Hi Elle

Hi Elle

I just turned 20 two days ago! Whats one piece of advice that you wish you would’ve known when you turned 20?

Happy belated :) Here are a 20!

Not caring about what people think of you will be your ticket to freedom.

A strong credit score matters more than you’ll ever know.

Try to learn something new every single day. Even if it’s just how to tie a new kind of knot.

Finding a workout routine that you actually enjoy is the key to everlasting health.

It's absolutely okay to approach strangers and just say "hi", the worst thing they can do is walk away.

Loneliness can be a good thing, don't run from it.

Spending too much time alone can become addictive.

That last drink at the end of the night is never worth it.

Invest in good quality bras and shoes.

If a man really wants you, he'll do anything in his power to have you.

Instead of dieting focus on eating healthy foods you actually enjoy.

Get frequent blood tests, hormone checks, and take vitamins daily.

Your self-concept will determine how people treat you.

Put on some damn sunscreen and reapply it every two hours.

There will never be a better time in your life to take really big risks.

Avoid unnecessary debt at all costs.

Find at least 3 mentors and let them guide you through times of uncertainty.

Learn to curb your dopamine addiction.

Begin meditating at least 5 minutes daily.

Stop being so hard on yourself. You’re doing amazing.

Lovingly,

Elle

how to get spoiled, and activate the gentleman inside every man

1. create a persona

i don’t care if you had no father figure, lived on government support and collected coupons with your mama

the moment you step out the house it’s time to put on the biggest act of your life

you have to make it look like princess treatment is all you’ve ever received in your life

you have to make it sound like every other person that came before him spoiled you rotten and you’ve gotten used to that lifestyle

2. don’t ask, assume !

instead of asking if he’s picking you up with his car for a date

say “when should i be ready for when the car comes”

instead of asking him to open doors for you 

say “ i just know from talking to you that you’re the type to open doors and be a gentleman”

when you hold a man in high regards and expect him to be a certain way, he’ll want to rise to that expectation, no one wants to prove you wrong and that you’ve giving them a higher value than they are

3. thank them for things they haven’t done yet        

when you meet for dinner or when the check comes, smile and thank him for “treating you” to dinner or”inviting you” to dinner, this will remind him that this was his idea, he’s the one doing the pursuing and he shouldn’t be making you pay for something that’s supposed to be a treat 

similar to the point above, when you express gratitude for something that hasn’t happened yet, it just makes them look cheap/ an assh*le if they don’t do it

4. set up the scene for future providing

when watching movies for example, if the couple in the movie goes on a luxury vacation say “what if that was us”, “it would be so cute if we did that”, in the street if you’re out and about people watching and you see a cute older couple with flowers, point it out and say how cute it his that he still brings her flowers, complimenting and pointing out treatment that you want to receive let’s the man know what your love language is and what he can expect to be praised for in the future by you

finally, this advice works on men who already like you and want to impress you, it helps you set the tone of the relationship, there is no amount of “tricks” that will get someone who is uninterested in you to provide for you!

so what if i'm pretentious. sometimes things are simply beneath me it's as simple as that

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“Why do I struggle having whyte female friends part 1”. If you don’t hate money and men that’s why! Western mainstream culture is level down propaganda so if you want to level up logically you can’t afford to make such friends. If the mainstream culture is elites sabotaging the masses and turning them into losers so they can’t compete with them… you are not going to have many female friends if you are a winner. If you are hypergamous and want packs of female friends, move to Dubai.

Friends say they struggled to have girlfriends in Europe and North America because they were a winner in a loser culture and they moved to Dubai and bam! Lots of quality mentally stable girlfriends who don’t blow up and cruelly stab you in the back a year later at random unprovoked. In Dubai, there is a culture of hypergamy and winner values. It’s a much healthier place to live and much better to raise your children. It’s illegal to insult people like they do in the West.

Friendship means having a lot of things in common… so what does a winner have in common with people who follow a loser anti capitalist victim mindset culture?

