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asoiaf fandom still stuck in the discourse tarry pits of talking about dragons as if they are nukes, utterly ignoring the wartimes implications of robb stark using his land assault vehicle, otherwise known as direwolf. and i think that says something about society

This is quite something. Jonsas propose Cersei loved Sansa on the show but abhor the idea of Jon loving a certain woman who saved him so much that they morph him into an abusive sociopath who is secretly plotting Dany's downfall behind his sexual manipulations of her.

Hm.

They both are so hypocritical, it's not even funny.

I’ve been thinking about how hypocritical James Potter and Sirius Black are, and how they constantly display double standards.

I honestly can’t understand how these two bullies can being defenders and fighters against racism.

I mean, how is it possible for someone to understand that a person’s blood status isn’t something they choose and therefore should be respected, and that no witch or wizard should be discriminated against or humiliated because of it, but at the same time, fail to realize that a person’s appearance is no different? Just like blood status, it’s not something anyone chooses, so it should be respected as well and not made the target of ridicule and bullying. How can he not understand the similarity between the two? Is he really that dumb?

How can James claim to be more ethical than Snape or other Death Eaters, and boast that he would never call someone like Lily a horrible name like “Mudblood,” yet for his own amusement and that of his friends, he calls Snape “Snivellus” since they were eleven? If both names are meant to degrade and mock, what difference does it make whether you're referring to someone’s blood status or to their vulnerability, sadness, or tears?

Beyond the Fan Theories: Insights from J.K. Rowling’s

I see bizarre fan theories and headcanons about Severus Snape every day that never happened in the books. The problem is, these headcanons are repeated so often that some Harry Potter fans believe them and forget that they are just fan fiction and not the truth. Therefore, I am sharing this old interview with Rowling to remind of some facts.

1. Like many insecure, vulnerable people (such as Wormtail),Snape craved membership in something big and powerful, something impressive: It’s interesting that 17 years have passed since Rowling's response, yet many people still believe Snape joined the Death Eaters because he was a sadistic, racist, antisocial person who wanted to harm people and use dark magic to destroy Muggles and Muggle-borns.!!! However, the writer believes Snape's goal was not to kill and torture Muggle-borns, nor was it racism. He was a poor, insecure, and damaged youth who had never known security or peace in his life. His childhood was a nightmare, and his adolescence was filled with humiliation and bullying. He was seeking acceptance and thought that becoming a Death Eater would give him power, attractiveness, and a family that he never had. However, it is clear that these factors led him to make a big mistake.

2. He never really understood Lily's aversion: Severus Snape didn’t want to harm or retaliate against her. He was simply blinded and misled, so foolish and ignorant that he didn’t realize how deep and serious Lily’s hatred for dark magic and the Death Eaters was. He believed that becoming a Death Eater would make him so powerful and captivating that Lily would be influenced and change her beliefs, convinced that dark magic was extremely attractive, potent, and intriguing.

3. Given his time over again, he would not have become a Death Eater: This sentence shows that he has truly changed. Rowling claims that if Snape had a second chance, he would never join the Death Eaters again. Snape's genuine regret is that, starting at the age of 20, he attempted to make amends for his past actions until the time of his death. He refused to make the same mistake again, unlike Wormtail, who eagerly returned to serve Voldemort when given the opportunity.

4. Like Snape, Harry is flawed and mortal: Do those who see Snape as the story's villain and an unforgivable character understand that, in the author's opinion, Harry is also like Snape? Do they understand that Harry can be flawed and potentially harm others? Harry is never described as a saint. He tortures someone and uses unforgivable curses; he can be arrogant and aggressive while remaining brave and heroic. Snape is flawed and mortal, just like Harry. He makes many mistakes, but in the end, he remains brave and self-sacrificing, and, like Harry, he saves many people's lives.

5. James always suspected Snape harbored deeper feelings for Lily, which was a factor in James' behavior toward Snape: Listen, this is one of the reasons James Potter had for bullying Severus Snape for seven years. Please refrain from saying things like, “Snape was bullied because he joined the Death Eaters” or “because he was interested in dark magic,” as none of these reasons are canonical. These reasons belong to James Potter’s fans, not James Potter himself. The author of the book has clearly explained James Potter’s motives. James Potter just had two reasons for bullying a person for many years:

_He existed (in a way that was ugly and poor). _He was close friends with Lily Evans.

