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Although I don't like Jacob, I will still love and support Millie just as I will to Jack even though I don't like Ellie. I wish her the best and I hope she's happy in her relationship.

First thing - common misconception: you don't go through the five stages of grief in any kind of order at all (quick reference).

The person who coined the terms, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, talks about this in the original material that uses the terms.. however, pop culture did as pop culture does and messed with the public's perception making it seem like they're a tick list. Singlets don't go through the stages of grief in the commonly taught order, and it's very common to jump around between them.. even minute by minute. Especially if you had a complicated relationship with the person!

However, adding a system into the mix complicates things further

Some systems will split an alter/part to deal with the grief

Grief can be challenging due to the dissociative nature of DID. Alters may have varying levels of memory about the loss or may experience the grief at different times. This can lead to a fragmented or inconsistent emotional experience.

Different identities might process grief in different ways. Some may have more difficulty acknowledging or expressing grief, while others may be more in touch with these feelings.

DID systems may develop unique coping mechanisms that involve different alters working together to manage grief. This might include rituals, writing, or talking with therapists or support networks.

So yeah, DID complicates it a lot

OP your experience sounds pretty spot on to what I've heard from other systems and what we've experienced ourselves. Sending love <3

(Just ps. We still have alters who don't know certain members of our family died..and all of them passed 5-10 years ago 🥴)

No one talks about grieving with D.I.D, and how badily it affects your entire system. Like people without D.I.D keep telling us that we are going through the five stages of grief etc and that you go through them in order, but for us it feels like its something that constantly restarts itself and loops due to switches.

Like no matter how much we think that we are finnaly at the acceptance stage it feels like we go right back to denial again.

I am NOT saying feeling this way automatically equals having D.I.D, but us feeling this way is most likely because of that.

Can anyone else relate??