Hey, If You're An Adult Who Identifies With Xenogenders, Please Know That You're Not Being Immature Or

Hey, if you're an adult who identifies with xenogenders, please know that you're not being immature or childish. It's not childish to feel like your gender is better represented by a constellation, feels more like an abandoned house, and sounds like that one specific song you've been listening to. It's not immature to see your gender as a dinosaur, or a neon radioactive cat.

The 'hey that person who's catgender is 15 years old and neurodivergent!' argument, while made with the intention of legitimizing xenogenders, doesn't do justice to ALL xenic experiences. I know multiple xenic adults. Hell, I knew someone who was, like, 26 at the time I was in contact with them. You're never too old to identify with one, two, or THOUSANDS of xenogenders. Please remember that.

-a xenic adult

[Banner ID: DNI system/queer exclusionists, TERFs/SWERFs, truscum/transmeds, anti recovery for harmful paraphilia, anti otherkin, anti self dx, pro cringe culture, pro-lifers, anti xenogender. A more detailed DNI is in my pinned post. End ID]

I love when I come across posts like this. I love traumagenic and endogenic / other origin solidarity so much like it's such a breath of fresh air.

Thank you, op/gen

We are a traumagenic system. When we see lists of the types of childhood traumas that when experienced regularly throughout childhood can cause Plurality to form, they read like I'm supposed to be picking the one or two that I didn't suffer through my entire childhood. I needed my system to survive. I still do.

Seeing the exclusionist behavior of sysmeds disgusts me. If you categorically exclude a group for having a different experience from you, you are not welcome. If you are anti endogenic, anti tulpa, anti willogenic, anti mspec lesbian, anti bisexual lesbian, any form of this exclusionist bigoted crap, you are not welcome.

We may not be endogenic, but we know the reek of bigotry when we come across it. This blog is and will forever be safe for and an ally to all types of systems and all types of queers, save for judgmental pricks.

This song slaps and I'm tired of pretending it doesn't:

CAN YOU SEE ALL OF ME? WALK INTO MY MYSTERY. STEP INSIDE AND HOLD ON FOR DEAR LIFEEE. DO YOU REMEMBER ME—

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From people who are against men being lesbians, their opinions about male/female multigender lesbians seems to fall into one of two categories:

"They can be lesbians even though they're men, because being multigender means they're not REALLY men," or

"They can't be lesbians even though they're literally women attracted to women, because being multigender means they're not REALLY women."

And both are shitty! It's not enough to validate someone's male identity or their lesbian identity- unless you validate both, you're being a transphobic asshole, full stop. And there's no way to validate both aspects of a multigender male lesbian's identity if you believe men can't be lesbians.

I'm a mean lesboy personally. :)<-unintentionally ominous smiley lmfao

mean & nice lesboy flags!!

meanings:

original darker shaded mean lesboy flag. I changed it bc it lost the original blue it had in favor for white

original nice lesboy flag. I changed it bc I felt like it didn't potray the "nice" part enough

I'm working on making a twibbon for it, the site is just being uncooperative at the moment!

Aaaa I want to that person for some random kid one day, too jedbjdb

i work at what's essentially a day camp.

a child came out of the closet to me today. he said he's aroace like me. I saw the smile arc across his face when he heard me get excited at what he said. he's not a shy boy, but he's soft spoken and doesn't really hang out with many of the other kids. but he's gotten comfortable with me. and when he whispered in my ear today that he's known he's queer and aroace for two years, it made me happy to be the adult that he could rely on. I'm becoming the queer adult that little queer me needed. it's healing. and its making sure that the damage is never done to him in the first place.

protect queer children.