6. It was Voldemort's attempted murder of Kreacher that really turned him: Isn't a change to save a living being's life familiar? I don't understand why Snape's change for Lily's salvation is seen as demonic motivation, whereas Regulus's change for Kreacher is considered epic. Recently, in fan fiction, Regulus has become the little knight of the Black family, whose parents tortured him so much that he is forced to join the Death Eaters and then rebel against Voldemort's ideology to eradicate racism in the wizarding world. But Snape's efforts, sacrifices, loyalty, and spying over the course of 19 years are reduced to being a loser obsessed with a dead woman!!! Such double standards are embarrassing.

I'm curious: If Regulus Black were not Sirius Black's brother and not from a pureblood family, and Voldemort had killed Kreacher while Regulus survived and fought Voldemort, how would fans react to Regulus? How ridiculous would it be to say, "Oh, Regulus Black? He is simply a deviant who was obsessed with his dead elf"?

"Please do not change the characters based on personal preferences and instead see them as written. The writer uses Lily's and Kreacher's salvation as symbols of redemption to demonstrate the characters' growth and maturation. If the concept of love, loyalty, and friendship has changed over time among new generations, this is not the fault of Severus Snape."

Unfair Comparisons:

Snape inadvertently and mistakenly put the Potter family in danger, and when he realized his error, he was filled with remorse. He risked his own life and was willing to pay any price to protect the Potters (mother, father, and child).

Snaters : Snape is so heartless; he is a murderer. He is worse than Voldemort and Pettigrew because he only asked Voldemort to spare the life of his old friend, He should have risked his life and begged Voldemort to spare his old bully and tormentor as well...

Sirius deliberately plotted Snape’s murder and betrayal of Lupin. He sent Snape toward a werewolf, fully aware that Snape would either be killed or turned into a werewolf himself, while his best friend, Remus, would be exposed as a werewolf and condemned as a murderer. Yet, even decades later, Sirius shows no remorse for his attempted murder.

Snaters: Oh, Sirius was just a kid having fun.

I believe it's often overlooked that some of the right choices people make are simply the result of being in the right place at the right time.

If Hermione had been sorted into a different house and the incident with the troll hadn't happened, would she still have become one of Harry's loyal friends who helped him hunt Horcruxes? 

If Lily hadn't been a beautiful and charming girl and had been sorted into Slytherin, would James Potter still have dated her? Would he have been willing to stop hexing other students without reason?

If Voldemort hadn't destroyed Harry Potter's family and Harry had grown up as a happy child instead of being the Chosen One, would he still have been willing to make sacrifices and face death to protect the wizarding world?

If Sirius had not met James on the train and been sorted into Slytherin, would he still have joined the Order of the Phoenix during his youth?

Would Dumbledore still have opposed Grindelwald if he didn't have a sister?

If Voldemort had never used Kreacher, would Regulus Black have taken action against the Horcruxes?

If Ron Weasley had been born into the Malfoy family, would he have fought together with Harry Potter against Voldemort?

If Lupin had been sorted into Slytherin, would James Potter still have supported him?

Asking: "If the prophecy hadn't been about Harry, would Snape have changed?" or "If Voldemort had spared Lily, would Snape have changed?"

To me, it's like asking: "if Snape hadn't been abused by his Muggle father as a child, suffered rejection by Muggles in his community, faced extreme poverty, been excluded from Hogwarts and subjected to bullying and sexual violence, having suffered a murder attemptand then having been ignored by Dumbledore, having been welcomed only by supremacist Slytherins and a handler who offered him dignity and respect, would he have become a death eater?"

These questions of causality are useless, as circumstances just are what they are. There were circumstances that made Snape commit atrocities, just as there were circumstances that made Snape repent and find his salvation

"But everything Snape did was just out of guilt and remorse."

I don't think remorse and guilt are unworthy motivations, on the contrary. I think the ability to feel guilt and regret is what sets Snape apart from Voldemort. It is what differentiates a person who can be saved from a person for whom there is no salvation

Another thing that differentiates Snape from Voldemort is the ability to love. Voldemort never understood the love Snape felt for Lily. And Snape was lucky with that, because his love for Lily was the last anchor that still brought him back to the light.

