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I’m so tired of LGBTQ+ discourse

What about morosexual and sapiosexual discourse? What about you folks who are both?

I wanna know what kind of morons/geniuses are the most attractive and why. Tell me your top ten from both categories. Do you prefer Kronk or Fred Jones? Bimbos, Herbos, Thembos, or Himbos? Spock or Moss? Geeks, nerds, academic all stars, or Einsteins? Tell me all your niches!!

stop the LGB alliance from being able to claim they are a charity

I’m sure most of you know about them already but the LGB alliance are a transphobic organisation that actively try to stop trans people from getting rights and actively try to roll back the few rights that we do have, they are even buying advertising to spread misinformation about the gender recognition act in Scotland, I’m sharing a link to a petition to get people to listen to try to make sure this hate organisation never gets to falsely label themselves as a ‘charity’

petition here  

honestly so mad rn bc of the whole "lesbian bears" thing, mainly bc like,,,, when gay men wanted 2 hav our own pride flag that was 4 us and we made it "2 similar" 2 the lesbian pride flag u guys were telling us it was shitty and calling it the toothpaste flag and saying it was phobic but now u think that it's ok 2 take an entire community concept from us a community concept that was made specifically 2 address body image issues within the gay male community bc of how every1 was expected 2 b a twink ect hell i even seen ppl saying that it's misogyny that there isn't already lesbian bears but none of you see the fucking irony, we try to borrow from you so we can have something that people will recognise as us instead of something 4 the whole queer community, so the rainbow flag can be used by every queer person while we still get 2 have a flag 4 the mlm community specifically, but then we get told off, told we're being bigoted against lesbians but then when people try 2 say that lesbians should be able 2 borrow the concept of bears from us then suddenly borrowing from each other is fine, im not even against lesbians having their own version of being a bear and calling is something slightly different and using it to address any body image issues that might be happening within the lesbian community (im not a lesbian so i can't speak to what those might be) from what i can c from an outside perspective tho it seems like a lot of those issues might already b being addressed by the butch lesbian communities? i just worry because a lot of people that i c talking about it r just saying something to the effect of "being a bear shouldn't just b 4 gay men because women get more shit for having body hair than men do" just the whole way in how it's being done just sucks and is completely ignoring the struggles that gay men go through and y we needed the label of bear in the 1st place, pushing aside our struggles to say "women have it worse and therefore lesbians have it worse" i just wish some1 would acknowledge the fuckin hypocrisy elephant in the room, i started typing this when i saw a post on my dash after waking up early at like 5am so idk how coherent this is but ig i just wish we were able 2 hav fukin smth w/out ppl calling us sexist 4 wanting smth 4 ourselves and not making every single aspect of our community open 2 every1, being a gay man isn't queer lite like some of u seem 2 think it is, we hav our own specific struggles and acting like everything that is us is now just an overall queer community thing and not specifically a gay guy thing and we should move over 2 make way 4 every1 who isn't us is 1 of those struggles, 1st it was the rainbow flag, now its the word "gay" increasingly being used 2 just mean queer and now also ppl being shitty abt us having the bear community by saying "u shouldn't hav this bc women hav it worse" it just feels like we don't get 2 hav fucking anything and then when we try 2 hav our own flag just 4 us we're evil ig, idk what u would even call this, erasure? smth like that

Since I’ve seen this in my feed again, I thought I'd finally throw my two cents in. Bi/pan lesbians aka bisexual lesbians/ pansexual lesbians cannot and do not exist, and in this statement I mean two things. 

1). I am in no way saying that panromantic or biromantic homosexuals do not exists. They do and are valid. The term lesbian however, should not be used to describe that identity whatsoever. 

2). Bi/pan and lesbian are two identities that are similar in certain aspects (wlw/ nblw), but they can not be used together as those who are bi or pan(especially pan) likely have attraction to men which cannot occur in lesbians for obvious reasons as lesbian only feel attraction for, you’ve guessed it, women and feme scale nonbinary people. Lesbians cannot be connected to sexualities that inherently require attraction to men.  