Western women are indoctrinated in feminism so I fully support the passport bro movement… just that the passport bros are going to be shocked that they get free kitty in the west for a reason, quality traditional ladies cost money. Don’t date them but clap for them going a step in the right direction.. maybe living abroad they will learn how to be a man .

White women in the west seem to have a bizarre herd animal compliance culture of dysfunction if they are millennial and younger. Why? Progressive level down values being mainstream . If you can relate to a white woman whose youth was in her 1980s at the retirement age as a 24 year old much more than your peers it’s because in the 1980s the West was like Dubai pushing level up propaganda to defeat the Soviet Union in the Cold War.

The 1980s was the level up decade where level up was the mainstream. You had dress for success that started my industry of image consultants, colour season consulting and Ginie Sayles, Dynasty, Super models. You can relate to Ginie Sayles right ?

Friendship is about having things in common. You will relate to someone whose impressionable 20s or 30s where in the 80s, the decade of level up propaganda, but have difficulty relating to Kimberley and Emily who are your age but messed up from hating gentlemen and capitalism but wanting to date gentlemen and working for a capitalist employer. That is crazy making. And studies show 60% of left wing women under 30 are mentally ill. I would say the rate of mentally ill millennial women is even higher.

Female mental illness becoming mainstream started when Obama allowed progressives to become mainstream.

Middle class white women in the West have a culture of herd animal compliance. So if everyone in the sorority is getting drunk, partying like animals, having many one night stands, you get bullied if you don’t hurt yourself like them. But they usually have establishment and connection privilege, so you will get brutally hurt if you fit in unlike them.

Example of luxury beliefs: a male Slavic friend was invited to a white people party with his black friend. He was happy that oh he is going to fit in, new immigrant. So girls got drunk and passed out. The white guys said to take them to the bedroom and raaaape them unconscious. The Slavic gentleman thought that sounds messed up and said he has work the next day so he has to go home before he gets too drunk. The black immigrant wanting to fit in with the white lads stayed and helped them take the clothes off the unconscious drunk girls and did the dirty on them together, raaaping them.

Eventually the girls clothes were put back on and they sobered up and were taken home. The girls figured out they got raaaaped and pressed charges. The white son of a lawyer who invited the Slavic immigrant and black boy got off free without the charges, and the black boy studying in university good grades with a promising future had 6 years in jail, a criminal record and destroyed reputation. The wife of the Slavic lad doesn’t want him seeing his ex con friend. That is what happens when you are too desperate to make white friends.

Western secular mainstream rebellious sexualized culture is now entirely dysfunctional. It’s based on a system of luxury beliefs meaning that if the established privileged people do it they have no consequences and but if you do it, you get in massive trouble. Or they live one set of values in public that they trick the rest of the population into doing and they live the opposite in private.

Now the logic of combining sexual degeneracy with social media, shaming purity culture instead of women giving their kitty 🐈‍⬛ cat for free, promoting hook up culture is the whole red pill Andrew Tate thing. Boys realize finding Pickmeishas, confirming their low self esteem through neg insults and a numbers game they can skip courtship all together and use women as free escorts.. then when they are older they wonder where can they find a good wife, the ones their age are bitter and their younger sisters learned from them, are cynical and are being flown out to Paris and Maldives by men old enough to be their father.

Hypergamy is the logical female response to this mess and can fix this mess. The problem is that you have to think for yourself so you are going against the cow herd. You are a bad cow! I am a bad cow! We are bad rebellious cows! The funny thing is we became the ultimate rebels in a rebellious culture without seeking to be one.

Where insanity & dysfunction is the social norm, being the functional one who did the stoicism & inner work, has her life together & her dating works in her favour… you will trigger women.

When people are dysfunctional they develop a compliance culture- they don’t want to be a mess by themselves and you get zero benefits conforming to their mess. In fact it has bigger consequences for you.