And remembering that change is a process, it begins with regret and then solidifies with gradual changes in attitude. I think Snape's change and redemption were extremely gradual and therefore very realistic

His love for Lily, and then remorse and guilt, may have been the initial "key turn" for Snape to realize that Voldemort was wrong and begin his process of change for the next 17 years that he was serving the light. . Snape's maturation has not stopped since he was 21 years old, he is definitely not the same at the end of the saga. The proof of this is that he did many things to save the children and aim for the victory of the light, even after learning that Harry would have to die

If everything he did was just to protect Harry on Lily's behalf, knowing that it would be in vain should have been enough for him to abandon the plan. But he continued to do the right thing, perhaps because there was a deeper change

Remembering that he joined Voldemort when he was a teenager and later regretted it at age 21 and died at age 38. I think it's a lack of faith to believe that he remained with the same thoughts he had as a teenager even after everything

In the last two books, Snape continued to struggle because he had truly changed. For there was no longer Harry or Dumbledore for him to maintain his loyalty to. Harry was going to die no matter what Snape did, and Dumbledore was already dead too

Snape died believing that Harry would not escape death. Even so, he did not reveal to Voldemort that he was not the master of the Elder Wand, he did not say that it was Draco who disarmed Dumbledore, because that would imply Voldemort hunting Draco and then hunting Harry (Voldemort having believed he had become the master of the Elder Wand after killing Snape was also crucial to his defeat)

At the end of his life, Snape saved innocents during Voldemort's attacks as a Death Eater, protected the lives of children in the castle as headmaster, and gave his life to carry out Dumbledore's plan. Late in life, Snape became benevolent and fought for the greater good

The Rise of Snape Hate: Marauders' Rebranding and Snape's Villainization (Part 1)

I often hear people wonder why Severus Snape has become more hated in recent years, to the extent that even Voldemort faces less criticism and vitriol from fans. In the early days of the book’s release and even long after the final Harry Potter film was screened, the "Marauders" fandom hardly existed. James Potter was seen as a background character, best known as Harry's father, and did not play an important role among fans. Sirius and Lupin were mostly regarded as Harry's mentors, and their time as Marauders during their teenage years wasn't a focal point of fan attention. In the Canon, the Marauders didn’t hold much significance either, there were few details about them. They were mentioned in just a handful of small flashbacks, mainly depicting bullying, and their friendships were portrayed as rather toxic and disappointing. Naturally, these flashbacks were not only unappealing but could also be disheartening for readers. However, a new generation of fans wanted to bring something new to the Harry Potter universe that better matched their fantasies and imaginations (especially after the failure of "The Cursed Child" and the controversy surrounding J.K. Rowling). As a result, a new story emerged: "Harry Potter and the World of the Marauders," inspired by Generation Z's fantasies.

They were given the attractive looks of actors like Ben Barnes, Timothée Chalamet, and Aaron Taylor-Johnson, and were morally very different from their canon versions. They became a group of charming, wealthy, and popular school heroes with dynamic, platonic, and romantic relationships that captivated fans. Since there weren't many details about them in the original books, fans freely created tragic backstories and fascinating dramas (for example, the Black family using a "Cruciatus curse" on their children!!!). These factors quickly increased their popularity and caught the attention of content creators on the internet.

But what happened to Severus Snape?

These newly reimagined, charming, and beloved Marauders needed an antagonist to heighten the school drama and make their adventures more exciting. Who better to fill this role than Severus Snape—broken, lonely, and completely different from them, with none of the looks, wealth, or popularity?

"The more they improved the Marauders to make them more likable, the more they vilified and distorted Snape to make him easier to hate."

It's clear that when Snape is portrayed as a powerful, dark, and evil wizard (even at the age of 11), James Potter and Sirius Black are turned into justice-seeking heroes, making all their bullying and cruelty towards Snape seem justified and even heroic.

Now, ask yourself: Is it easier to like the James Potter from the books—Arrogant and a bully—or the James Potter who is handsome and kind, punishing an evil villain worse than Voldemort named Severus Snape to save other students and his girlfriend? This is how the Marauders became charming and popular heroes, and Snape became a evil.

Many fans don’t even know Snape. From the moment they enter the Marauders fandom, they learn that they must hate Snape, and this trend continues. They only read the books with the intent of magnifying Snape's flaws, which is why his faults are highlighted even more than Voldemort's, and wherever Snape’s name is mentioned, they feel obligated to display their blind hatred to prove their loyalty to the ideals of their beloved Marauders.

