Mspec Lesbian - Tumblr Posts

Hi, thanks for wanting to learn! Honestly, as a man adjacent person who lives as a man, my interest in women has never stopped feeling queer despite my relationship with manhood, and my connection with the lesbian label has not ever really gone away even as I started figuring out the specifics of my sexuality such as my place on the aroace and multi spectrums. I experience the split attraction model too, so I consider myself an aroace m-spec lesboy as well as aroace m-spec gay. Have you ever heard of 'everyone who is into me is gay'? It's like that but more 'it feels gay no matter who I'm talking about'.

I really want some m-spec gays & lesbians and turigirls and lesboys to talk to me about why they use those labels. (if you're comfortable)

I'm freshly out of a friendgroup that was anti "contradictory" labels and am trying to break that thought process.

Also because I may or may not be having a sexuality crisis but that's besides the point

how about instead of siding with queerphobes with this 'invalid' shit we as a community actually start behaving like a community. Ya know, like uplifting your fellow queer individuals and standing up for them instead of crucifying them for their identity you don't understand. Stop siding with a cishet queerphobe when the target is a 14 year old with nounself pronouns, or an adult lesboy with xenogenders, or, or, or. Stop acting like your identity is the only one worthy of respect.

instead of obsessing over not centering men in lesbianism, you can just be a lesbian. ironically, all this 'non-man x non-man' and 'men can't be lesbians' shit centers men more than just acknowledging that, sometimes, men exist within lesbianism, and that doesn't mean that all lesbians must kiss men NOW.

I got a coward in my inbox crying about how a certain post (link) of mine sounds like 'conversion therapy' before supposedly blocking me, lol. at some point closemindedness and lack of reading comprehension ceases to be my problem, but as I have issues with how I worded things anyway I'm making this post.

when I said, 'give me more lesbians who date men, too' and 'give me gay men who also date women happily', I did not mean 'all lesbians and gay men should do this'. I know that some people would take it that way regardless of if I worded it better, but I was referring to mspec lesbians and gays being more out and proud with how they break the norms of what's expected of them as lesbians and gays. regardless of if you think these people are 'just bisexual', at the end of the day there are lesbians who date men and gay men who date women. again, this doesn't mean every single lesbian and gay does this or is obligated to do so, and I hate that my little post about inclusion and celebration of all queerness was taken as me trying to force queer people to do things they don't want to. I hate that I even feel the need to explain myself.

Alas, misconceptions are to be expected if your post is put on the radar of exclusionists. I could have worded it like 'allow the lesbians that want to date men to do so and let the gay men who want to date women do so, too' but I'm sure a problem would arise from that as well. It's saddening, as well as irritating, that there are people who go out of their way to misunderstand an inclusive post, but that's also why making these kinds of posts is important. It is important to stand in the face of exclusionary rhetoric and say 'we exist'. in a world that wants all queer people dead, it is important to uplift those who feel outcasted by our own community, and I don't care if I sound like a broken record here. I will never stop unapologetically being in the corners of m-spec lesbians and gays, lesboys and turigirls, and all of the other queer individuals that are pushed away for being too 'complicated', 'contradictory', and/or 'invalid'.

we exist, we will continue to exist, and we have always existed. we are as worthy of support and respect of our identities as anyone else. no identity is more worthy of scrutiny than another, and the true homophobia/queerphobia is pretending that there is a single 'invalid' queer person.

'Here in my country, the word lesbian has a rigid definition' okay, that doesn't change the fact that words are made up and experiences are infinitely more real.

every time someone hates on mspec lesbians an angel loses its wings

these people will actually tell queer people not to interact and think they aren't queerphobic. god bless, some people are really stupid

”mspec lesbians and lesboys DNI” BOOOOO!! 🍅 BOOOO!!!! 🍅 🍅 🍅

jesus christ i do not have enough spoons for the hate i'm getting in my inbox for being a lesboy my identity has nothing to do with you..!

I had no idea ftmtf was a thing that is literally me???

"We need more weird queer people!"

Yall can't accept lesboys and turigirls

Yall can't accept mspec gays and lesbians

Yall can't accept cistrans people

Yall can't accept FtMtF trans women and MtFtM trans men

Yall can't accept intersex people who aren't cis or trans

Yall can't accept transfemmascs

Yall can't accept gaybians

Yall can't accept neurogender people

Yall can't accept loveless aros

Yall can't accept aplatonics

Yall can't accept xenogenders

Yall can't accept cis non-binary people

Yall can't even accept straight trans folks.

Vee from Dandy’s World is an omni-lesbian

Velvette from Hazbin Hotel is a bi lesbian

Folly from Regretevator is a a-enby aroace omni-lesbian

Bive from Regretevator (Roblox) is a gendervoid bi-lesboy

Mach from Regretevator (Roblox) is an agenderfluid aroace omni-lesbian

Loona from Helluva Boss is a bi-lesbian

Scraps from Dandy’s World (Roblox) is a pan lesbian

Helsa Von Eldrich from Hazbin Hotel is a poly-lesbian aroaceflux

Emma from Total Drama (The Ridonculous Race) is a bi-lesbian

Gwen from Total Drama is a Omni-lesbian

Mabel Pines from Gravity Falls is a bi-lesbian