Take Care Of Yourselves - Tumblr Posts
“If you promise to stay alive just a little bit longer I promise that we are going to make this world a place worth living in by any means necessary. I ain’t giving up. I swear.”
Spotted in Clackamas, Oregon
hope is a skill
can someone please be proud of me like fuck I’m trying
becoming an adult cheat sheet!
learn to coupon
what to do when you can’t afford therapy
cleaning your bathroom
what to do when you can’t pay your bills
stress management
quick fix meals
find out if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill
resume workshop
organize your closet
how to take care of yourself when you’re sick
what you should bring to a doctor’s appointment
what’s a mortgage?
how to pick a health insurance plan
hotlines list
your first gynecology appointment
what to do if the cops pull you over
things to have in your car in case of emergency
my moving out masterpost
how to make friends as an adult (video)
how to do taxes (video)
recommended reads for surviving adulthood (video)
change a flat tire (video)
how to do laundry (video)
opening a bank account (video)
laundry cheat sheet
recipes masterpost
tricks to help you sleep more
what the fuck should you make for dinner?
where should you go for drinks?
alcohol: know your limits
easy makeup tips
find seat maps for your flight
self-defense tips
prevent hangovers
workout masterpost
how to write a check
career builder
browse careers
birth control information
financial management software & app (free)
my mental health masterpost
my college applications masterpost
how to jumpstart a car
sex ed masterpost
About a week ago I posted this.
I’ve been getting horrible messages like this in my ask for months, including:
and my personal favorite
After getting the message saying “Just go kill yourself” I was completely done dealing with this person’s horrible messages and replied with just an “Okay.” and logged off tumblr.
About a week later I logged back on with 17 messages in my ask, most of them from the anon. I scrolled down and at first when I logged off, the anon messaged me things like
I scrolled up more and all of a sudden they started sending me more and more messages like
This was extremely surprising to me. I thought “After all those horrible messages you sent to me for MONTHS about hating me and wanting me dead, you say ‘sorry’ and that you ‘cant be responsible for someone’s suicide’?”
But I guess the lesson goes like this:
DONT TELL ANYONE TO KILL THEMSELVES UNLESS YOU ARE PREPARED FOR WHAT MIGHT ACTUALLY HAPPEN
Dealing With Executive Dysfunction - A Masterpost
The “getting it done in an unconventional way” method.
The “it’s not cheating to do it the easy way” method.
The “fuck what you’re supposed to do” method.
The “get stuff done while you wait” method.
The “you don’t have to do everything at once” method.
The “it doesn’t have to be permanent to be helpful” method.
The “break the task into smaller steps” method.
The “treat yourself like a pet” method.
The “it doesn’t have to be all or nothing” method.
The “put on a persona” method.
The “act like you’re filming a tutorial” method.
The “you don’t have to do it perfectly” method.
The “wait for a trigger” method.
The “do it for your future self” method.
The “might as well” method.
The “when self discipline doesn’t cut it” method.
The “taking care of yourself to take care of your pet” method.
The “make it easy” method.
The “junebugging” method.
The “just show up” method.
The “accept when you need help” method.
The “make it into a game” method.
The “everything worth doing is worth doing poorly” method.
The “trick yourself” method.
The “break it into even smaller steps” method.
The “let go of should” method.
The “your body is an animal you have to take care of” method.
The “fork theory” method.
The “effectivity over aesthetics” method.
You are not a bother. You are not a burden. You are not a waste of space. You are not annoying every person you talk to. Your existence matters. Your presence makes a good difference.
I have come up with a better metaphor than “you can’t pour from an empty cup” for burnout. You can’t boil an empty kettle. Pouring from an empty cup just gets you nowhere. Trying to boil an empty kettle can ruin the kettle, the stove, and burn down your house if you keep trying it.
I hope you guys like…eventually live the life you want to live and I hope nothing haunts you for too long and I hope you’re all kind to yourselves
i rlly hope it gets easier soon bc i am fucking losing my mind
girlie that's not a random headache u are dehydrated malnourished over caffeinated over stressed and sleep deprived
i think im just not worth getting close to
Diet companies won’t tell you this but starving yourself is a lot worse for your health than overeating
doing my damnedest to free myself of the “just gotta get through this week” “only x more days til the weekend” mindset & learn to appreciate each day for whatever it is lest i be driven to madness
because i’m a little salty
i sometimes worry about certain types of writing advice i see on the twitter sphere in terms of neglecting your physical health. maybe this was just a few one-offs or whatever but i’m usually going, “hmm, are you five or are you thirty?”
so that said:
Please use the restroom when you need to. Don’t wait until you’ve reached whatever wordcount you’ve set for yourself. This is how you get UTIs and other bladder infections, and if you’re in the US, that can be expensive to treat. (Also, UTIs suck. Speaking from experience).
While coffee is a quick energy giver, you will crash. And it will suck. Too much can cause the shakes. It’s okay to consume coffee if you like it! But try to go for an alternative healthy route if at all possible. If you like tea, drink tea. But be sure to drink water!
That said, take breaks when necessary and EAT!! Make a small snack or make lunch or dinner or start meal prepping. It’s okay to step away and do something else. Writing isn’t a be all, end all sort of situation. You will get stuck if your brain isn’t being given sustenance.
Experiencing wrist/hand pain is a very good sign to stop. Either for the day, or for awhile. Do some stretches, go outside if you can.