For example polyamory has become a social norm on posh college campuses as in people in a couple sleeping with others which triggers massive fights and results in mental instability. On a dating app in a college town in America you will see poly on the profile of every other white college girl. However if you look at the inner city poor part of town you will see black single mother, black single mother, black single mother. As in the consequences of degeneracy and liberalism hit different for people of colour, minorities and immigrants. Yes this is one reason why women is seen as lower value going to university because you will be indoctrinated in degeneracy and dysfunction for four years.

If a man spent 4 years in Andrew Tate misogyny indoctrination camp and got good grades would you date him? That is how getting a university degree comes across to high value masculine men. You should be able to carry a conversation but also not hate gentlemen so be cultured in the classics but not hate educated.

So my experiences with Karen’s and Kimberley’s is that they start out very nice and then are triggered by your existence no matter how much you dumb yourself down or pretend you are degenerate like them. When you think of young whyte women think of the lawyers son white boy inviting the black & Slavic boy to the party.. he has a sister except the sister demands compliance and would blow up on you for not joining her doing harmful activities.

Basically mainstream western culture teaches western women that sane mentally stable functional people are oppressed and it’s their duty to forcefully liberate these women they are secretly envious of into insanity & dysfunction instead of learn from them.

I am not exaggerating how mainstream it is. One of my white hypergamous ladies was talking about how it’s now impossible to relate to white middle class women her age because they put her down for being different not getting drunk and crying over broke dusty losers but it takes forever to level up into elite circles. In elite circles not everyone is a social climber and those who are not can be as dysfunctional as the mainstream pop culture. It’s the journey of leveling up that teaches you truth from lie. There is this level up chasm.

To show you how deep the dysfunction goes, our hypergamous white girlie, let’s call her Charlotte because she is exactly like SATC Charlotte, she is secular and sees a therapist.

The Therapist tells her that he helps all sorts of women who have relationship problems build themselves up, and works with polyamorous couples and non monogamy. This was the most conservative secular therapist Charlotte could find, a practicing Shabbaz Orthodox Jew like Ivanka type whose wife is a housewife.

She said “I think polyamory is dysfunctional, is emotional abuse of low self esteem women who will just about do anything to be loved and absolutely destructive to the mental health of children. I am surprised when I said I am traditional, you would recommend it? “

The therapist said “you sound like a robot! Are you watching TikTok? The red pill trad wife stuff?”

Charlotte said “my goodness no. Those TikTok women hide how messed up their life is, yes my goal is to be a homemaker but working part time so I am not some slave he can easily cheat on. They have absolutely no leverage.”

Therapist: “So you don’t go to the synagogue or church & and not indoctrinated by TikTok. Those are very unusual views for someone secular your age. Don’t you think saying polyamory is dysfunctional is extreme?”

After I told my husband this story and Charlotte was okay to share it, my husband said

“Since when did caring for the welfare of children become an extreme stance!?”

The fact that you are trying to level up your life and not get drunk and stick your hole 🕳️ into every sausage 🌭 you can find makes you extreme in the West if you are a young woman. If you do the inner work and avoid low vibrational situations that cost your mental health, you are extreme if you live in the west and women who have not done the inner work will be jealous and blow up.

Dysfunctional and unhappy women have a compliance culture and will attack the woman who thinks different to better herself.

As far as cultures go bare in mind North Americans are some of the most close minded people in the world whose low openness among women can only be compared to the Taliban in Afghanistan.

To get to the top openness to experience and critical thinking are the most important skills. As in Charlotte doesn’t tell Samantha when she will grow old and her face card will decline no one will care about her when Charlotte is surrounded by family. Charlotte is high openness accepting Samantha and not feeling pressured to do the same or telling Samantha to stop hooking up. Charlotte is also friends with career masculina Miranda who messed up her life focusing too much on career, married a weak loser who cheated on her because she emasculated him and she was forced out of her own home & to pay her husband alimony because he gave up his job to be a house husband.