Bro, you can’t even let go of your anger and hate towards a fictional character who doesn’t exist and hasn’t done anything to you! Still, you’re here shouting that Snape deserved to die and be bullied because he couldn’t let go of his anger toward the guy who bullied and tormented him for 7 years!

Blaming Snape for creating Sectumsempra is like blaming a woman for carrying pepper spray in her bag for self-defense after being repeatedly harassed by a specific group of men. Can you really blame a victim for creating a weapon to protect themselves against their tormentors, while at the same time praising the Marauders' ingenuity for creating tools to spy on, stalk, and invade others' privacy purely for fun and bullying?

What kind of ridiculous logic is that?!

If Snape had tried to be a father figure to Harry, they would have said: "Snape was always jealous of James. That's why he tried to steal James' place and prevent Harry from remembering or loving his real father."

If after Hogwarts he still tried to contact Lily again and ask for forgiveness, they would say: "He was trying to hurt her. He wants to force Lily to break up with James and then possess her. He is such a criminal."

If Snape had treated Harry well or even tried to take him from the Dursleys and raise him himself, they would have said: "He was trying to trick Harry and draw him toward Voldemort. Then, when Voldemort returned, Harry would be easily handed over to him."

They always find a reason to ruin his character for one reason: he does not match their desired aesthetics. (They easily justify the crimes of Pettigrew, Barty Crouch, Evan Rosier, Tom Riddle, and Bellatrix Lestrange.)

just saw another "snape was too busy holding lily's lifeless body to comfort baby harry!!!" in the wild

but like. it's occurred to me that even if Snape HAD actually been there, and even if he HAD picked up baby Harry and attempted to comfort him, people who don't like snape would probably find something to complain about that too

like, "how creepy to pick up your dead crush's baby!!! snape was a creepy obsessive stalker and lily wanted nothing to do with him how dare he touch her child without a guardian's permission!!" or something, or that snape would only make baby Harry feel worse (fair, I don't get the impression that Snape was a naturally comforting, paternal, or cuddly young man), or that he was about to, like, kidnap harry or something and grow another lily in lab conditions 😂

Let His Story Be His Own

I believe that people have the right to create their headcanons about characters, but many fanon creators (Especially Marauders fandom) deeply believe every single sentence in this narrative and think it's canon (left image), and they insult the fans of severus snape.

To them, Snape, at best, is Lily’s toxic friend who did nothing in his life besides poisoning Neville’s toad and calling Lily a Mudblood. Yet characters like Pettigrew and Barty Crouch Jr. and Rosier are tragic heroes and victims of domestic violence!!! (The image on the right includes some signs of trauma and depression that I’ve taken from this article; you can see that Snape clearly exhibits some of these symptoms.)

It’s insane that not only do they erase Snape’s name and belittle and shame him for his psychological trauma, but they go even further and falsify his story to favor Death Eaters like Barty Crouch Jr. and Evan Rosier!

People like Rosier, Crouch, and Regulus were neither tortured nor forced into joining Voldemort due to family pressure or trauma. They joined him willingly. Rosier fought and died for Voldemort’s cause until his last breath. Crouch and Pettigrew never regretted their choices, and when given another chance (unlike Snape), they eagerly rejoined Voldemort. They were ready to kill and torture at Voldemort's command. 

Stop crafting dramatic and heroic stories for psychopaths. If you’re looking for a tragic and romantic hero, the only one in the story is Severus Snape.

He is the one described as a poor, neglected child who was abused and physically harmed by his family.

He is the small boy with black hair, crying alone in a corner, watching his mother being abused by his father.

He is the child and teenager who was publicly mocked and humiliated because of his appearance and poverty.

He is the genius child who could have become one of the greatest wizards in history, but his life was never his own. He was a soldier, a tool of war, with no chance to build the life he wanted.

He is the one who, in adulthood, exhibits clear physical and psychological signs of depression and trauma.

He is the one who, due to his insecurity and vulnerabilities, felt forced to join Voldemort in search of a place where he might find some semblance of peace and safety.

He is the one who loses the love of his life and his best friend because of Voldemort and wishes for death because of it.

He is the one willing to give up everything for love.