“I write for days on end, barely any sleep” isn’t healthy. Your brain needs to rest. Your eyes need to rest. This is a surefire way to get yourself very sick, very easily. (I speak from experience, but I don’t have the best immune system. If someone is sick, I tend to pick up whatever they have after a day or two so. I mean, this is dependant on the person).
TAKE BREAKS. ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU GET TIRED!
Anything that promotes neglecting your needs is advice to be ignored. Idfc if they have “New York Times #1 Seller” in their profile, if they’re suggesting you neglect your physical needs for hours, ignore them.
This is supposed to be fun.
This is supposed to be fun.
It’s okay if you don’t write for a few days, it’s okay if you don’t finish a novel in a month. Seriously, take your time. This is not a race. Yes, you might want to finish the rest of your story within a couple of days, but don’t push yourself until you burn out. You’ll likely just hate yourself in the end.
tl;dr: i’m a grumpy old person who hates seeing advice that promotes unhealthy activities, whether in jest or in seriousness. there is someone out there who will take it seriously. when you’re writing, just take care of yourself.
(even take this with a grain of salt lmao)
in light of this news, I do wanna say this for anyone who needs it: staying informed/in the loop and doomscrolling are two different things, and it's important for your mental health to know what that difference is for you.
it's essential now more than ever to make sure that we're in the loop with current events and politics. this post is absolutely not advocating for ignoring the news, especially considering factors such as privilege. if you're able to, please do try to stay informed. but there comes a point where information can become too much (particularly when you belong to a marginalized group), causing stress, anxiety, and burnout. being an informed citizen shouldn't come at the expense of your wellbeing.
right now, please ask yourself: am I checking the news to stay up to date, or am I checking it because I'm scared? am I following current events to enhance my understanding, or am I following it because I'm too anxious to tear away?
if you feel rising panic, dread, and anxiety that's spiraling, it's time to step back. being an informed citizen doesn't mean agonizing over things you can't control. when that happens, it's time to rein yourself back in.
consider this post a checkpoint, especially if you're an American, black/a person of color, a marginalized identity (be it religious, gender/sexuality, or disability), or any combination thereof. it's alright to step back and care for yourself.
allow yourself room to breathe. it'll be okay. you'll be able to step back in when you're ready.
Jinphotographer in U.S.A (SF & LA)
Hello!!!! Day after day I made a promise that I would upload more often to the people who found me and gave Jinphotographer love but…I didn’t have the time..and i didn’t have places i could just take pictures…so along with this apology!! I am uploading Jinphotographer pictures taken in America So!!! Today is Washington DC’s!!!! concert day haha I have finishing hair and makeup and now I’ve wrappd up and am uploading pictures from Jinphotographer in San Francisco & LA in the Life of Jinphotographer~~haha So from here on the story of ASTRO’s first American tour starts!!!! haha Bbambbabbam!!! haha
This picture I thought i would sleep a lot during the 12 hour plane ride but…When I didn’t end up sleeping for several hours I ate ramen and was bored so this is a selfie (?) I took kekeke
As soon as we arrived in San Francisco we unpacked and went to go eat an In n Out burger haha While we were waiting, since it’s our first time in San Fran, we were all excited. So we took pictures and had a good time eating the hamburgers too~^^ haha And that day we were jet lagged so we ate and then went right back to the hotel We took a rest~~haha sleepy..@.@
The next morning, we ate breakfast and!! we went to a place you have to go to when you visit San Fan: The Golden Gate Bridge!! When we got to The Golden Gate Bridge we did some sightseeing and!! took some pictures and drank coffee and ate donuts and!! had a really good time~ then we went to the next place~
This is Pier39~ the reason this place is so well known is because is has really really cute sealions haha really cute. They were having playful fights and goofing around and going into the ocean and goofing around and it was so cute to see that and drying their body in the sun was cute and it was just so cute There were some people who did graffiti art near there, so we went to see it and then ate and~went to do some shopping!! haha
As we were shopping, the buildings were so cool that we took a lot photos of them and photos of us hehe the picture of me was taken by MJ hyung hahaha
Brand New Jordans I got while shopping!!!!! Yeah!!! hehe I liked it so so much so I bought it right away hehehe Also we ate a delicious dinner!! Yoohoo hehe Hot sauce was the basic base of my chicken but the others didn’t eat any and I ate a lot hehe It was so good >< hehe
After, we took a 1 hour plane ride to LA!!! Yoohoo hehe As soon as we got there, Rocky, Eunwoo, and I left for Santa Monica beach!!! We went because we heard it was a place we should definitely go at least once~ It was so so great~ The sunset was so so beautiful and also the restaurant at the real dock and arcade and a small amusement park?? There were rides there so it would be a good place for families and lovers to go hehe We went with our members so we made good memories with our members!!! Personally the jump shot picture taken by are team leader was like a legend hahahaha
Lastly, we went to Public Art “Urban Light” and it seemed like a really good place to take pictures or shoot a music video hehe If you like to take a wide variety of pictures depending on the angle, please come and make good memories hehe
Anyway!! I have been traveling these two cities and have accumulated various memories but where do you guys want to go~ hehe I had such a good time that it was like traveling and it was a very meaningful and enjoyable time hehe We are enjoying ourselves and performing so we will have even greater memories hehe Next!! We will come back with memories from Washington D.C. and New York so look forward to it!!! I Love You AROHA💕🐶 Thank you ><
trans via Malorie (@dadshirtgyu) and Ashley Chon @ astrodaily