Our real life Charlotte said that she lost all her middle class in person friends who got triggered with her mental and physical glow up. So now she is doing elite hobbies and volunteers on a charity committee and says it’s so hard to make elite friends because they already have their friends and it takes a long time to break into those circles and they are not triggered by her. She did get invited to a penthouse party and said it takes forever to get into circles where people care about self improvement and the women are not pyscho.

If you are an immigrant here is my warning about white western cow herd compliance culture : women here who are not leveled up literally act like grazing brainless cows and punish you for not 100% conforming to their dysfunction, not being stupid and having a mind of your own.

In the rest of the world intelligence is a positive thing because it’s correlated with wealth. In North America the public school education is anti critical thinking and dumbs you down, teaches kids to bully and harass others into conformity. So if you are pursuing your self interest and using your brain, Western women are going to try to bully you and neg you like a pick up artist and far worse unless they are a social climber themselves.

Even among social climbers you have to be careful, is this a networker who adds value or a wannabe.

The key is to find a similar friend you can stick up for each other. Some hypergamous women who have it amazing with men are so desperate for female friendships that they will befriend mid range escorts who do sketchy things and involved with sketchy people.

Many women who have their life together in the west befriend escorts and sax workers because at least they don’t see men as the enemy. And these women still get triggered and cruelly flip out on them because they are jealous that you are not smuggling cocaine into a party and they have to.

If you are going to befriend escorts, only the high end classy geisha kind. That is again a society lady. And those escorts are choosey with their company just like anyone else.

Those socialites got there by having standards with their company and not being afraid to be alone.

There are far more leveled up men than women. Sure if you are hot with male friends he will have ulterior motives, but it’s better than nasty only temporarily nice fake backstabbing pyschos who are triggered that you won’t conform.

A Canadian diplomat said that immigrants from traditional societies are unlikely to form friendships with Canadian neighbours because they don’t have much in common. Friendship requires things in common.

The people we have things in common with are businessmen trying to get ahead.

If you have to hurt yourself to fit in you are better off being flamboyant and confident standing out looking for your tribe.

The best thing about being a middle aged woman is realizing after I discovered my people, who believe in critical thinking, self improvement and pursuing our self interest… is that trying to conform is a waste of time if you are not in a traditional society.

When I tried to fit in when I was younger it always blew up in my face because I was never white enough nor feminist enough.

When I said it’s not worth being harassed and attacked viciously at random when I did nothing to provoke it .. I am a human being, I have dignity, if I would never take such verbal abuse from men why would I from women… my life changed.

Like these women will randomly attack you for no reason, try to destroy your reputation & try to convince your network you are pyscho & get you cancelled . Then a few years later this one feminist who did this to me, let’s call her Susan, tries to say hi multiple times. My husband and I are doing well and Susan is now a baby mama from some hook up.

After Susan I decided that I will develop high standards for female friendships because white girls going mental sucks up my energy to live my life. Their mental health problems stemming from hating patriarchy but chasing boys, hating capitalism but chasing work isn’t my problem. If they conform to level down propaganda and lack the courage to be alone to level up isn’t my problem.

Melania is such a role model though I would have picked a different husband and have. She didn’t make any girl friends until she got married.

Understand you don’t live in Dubai if you live in the West so since women are most likely to conform to mainstream culture and mainstream culture is about sabotage… most women here are your enemies waiting to stab you in the back.

Pursue your self interest relentlessly. Don’t try to network with people too different because you can’t get favours from people who don’t like you.

When it comes to friendship don’t waste your time on people who are not your vibe tribe. A friend said her friends worked hard to level up in the Phillipines to be able to raise their children in America. Their children conformed to the local culture and are much worse off than their parents working lower jobs, daughter became a baby mama, lower standard of living so they regret immigranting and convincing their children to conform to have a better life.

I have found lovely white women who think for themselves. Charlotte was shocked leveling up she became an immigrant in her own country even though she was white when she started thinking for herself and making decisions that benefit her. Slowly via affluent hobbies she is beginning to have acquaintances, no friends yet. She had a network of toxic girlfriends before leveling up. Leveling up taught Charlotte to value her zen & avoid toxic people.