Now, I will talk about other aspects that simply disprove the ‘bi/pan lesbians’ ideology and show how it is harmful to have around. The first point to understand is that lesbian, unlike bi or gay, is not an umbrella term and cannot be used in such a way. Lesbian has only ever meant Lesbian and by trying to add in this idea of ‘new’ bi and pan lesbians as being a real thing invalidates that.  

Furthermore, the idea of bi/pan lesbians brings up harmful rhetoric against both the communities mentioned. Lesbians already deal with the issue of men believing that they simply “haven’t meet the right guy yet” or the they “could be changed given a relationship with a real man”. The bi/pan lesbian “identity” gives way for this falsity to take root, making it so that these men now believe they can be ones to turn a lesbian bi or pan when this has never ever been the case. For the bi and pan community, this brings up old wounds of bi/pan people needing to “pick a side” and decide whether to be straight or gay with bi/pan lesbians being the ‘gay’ side for sapphic bi and pan people which is false and untrue. 

At the end of the day, bi/pan lesbians are not only biphobic/panphobic but also lesbophobic for the reasons mentioned above as well as the fact that it erases the obvious differences between all the sexualities mentioned. If you are stuck on whether or not you like men but know you like women and are either a women or nonbinary individual, the term sapphic is a better fit for you as it’s an umbrella term for all wlw and nblw.

I fucking hate the negativity and sometimes outright hostility towards cishet people (and cishet allies) that I have noticed in some queer spaces. And since it slightly bothers me, I decided to make a post to explain my reasoning.

I get it, some cishet people are awful. Some of them are annoying as fuck. Some of them. I'm assuming that I don't need to list examples of fantastic, friendly, supportive cishets for you to get that not all of them are bad and hate/negativity in form of generalized statements mostly hurts the nice cishets. But I also see other problems with it.

Some LGBTQ+ people are cisgender. And that's totally fine. Some LGBTQ+ people are heterosexual. And that's completely fine too. If you say "I hate cis men.", some cis queer men will automatically feel hurt by that and other people will assume you actually hate them. Some transgender people are heterosexual. They might pass and look and act very cishet. And I feel like sometimes we forget that heterosexual people can be part of the LGBTQ+ community as well (even if you exclude allies).

The other issue is young people who discover queer spaces. Imagine a young person finding queer spaces online and being absolutely blown away. They feel at home. They start questioning their gender and/or sexuality, but over time they come to the conclusion that they are cisgender and heterosexual. And in the current atmosphere in some queer spaces that tends to have negativity towards cishet people, these young people will have trouble accepting their identity and feel excluded, because cishet people don't belong into queer spaces, right? Despite their love towards the community, despite feeling at home in queer spaces much the same as young queer people feel, they might feel like they are not really welcome anymore.

So I think we should be more accepting towards cis and hetero people, and show that it's totally fine to be cis and hetero. You don't have to be queer. You're still welcome here if you aren't queer. Yes, being queer and all is heckin' cool, but you can still be heckin' cool if you aren't queer.

Another thing I want to add is about LGBTQ+ allies (which are usually cishet people). Apparently it is controversial whether they belong to the LGBTQ+ community, and in my opinion, yes they do. Yeah, some allies are annoying, and yes, it might be a bit arrogant of an ally to claim that the A in LGBTQIA+ is for Ally, but hey, there's enough space for asexual, aromantic, agender and other people in the A, so why not also include allies? Allies are just as enthusiastic and supportive of LGBTQ+ topics as queer people. And yeah, they are not part of the "queer umbrella", but I think they should be part of the LGBTQ+ community. Another short argument that supports this point is that without cishet allies (whether they call(ed) themselves that or not) LGBTQ+ rights and acceptance would be nowhere close to where they are today.