Hey Guys. I Had To Go On A Bit Of A Hiatus To Fix A Few Things In My Life And Help A Few Friends Get

Hey guys. I had to go on a bit of a hiatus to fix a few things in my life and help a few friends get through some things. I hope to be posting again soon but I am currently on a road trip and I have a convention after that and then I’m moving for college so I’ve got a lot to do between now and mid July but after that I should be back to our regularly scheduled program. Still feel free to message me or send me asks, I really do love answering those, and I will be active as much as possible besides full on posting. This is caregiver signing out, be good, stay safe, and have fun!

Pretty sure I’m going to make this an advice blog. I love helping people and sometimes having a third party opinion on things can really help. So ask away, either anonymously or through chat. Always happy to help ☺️.

Me too, that’s what I thought it was going to be and now it just pisses me off. I’ve read so many amazing bdsm books that would be perfect representations of the community and sadly they’ll never see the light of day as a published book. I’ll post a list of you guys want. That way you at least have something to give you hope haha.

But like imagine if there was a gfd version of 50 Shades except instead of the dom being an abusive and manipulative asshole who in reality doesn’t give a shit about the subs safety or mental health, they were instead sweet and loving and respectful and actually followed the basic rules of a real dom/sub relashionship …and instead of an annoying, self obsorbed pushover, the sub was actually portrayed as an individual who is smart and understanding and respectful and is not afriad of the dom. ….I’d read that book so fast

Just found it funny that this is casual conversation for me and my friends. I’ve also been called “The Mom That Gives”. Being the mom friend is so nice. Anyways I’m all settled into the new place for the most part. I should be back to posting soon but I’m also still looking for a job so when that happens I might have to slow down a bit. I’ve seen a few people saying their ask box isn’t working so if you’ve sent me an ask or a message and haven’t gotten any sort of reply then please contact me on my kik: Freshie_Fangirl or my Snapchat by the same name. That’s all for now, be good, be safe, and have fun!

Self Care

Self care is so important for caregivers/doms and Littles/subs alike. It is important for doms because subs depend on you to take care of them and you can not do that without taking care of yourself first. Think of it like this, an empty battery can not power something else. You need to feel good to make sure they feel good. Subs need to care for themselves because you can not always count on a dom to be able to completely care for you especially if you don’t have one.

Dom selfcare.

- let yourself relax. Take a day to just give yourself a re charge

- Take a warm bath

- Jam out to music

- Make yourself a nice meal

- Order take out and laze around in sweats with Netflix or Hulu

- Take a mid day nap

- Binge your favorite show

- Talk to someone and just let out your frustration

Sub selfcare

- Drown in your headspace and let your problems float away.

- Cuddle with your stuffies

- Make a pillow fort

- Take a bubble bath

- Stay in your jammies all day

- Eat an okay amount of sweets and junk food(something not detrimental to your health)

- Color to your hearts content

- Dance around the house to music

Everyone needs to take the occasional personal day to work on themselves and recharge. No matter what helps you do that, it’s worth it if it helps to better yourself. You can not help others if you can’t help yourself.

I know this is shorter than usual but it’s something that I felt needed to be said. Until next time Be good, stay safe, and have fun!

So I’m a little and my gf knows this. She knows I want a cg, and she’s asked if I would want her to be mine. Then she asks what to do differently and how to exactly be that, and I don’t know what to say! I get embarrassed when she’s asks, help!

Omg I’m so sorry I didn’t see this till now. I would say just talk to her. I know it’s embarrassing but communication is absolutely key to any relationship. You have to put your needs on the table and tell her how you need her to care for you. So before you talk to her make a list of your needs and wants. The rules you need to help you and the things you want out of it. It’ll take a while and you’ll have to be patient until she gets the hang of it. Start gradually and go from there. But you absolutely have to put communication first so any problems can be worked out as soon as possible. It’s great she’s willing to listen and adapt so don’t let that go to waste.