The level up chasm knows no race. We are all in the same boat. I think it is harder for white women who never faced racial discrimination and bullying to suddenly be discriminated and bullied for being different because of wanting to better themselves.

Friendship is based on having things in common . You can only be friends with those with similar goals who share your self improvement journey and take it as seriously as you do. Ginie Sayles says it takes high value white women 5 years to accept someone new. With all the psychos and moochers out there, we can all see why. We should also not easily befriend but watch people before we invest too much emotionally or reveal too much vulnerability.

Credit Maria Al Masani

7 STEPS TO CREATE YOUR SIGNATURE EGO/HIGHER SELF:

1. DETERMINE YOUR WHY.

Why do you want an alter ego? Are you lacking the confidence to go for your dream job? Do you want to stop attracting people that are not worth your energy? Are you just bored with your look and want to take on a new persona? Regardless of your intentions, you need to be real with yourself and determine why you want this. Chances are, your reasons are not internally motivated. That’s okay in the beginning, but if you truly want to level up, you need to be in this for yourself. Create a list of at least 10 reasons that you want this.

2. CONSTRUCT HER PERSONA + LIFESTYLE.

What is her personality like? Are they more confident and boastful, or are they more humble? For this part, I find that it is best to envision yourself 5 to 10 years from now, and imagine that you are a fly on the wall just watching your higher self go about her day. Determine what kinds of people she interacts with, what she eats, how she responds to stress, what her hobbies are, etc. Create a list of every detail about her persona and lifestyle.

3. GIVE HER A NAME.

This isn’t the most essential step, but it can be fun. You can put a lot of thought into this, or get inspiration from your favorite movie character. Whether it has meaning or not is up to you, but be sure that it works well with the image that you are creating. Create a list of names that resonate with your most confident self.

4. SELECT YOUR ROLE MODELS + LIST THEIR CHARACTERISTICS.

Who do you idolize most? Is it a celebrity, a family member, a teacher? Consider the people that you admire and determine what it is that you love most about them. What about their character do you enjoy? What skills do they possess? What do they do for a living? How do they start their day? How is this person most like your higher self? Create a list of their skills, their characteristics, interests, etc.

5. CREATE HER SIGNATURE SELF.

Start gathering images that best represent your higher self. It is important to find images of women that you look most like you. Consider images of women’s makeup looks, fashion looks, hairstyles, etc. You will want to create a signature style for her. How does she wear her hair? What fragrance does she wear most? What do these things say about her? Create a list of every detail about her physical appearance.

6. BUILD YOUR BLUEPRINT TO BRIDGE THE GAP.

Create a chart that clarifies your current self and distinguishes it from your signature ego that you have created. Once you have determine who your higher self is and what her life is like, it will become more clear for you to determine the best way to channel her. For starters, you may find that you’ll wear your hair a certain way and put on your best makeup look to assume this role. Once you begin to vibrate with your higher self, you will find that your transformation will feel more natural as it moves from superficial qualities to lifestyle changes. Create a list of 5 milestones that you would need to reach to get closer to being more like your signature ego.

7. CREATE YOUR SIGNATURE SELF SHRINE.

This is my favorite part. Once you have your higher self acutely refined, start planning your Signature Ego Day. This day will be dedicated to you assuming your higher self in her entirety. You will look like her, talk like her, walk like her, and so on. Celebrate the woman that you have created in any way that you deem fit. You may be inclined to take yourself out to dinner and show up as your higher self. You may want to schedule a photoshoot and channel your inner goddess. You may end up dressing up in full gear and spending the day working on your business plan. Whatever goal you have in mind—whatever your why—dedicate this day to showing up as your higher self. Document as much of this day as possible. This will be the start of your Signature Self Shrine. Pick a place in your living area, and dedicate it to building a shrine to your higher self. You can use this to store images of yourself living as if, receipts from places that you love, text messages that prove feedback that remind you of how powerful your higher self is, etc.

What is the most recent way that you have showed up as your higher self?

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