Agreed. Its Not A Haha Funny Meme But Its What I Could Come Up With

Agreed. It’s not a haha funny meme but it’s what I could come up with 🤷‍♂️

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This shot really has meme template potential

Yeah. That helps a lot actually! Thank you so much! :)

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Ok so… in response to this poll that I made last night, why is the entire system at fault for what one alter did?

Because if everyone was their own separate person outside of the system, then the blame would be placed on that one person who fucked up.

You wouldn’t go around blaming their friends, family, and entire social group for what they did, right? Or would you?

Because last I checked, the only person responsible for someone’s actions is themself in the end. You can try to sway them, you can manipulate them, you can convince them, but ultimately they have a final say in their actions.

At least that’s what I’ve been taught.

So please enlighten me on why the entire system is at fault for the actions of one alter? I am just trying to learn why so I can try and better myself and keep all of my headmates from being at fault for my own stupid actions. /gen

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Source: This

Another poll kinda related to the earlier one that is less specific.

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Important edit:

See fault as who should be held most accountable for the action.

Also, the responses that this has gotten so far have really helped because a lot of this was extremely related to our system’s past trauma from being emotionally abused (being given a bullshit definition of system responsibility, being “held accountable” wasn’t to make amends but to be held at fault and shamed/blamed no matter how much you tried to change and get better, and those internalized beliefs affecting my own view of myself through feeling as if I should feel guilty despite trying everything I could to make amends for what I did)

Thank you to everyone who responded to this already. Your responses have been truly helpful! :)

Ok! That makes perfect sense! It’s great to know that the definition we’d been given is wrong. That was what was getting me the most really, I guess.

But yeah, I get it. :)

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Ok so… in response to this poll that I made last night, why is the entire system at fault for what one alter did?

Because if everyone was their own separate person outside of the system, then the blame would be placed on that one person who fucked up.

You wouldn’t go around blaming their friends, family, and entire social group for what they did, right? Or would you?

Because last I checked, the only person responsible for someone’s actions is themself in the end. You can try to sway them, you can manipulate them, you can convince them, but ultimately they have a final say in their actions.

At least that’s what I’ve been taught.

So please enlighten me on why the entire system is at fault for the actions of one alter? I am just trying to learn why so I can try and better myself and keep all of my headmates from being at fault for my own stupid actions. /gen

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Ok. Thanks. That helps a lot! I’ve just recently been internalizing how something was specifically my fault because of how an ex abuser took something I had done and apologized for and used it against us when we finally broke off that relationship, so now we face this reputation of being problematic.

Those who view us as problematic also don’t care about our side of the story either. They have our abuser’s half and that’s it. They have the twisted version of events where many things have been left out of context.

But what you said does make sense now. Thank you for explaining! :)

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Another poll kinda related to the earlier one that is less specific.

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