He is the one who has been manipulated his entire life and battles with guilt and depression.

He is the one who stands up to Voldemort, deceives him, and bravely dies to save others.

He is the one who watches all his friends and loved ones die and is powerless to save them.

It was him who was “'the bravest man I’ve ever known.'”

(That man had nothing in his life; at least let his story remain his own.)

Unfair Comparisons (part 2)

Severus Snape: Exists. Marauders' fandom: He is the greatest child abuser in wizarding history; no wonder he was a criminal since he was eleven because He tried to kill Petunia Evans just because she was a Muggle (he dropped a branch on her head). As a student, he tormented other students with dark magic. He joined Voldemort to be able to torture more Muggles. He told Voldemort about the prophecy because he wanted James Potter and baby Harry dead so he could easily claim Lily Potter for himself. He was so obsessed with a dead woman that he even took advantage of her corpse and embraced her without her consent. He delayed Harry's message to the Order, causing Sirius Black to be killed.

Peter Pettigrew: Willingly betrayed the Potter family, leading to the death of his best friend and his wife, and orphaning Harry Potter. He murdered 12 innocent Muggles and Bertha Jorkins. He was the reason Sirius Black was wrongfully imprisoned in Azkaban for 12 years. He never felt remorse and did everything in his power to help Voldemort return to power. After Voldemort's return, he became one of his loyal followers again. He killed Cedric Diggory, a 17-year-old innocent boy, and took part in the torture of 14-year-old Harry Potter.

Marauders' fandom:

So, guys, I just took a spin through TikTok, and guess what I learned? You can be a Death Eater, torture Neville Longbottom’s parents to the brink of death, leave them mentally shattered for life, unable to even recognize their own child, and still be considered a sweet, innocent, lovable guy—because you're Barty Crouch Jr !!! But if you dare test a shrinking potion on Neville’s toad (with the antidote right there to prevent any real harm), suddenly you’re a child-abusing, murderous, terrorist torturer, a racist incel—because, of course, you’re Severus Snape.

I’ve been thinking about how hypocritical James Potter and Sirius Black are, and how they constantly display double standards.

I honestly can’t understand how these two bullies can being defenders and fighters against racism.

I mean, how is it possible for someone to understand that a person’s blood status isn’t something they choose and therefore should be respected, and that no witch or wizard should be discriminated against or humiliated because of it, but at the same time, fail to realize that a person’s appearance is no different? Just like blood status, it’s not something anyone chooses, so it should be respected as well and not made the target of ridicule and bullying. How can he not understand the similarity between the two? Is he really that dumb?

How can James claim to be more ethical than Snape or other Death Eaters, and boast that he would never call someone like Lily a horrible name like “Mudblood,” yet for his own amusement and that of his friends, he calls Snape “Snivellus” since they were eleven? If both names are meant to degrade and mock, what difference does it make whether you're referring to someone’s blood status or to their vulnerability, sadness, or tears?

Unfair Comparisons (part 3)

Here are descriptions of two boys from HP books. It’s hard to believe, but Harry Potter fans claim that boy number one had a very tragic and difficult childhood, suffering abuse, violence, and neglect from his family. These hardships caused him to experience a tough and insecure adolescence, eventually leading him to join the Death Eaters under pressure. On the other hand, fans claim the boy number two is a racist and a professional killer, who in his youth tried to join the Death Eaters in order to freely torment Muggles with dark magic.

1- Regulus Black:

Beneath this was a collection of yellow newspaper cuttings, all stuck together to make a ragged collage. Hermione crossed the room to examine them. ‘They’re all about Voldemort,’ she said. ‘Regulus seems to have been a fan for a few years before he joined the Death Eaters ...“

He was younger than me, said Sirius, ‘and a much better son, as I was constantly reminded.’ ‘But he died,’ said Harry. ‘Yeah,’ said Sirius. ‘Stupid idiot … he joined the Death Eaters.“

2- Severus snape:

Suddenly Harry’s mind was teeming with memories that were not his — a hook-nosed man was shouting at a cowering woman, while a small dark-haired boy cried in a corner. …

Two girls were swinging backward and forward, and a skinny boy was watching them from behind a clump of bushes. His black hair was overlong and his clothes were so mismatched that it looked deliberate: too short jeans, a shabby, overlarge coat that might have belonged to a grown man, an odd smocklike shirt.

