1, 4, & Oh Crap, I Forgot The Number Already 16??

1, 4, & oh crap, I forgot the number already 🤣 16??

1. Tell us about your current project(s)  – what’s it about, how’s progress, what do you love most about it?

Answered here But since I have new ideas popping into my head every other minute I’ll share another:

College Soccer Team AU. Here’s a snip from my jumbled ideas Google Doc for this one LOL don’t judge me.

Anyway so start of Junior year beth goes to the weight room EARLY like at 5 am before anyone else.  Cuz of course she does. And she wants to prove herself as a young captain. WHo is always there also but Rio. She avoids him like the plague but of course they always steal glances at the other while they workout. Whenever Beth does squats with dumbbells Rio is mesmerized by her thighs and ass. Whenever Rio bench presses Beth nearly drools. So it all comes to a head when beth gets so fed up with the rudeness of the male team that she challenges them to a game. Classic girls v boys

4. Share a sentence or paragraph from your writing that you’re really proud of (explain why, if you like)

Answered here and here. 

16. Tried anything new with your writing lately? (style, POV, genre, fandom?)

I suppose my latest one shot “Earned It” is different because it’s a fetish centered fic - spanking. And I’ve never focused so intently on one kink before. It really made me blush writing it, ngl. 

Rio in 4x06 – Grandma Loves Grisham

my therapist said I was brave and I told him how can you say that? I am there feeling like I'm drowning, I can't go out without having a panic attack! and he answered me you are here to tell me your traumas that no children should have undergone and by telling them to me you relive them, you are a warrior

Let us normalise talking about mental health. Let us normalise feeling shitty and not okay. Let us normalise the fact that everyone goes through bad days. We should not hide, we should not pretend to be okay, we should not feel guilty when our mental health is not at a hundred per cent. It is normal and therefore we should normalise it. Mental health is a health issue, not a taboo topic. We should all be able to express our emotions, to say when we are not doing okay, to seek help from family, friends and professionals. It is about time that we realise that struggling with mental health does not make us attention seekers, does not make us weak, does not make us hopeless cases. In fact, pulling yourself through difficult times, being there for yourself and holding on despite the pain are signs of incredible strength which should be acknowledged. We. Need. To. Talk. About. It. NOW.

Manny Montana as ‘Johnny Tuturro’ in every episode of Graceland:

Season 3 Episode 4

bonus:

coming soon on “why be a servant to the law, when you can be its master?”

The sky has darkened by the time she leaves the theatre to walk to her car. She’s bought enough stuff that she needs to open up the back door to put the bags in. It takes her a moment to arrange them so that nothing will get damaged and she’s just moved a shoebox off a pile of clothing when something makes her hair stand on end.

Slowly, Beth pulls her hand back and tenses to move, but there’s something against her ribs and the shock comes before she can twist away.

Being tased hurts. She’s experienced it before, but it doesn’t hurt any less this time. If anything, it just pisses her off. She wasn’t paying attention. 

The doorframe doesn’t help matters.

(note: this will be the last preview!)

Sex stuff you probably won’t learn from fanfiction and/or porn:

Erotic fic and porn can be a lot of fun! But if you aren’t being provided with adequate sex ed through other channels (comprehensive sexual education, frank and open discussions with trusted adults, etc.), turning to fanfic and porn for your understanding of sex is gonna leave some major blindspots and may leave you with some unrealistic expectations. While there’s nothing wrong with these kinds of erotica, they are fictional and tend to leave out a lot of the more realistic, human parts of sex - they serve a great purpose, but that purpose isn’t primarily educational. The following is an incomplete list of some things you should probably know about sex that a lot of fic and porn tends to leave out:

It isn’t always super hot or super sweet. Sometimes it’s super silly. Or sometimes it’s sort of mundane and you’re both simply scratching an itch. That’s fine too. (Hell, sometimes you’re talking about comic books while boning and your partner is laughing that you’re getting REALLY ANGRY about spider-man while they’re going to town on you.)

You will probably not climax at the same moment. It’s a sweet idea, but extremely hard to coordinate, and if all your concentration is going into coming at the exact same moment, you’re probably not enjoying yourselves as much as you might. 

