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I used to not believe in the quote, "Time heals all wounds." It felt like a cop out of some bullshit, but as time goes on I realize there's truth to it.

Time heals all wounds. You'll get past your trauma, a break up, and many more. Just cherish yourself.

for everyone who thinks they will never be able to move on:

i used to think that too. you're not alone. they're not wrong when they say time heals all wounds but there is more to it.

i used to be friends with someone i talked to every single day, we were even on call at night to fall asleep. for 5 years. i was in love with her, at some point we even were together for about 2 years. we were in a long distance relationship & heavily connected through the writing rp's with our oc's. it was something very deep & personal for me, since my oc's are like my own children (i have autism, they're a part of my special interest so they are very heavily engraved into my heart & brain).

the friendship was very toxic, pretty much from the start. i isolated myself to be able to talk to her more but she usually treated me like shit. we saw each other every holiday, in summer even for a month straight. i was convinced i would never be able to live without her. i was unable to have a happy moment without her, i was so unhealthily attached. she didn't allow me to have any friends, or even spend time with my family. so she really was all my focus lay on.

i broke up with her & blocked her a few months ago. i needed a lot of support to even be able to do that. i feel so free now that she is gone. i can finally live. i got to spend time with my family, make new friends, go past the trauma she put me through (that i won't mention here but she did put me through a LOT). and even now that i feel happy without her, there are times where i feel nostalgic and miss the bond we had. or maybe i really do just miss the idea of her. the version of her i created in my head. i think that's what i was doing. taking the good feeling, longing for it to come back, and completely forgetting about the shit she put me through.

my point is, i thought nobody would understand this. i thought i was the only person on this planet who felt so attached to a person. but that's not true. many people go through that. and many people can live past it. so did i. the person i thought i couldn't live without is not in my life anymore, and i feel better than ever. my brain still wants to get back into contact with her, just to feel that feeling of nostalgia one more time. many things remind me of her and i can assure you, the constant reminders of her in things i loved almost tore me apart. but the wound healed. as more time passed, i realised that i live for myself, not for others. and the more i radiate love, the more will love come back to me.

i don't need a person in my life to feel happy. people are an additional support. additional. you live for yourself. there will be people who love you. but you have to start loving yourself. and if i manage to do that, you will manage this too

if there is anyone out there who can relate to this and needs a shoulder to lean on and an ear to listen, feel free to dm me 💜

What could ever be wrong with a reason to smile?