"Oh yes, they’re arguing", said Snape. He picked up a fistful of leaves and began tearing them apart, apparently unaware of what he was doing. "But it won’t be that long and I’ll be gone". "Doesn’t your dad like magic?" "He doesn’t like anything, much", said Snape. 

One of the boys sharing the compartment, who had shown no interest at all in Lily or Snape until that point, looked around at the word, and Harry, whose attention had been focused entirely on the two beside the window, saw his father: slight, black-haired like Snape, but with that indefinable air of having been well-cared-for, even adored, that Snape so conspicuously lacked.

J.K. Rowling: Well, that is Snape's tragedy. Given his time over again he would not have become a Death Eater, but like many insecure, vulnerable people (like Wormtail) he craved membership of something big and powerful, something impressive.

I love both Regulus and Severus, and I believe they were both brave boys who made mistakes and tried to make up for them by risking their lives. But there’s something in the fanbase that bothers me regarding these two characters. It’s that Snape’s story is erased from him and given to Regulus Black. I haven't found any evidence of Regulus being tortured or forced to join the Death Eaters, as described in the books. He willingly joined Voldemort because he was fan of voldemort. Moreover, according to Sirius, Regulus was well-liked within his family, and his parents not only didn’t mistreat him, but they actually loved him more than Sirius.

I’m tired of constantly seeing people say that Regulus was a saint while Snape was a sadistic murderer. I can’t believe people can read these lines from the books and still claim that Regulus was tortured with the Cruciatus Curse and abused by his family in childhood, which forced him to join the Death Eaters due to his traumatic upbringing. But Snape? Oh, apparently, he was born to be a racist, torturer, sadist, and murderer from day one.

Aren’t you tired of these ridiculous double standards? Aren’t you fed up with constantly insisting that fanfictions and TikTok videos are canon?

Marauders fandom logic when it comes to the werewolf prank is this: even if Snape had been killed, you couldn’t blame Sirius because he didn’t force Snape to go to the Shrieking Shack. It was Snape who wanted to stalk the Marauders and find out their secret It was his own fault...

If we’re going to blame Snape for following the Marauders and say he "deserved" to be killed by the werewolf prank because he was too suspicious, then shouldn’t Harry Potter also "deserve" to be killed by Malfoy’s curses in bathroom?

Or maybe Harry deserved the bullying and the worst things because he used his invisibility cloak to stalk Malfoy at Slughorn's party, trying to spy on him and eavesdrop secretly.

After all, Harry is the one who followed Malfoy, got suspicious, and tried to uncover what he was doing, right?

How can we justify praising Harry’s curiosity and bravery while condemning Snape for doing the exact same thing? The double standard is disgusting.

Just a reminder: Snape was a year younger than Harry during the werewolf prank.

They’re not really drawn to the core of the Harry Potter series—the timeless struggle between good and evil. To them, the classic Harry Potter story feels too straightforward, maybe even dull. What they crave instead is drama, excitement, and the thrill of romantic entanglements between attractive teenage boys. That’s why they’ve reinvented the characters, crafting entirely new identities that align with their personal fantasies.

For them, being a Death Eater isn’t about the dark reality of supporting Voldemort; it’s an exciting, almost glamorous role—a group of charming, magnetic boys with deep, dramatic connections. Death Eaters become this edgy, rebellious clique, full of passion and intrigue. The only time they actually demonize the Death Eaters and paint them as brutal terrorists is when Severus Snape enters the picture. Suddenly, they’re monsters again—but until then, it’s all about their idealized, romantic version of the world, where the lines between good and evil are blurred to make way for their fantasies.

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Honestly- the Marauders fandom doesn’t make much sense. They add slytherin characters to the marauders friend group (which was really just the four canonically- James, Peter, Sirius and Remus.) Regulus and Sirius had a strained relationship for a good portion of their lives- the other slytherin’s would’ve joined the DE’s (Regulus did as well and was a Voldemort fantic.)

It would be more likely that Regulus, Evan, and the other slytherin members they added to the marauders would be friends with Lucius and possibly Severus rather than the marauders like they claim.

Let’s not forget the fact that the Marauders canonically don’t like the slytherin house and picked on Severus for wanting to be in it, why would they be so open to being friends with slytherin students when they absolutely despised the house??