Being A Great Dad Doesn't Mean Taking Your Kids To The Park Once And Calling It "babysitting" While Your

Being a great dad doesn't mean taking your kids to the park once and calling it "babysitting" while your wife does the rest of the parenting.

Being a great dad means finding a little girl in the aftermath of the apocalypse and taking it upon yourself to raise her the best you can even though your mind is decaying and there's no one to help you, but still doing all you can to make her laugh, putting on puppet shows for her, teaching her morality and fighting zombies to get soup for her when she's sick. Thank you for coming to my TED talk.

Gwen may have forgiven her dad for almost shooting her but there's no way in hell Hobie did. Gwen spent months away from home, and she spent most of that time with him. Hobie probably held her while she cried about what happened. There's no way he didn't verbally annihilate George Stacy when he dropped off that watch. Hobie is smart enough to know that George regrets what happened, but he absolutely does not forgive him for it.

Something I spend a lot of time thinking about is that no one in the Shadow and Bone fandom seems capable of comprehending that Baghra was an abusive piece of shit and The Darkling was even more so.

I've seen people talk about how Baghra's terrible parenting had a profound effect on The Darkling. I've heard people say that The Darkling was a terrible person and completely irredemable. Although I've never seen both statements mentioned relative to each other, both are equally true.

I've also seen people use Baghra's abuse to try and absolve The Darkling of responsibility. These people make it seem like it was inevitable that he groomed Alina, killed and tortured hundreds, orchestrated the conditions that led to Genya's abuse, and did countless other terible things. It was not.

Baghra absolutely abused Alexandr. She absolutely was a terrible person. But she didn't make her son do anything. Every choice The Darkling made was his own.

Also, the people who talk about Baghra's cruelty only ever mention Alexandr. They never mention the countless other children she physically and verbally abused.

None of those children grew up to be war criminals, though they were victims just as much as Alexandr. Being abused doesn't make you make you abuse other people. It's your choices that do.

At the end of the day, Baghra Morozova was a terrible, horrible, abusive piece of shit. But The Darkling was worse than her in every way.

Couldnt have said it better myself

Legit i am tired of virginity being mocked even in progressive spaces and media. No means no until you say no one too many times, until they realize it’s going to be a no forever. Everyone understands pressuring people into having sex is bad until you’re pressuring someone to have sex just once, just to try it, because are you sure you don’t want it. How can you know if you’ve never tried it? It’s suddenly fine to pressure people into having sex as long as it’s not sex with you but someone else. If you’re a virgin it’s immediately assumed it’s because no one wants you; not because of individual choice; not because of your right to consent. You spend your adolescence being told being a virgin is bad by your peers and media depicting your age group is all about sex and dating. Books, fanfiction and tv all have a scene where the bestie mocks the main character for being a virgin, a problem that must be fixed. In kinder spaces you may be told it’s fine to be a virgin in your twenties - that it is normal. But what about your 30s? Your 40s? You’re a woman and a virgin-you’re repressed. You’re a man and you’re a virgin-there must be something wrong with you. Virgins are a tragedy, pathetic, sad, ugly, weird, and unwanted. Everyone you hate is a virgin.

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At my birthday party we'll all take the raadsr and whoever scores the highest wins at autism.

Something I think about a lot whenever people say that their children's autism just showed up out of nowhere, is that lots of autistic traits are considered normal for a while.

Picky eating, meltdowns, not picking up on social cues, and taking things literally are all typical child behaviors- up to a point. Autism is literally a developmental disorder, yet people expect it to be obvious from the get go.

Their symptoms didn't come out of nowhere, though. They were always there, they were just normal kid stuff for a while.