Rant Time:

Rant Time:

Okay, so I have seen some posts circling around Tumblr defending white-washed fancasts of the Sand Snakes, particularly Nymeria and Tyene.  They try and justify the white-washing by saying that Nymeria is described as having “milk-pale skin” and Tyene as having green eyes and blond hair.  First of all, George RR Martin has said that Nymeria looks like Janina Gavankar:

She is most definitely not a white woman, and is 100x hotter than Gemma fucking Arterton wearing brownface in the Prince of Persia.  .  Fancasting a white person to play a mixed character erases part of their identity, and that shit is fucking racist.  A lot of mixed-race people can be described as having milk-pale skin, but that does not make them white.  Case in point:

All of these people have milk-pale skin and are mixed, not white.  Similarly, having blond hair and/or blue or green eyes does not automatically mean a character is white:

A large part of Tyene’s identity comes from being the daughter of a Dornishman.  She should be played by a mixed actress in order to reflect that.  I am fine with a white-passing mixed woman playing Tyene, but Gemma Arterton, Jennifer Lawrence, and Katie McGrath are not mixed and are therefore inappropriate choices for Sand Snakes/Martell women.  

Seriously, stop using white actresses for these characters.  Literally every major character in the series outside of Dorne is white.  If you want to use Gemma Arterton, Jennifer Lawrence, or Katie McGrath in your fancasts so badly, use them for characters that aren’t from Dorne.  I think that all three of those actresses could work as Lyanna Stark, Asha Greyjoy (since so many people hate the actress on the show), or Val.  I also think Lawrence and McGrath could work as Mya Stone.  You should use women of color to represent the Sand Snakes/Martell women.  Please just fucking stop with the whitewashing.  

I want to tell y’all a story about supporting and loving your partner, starring my amazing wife.

I’ve mentioned before that I had an eating disorder for many years, and though I consider myself “recovered” there are aspects of my disorder that I still struggle with today — being quite a bit heavier than my wife is one of them.

When my wife and I moved in together back when we were still girlfriends, I was at my skinniest. She used to pick me up all the time and lift me off the ground, and I’d laugh and kick out my legs ‘cause I was just delighted to have her holding me.

But I started gaining weight as I went through recovery, and where once we were pretty close in size, I began to get bigger. And bigger. And bigger. And she remained her naturally petite self. I began to almost dread when she’d try to pick me up, sure that this time she wouldn’t be able to get me off the ground.

But every time, even if I protested, she’d lift me up and say something like: “See, you’re not so big that I can’t lift you!”

And one time I just blurted out: “But someday I’m going to be so fat you won’t be able to.”

She looked me dead in the eye and said: “No you won’t. Because if that ever happens, I’ll start working out.”

It was the best possible thing she could have said to me, because she wasn’t saying I wasn’t going to get fat — neither of us knew that for sure. She was just saying that I was never going to be “too fat” for her.

And every time I worry about getting bigger, I remember that I’ll never be so big that she can’t lift me, because baby knows how much I love being held, and she’ll change her own habits to ensure that I never feel “too big” or “too heavy” because in her eyes I’ll never be “too” anything.

Anyway, there’s a moral to this story: Find yourself a partner who will never consider you an excess. You should never be “too much” to someone who loves you — too big, too loud, too passionate, too awkward, whatever your “too” happens to be. And even as you change and grow (in my case, literally), the right person will be there through the changes, to tell you that you’re always just right for them.

No snark, no smart assery, no douchebaggery today, just making sure you all know condoms are one time use only cuz this was a scary headline.

Esti Ginzburg as Tyene Sand

Best advice my 19 year old roommate gave me

“Just give him three days. Wait three days, no texts, no calls, no nothing. Then see if he comes back” “What if I can’t wait three days tho??” “You see the thing is, you keep running back to him and he gets off on it. He knows he’s gonna have you coming back to him. Why not give him three days and make him realize, oh shit it’s serious, I’m really losing her!” “What if he doesn’t even come back?” “Then why would you wanna be with someone that doesn’t want you? Why would you wanna be with someone like that?”

Favorite ASOIAF characters 1/?: Tyene Sand