period.

No, bi lesbians and their sister labels (pan lesbians, omni lesbians, polysexual lesbians, straightbians, fagdykes, lesboys, asexual lesbians, aromantic lesbians, etc.) ARE NOT putting their lesbian/dyke sisters in danger, period.

Pushing that the idea of "m spec lesbian" is somehow damaging...

victim blaming for ladies attempted to be 'forced converted' by straight men

Xenophobic towards MANY global gender IDs that are specific to certain cultures (2-spirit for indigenous USA tribes, Hijra in India, etc.)

Shifts the blame from the rapist to the victim, regardless of circumstances

Also minimizes the fact that asshole men are going to be asshole men, regardless of whoever they're being a jerk to. A jerk is going to be an asshole, regardless.

The idea of a "m spec lesbian" has been around FOR YEARS. Documented since at LEAST the 1950s.

I strongly recommend reading "Stone Butch Blues" and "The Stonewall Generation" as well as "PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality"

You might get lucky and find them at your local library. There's a free PDF floating around of Stone Butch Blues. I got Stonewall Generation by going to a LIVE PRIDE event that was local. You should be able to find them on Google Shopping, Amazon, Ebay, and/or Mercari.

Human sexuality is complicated, period. Many women who were exclusively (or almost exclusively) attracted to other women often paired up with men for the sake of affection, protection, and companionship rather than genuine attraction (Elenor Roosevelt and Virginia Woolf are the first two famous people who come to mind). Also, Kristen Stewart recently came out as a bi lesbian in a recent interview.

We exist, period. NO ONE is helping by LGBTQ identity policing. Y'all are only hurting yourself. PLEASE talk to real life queer people face to face, beyond the safety net of social media and school clubs. You will learn so much.

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Just an FYI to any of my followers. I am proship and propara. I support the Big 3. I support pro/complex (nonsexual/romantic) contact.

I myself am zoo and pedo and complex contact but non-offending.

I DO NOT support CSA, grooming, CSEM/CSAM, or animal abuse. I DO NOT support any pedophiles or zoophiles that offend. I would NEVER harm another living being, and don't condone doing so.

I am open to genuine discussion about my views and attractions. I AM NOT open to hate and ableism, and will freely block anyone who engages in such.

Other info about me:

Proship

Transspecies

Transage

Proconsang

Antiabuse

Autistic