Sometimes bodies make weird, goofy noises. Squelching, slapping, air-escaping, un-sexy noises. It’s okay to laugh at this. 

Hell, it’s okay to laugh during sex in general.

Sometimes you fart. Sometimes you fart while someone is going down on you and it is embarrassing as hell. This isn’t the end of the world. Embarrassing body things happen. Heck, sometimes, with anal, there’s a little poo. You get over it.

Sometimes sex is… kinda bad? This doesn’t mean it’s assault, or something traumatic – sometimes it’s consensual but just kinda bleh and not what you hoped for. The best thing to do (if you’re talking about sex with a partner and not just a hook up who you can not call back) is talk to them about it. Figure out what went wrong, what you enjoy and what you don’t, and communicate what techniques you do and don’t like. Also don’t be afraid to stop someone in the middle of the sex act you’re not enjoying and offer guidance on how to help make it good for you too. (Side tip: masturbation makes great research into what you personally do and don’t enjoy sexually)

You won’t enjoy every sex act. Not every body is wired to find every thing pleasurable. You might find anal does nothing for you. You may find g-spot stimulation just makes you really anxious that you’re about to pee. You may not enjoy giving or receiving oral. You’re not broken if you don’t like something that every pornstar or smutty fanfic protagonist seems to have earth-shattering orgasms from. Everyone’s got nerve endings in a range of places – it’s quite literally, different strokes for different folks.

On that note, not all orgasms are earth-shattering. Sometimes it just feels warm and nice. That’s fine too. 

Sometimes, if you’re neutral on a sex act and your partner loves it, you can suck it up for them, and they’ll suck up something they’re not crazy about for your pleasure in return. But communicate preferences with each other! Know that when a partner does that thing you love that they don’t get much from, that it’s an act of care, and vice versa. 

Falling asleep in each other’s arms right after wild passionate sex seems really romantic, but dried and crusty fluids are gonna be a bitch in the morning. Also, after sex, you should both (regardless of your equipment) go pee to clear out the urethra of any gunk or bacteria to reduce risk of a UTI. 

Putting a towel down on the bed before sex means you don’t have to sleep on wet funky sheets. (it’s also verrrrrry useful for period sex if you or your partner menstruate.)

A lot of people don’t like dirty talk, or rough sex. Always ask first. (Fanfic on the whole does a better job than porn at showing communication, but a lot of it is still highly fictive on this point)

PROTECTION PROTECTION PROTECTION. Use condoms, dental dams, etc. not just to prevent pregnancy, but to reduce risk of STIs. (Yes, even couples with the same genitals who don’t need to worry about pregnancy).

Lube is great and very important, but random goopy things around you are not good lube. Random oils especially, since oil doesn’t flush out well and can trap bacteria inside the body – oil-based lubricant also degrades condoms. Use lube specifically designed for intimate purposes. Water-based and silicone-based lubes help sex feel really good!

Bigger isn’t necessarily better. A lot of people with vaginas don’t enjoy the feeling of being repeatedly punched in the cervix by a monster cock. Some people enjoy a larger size when being penetrated by an appendage or toy and some don’t.

Bodies are hairy. Genitals are hairy. You may get a pube stuck in your teeth at some point. If your partner is WAY fuzzier than porn ever led you to believe they’d be, well, that’s normal. 

Not everyone loves the taste of ejaculate. Sometimes it’s nasty (flavor tends to vary from person to person depending on their diet, but sometimes you just really don’t like it no matter what. Some of us hate the taste of peanut butter. People don’t always like things). It’s okay not to swallow, or to request a penis-having partner warn you so they don’t ejaculate in your mouth (in fact, it’s polite for them to do the latter). 

If you’re gonna have shower sex, get one of those rubbery mats for the shower floor that gives you traction, because otherwise it’s super embarrassing to call for an ambulance while dripping wet and naked because you slipped and accidentally broke something and your partner got a concussion while you were trying to bang in the shower. 

Moaning and screaming wildly during sex is fun but it will make the neighbors in the apartments adjacent to you hate you. Make choices accordingly.