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He watched me dancing for him, growing more aroused by the moment as I slipped off another piece of clothing. I saw his pants begin to bulge and strain against an iron lust growing in their, and then, as I turned to reveal my naked breasts, my panties became soaked as I saw his body suddenly expand.
The muscles began to tighten, swelling outwards. His enormous shoulders widened, and his arms bulked up further, and I watched his hands clench as the fingers thickened. His broad torso was a rugged mountain range of pectorals and ripped ab canyons, deepening and swelling more and more by the second with his desire for me.
I desperately began to shed more of my clothes, watching his breathing grow more ragged, seeing the feral glint in his eyes as he began to advance towards me. I felt his strong arm stop my frantic movements, and I could only stare as I he lazily shred the rest of my garments with a flick of his wrist. He moved in closer, and a moan of desire escaped me as I realised he was now almost 2 1/2 feet taller than me. His cock, thick almost as a water bottle, pressed against my thigh, rock hard, and I stood, petrified by my desire to be dominated by this man.
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i guess i should introduce myself, i'm Becca, a submissive sissy
Please do. My throat is for Daddy's pleasure.
“I want to jerk off to some porn.” as I guide your head to my cock and open up tumblr.
Using your throat like a fleshlight while I browse porn.
Please send me horny asks😵💫
Laser Tag - Adam Stanheight / Dominant Reader
A/N There was an online prompt that inspired this. I wanted to write two, one where there was a sub reader, and one where there was a dom reader. I posted the sub one yesterday. Thank you, please enjoy.
The sun was shining outside, slanting through the oval windows at the top of the walls. You felt relaxed, and totally in control as you thought about HOW you got into these circumstances. Earlier, you and your boyfriend had been out swimming in the nearby lake. It was on your long walk back with Faulkner, that you passed the laser tag sign in bright letters, inviting you to it’s doors. You couldn’t stop yourself from checking it out.
You dragged Adam with you, a playful look in your eyes. You had an idea as soon as you saw the sign. Stanheight didn’t like to go too far out of his comfort zone, which was something you could empathize with; you’d been like that too at one point in your life. But this wasn’t about getting him out of his comfort zone. It was about using his comfort zone against him. He’d have to step out of it, if he wanted to win. Not to mention, he was really adorable when he got all… ‘warmed up’...
You loved seeing Adam Stanheight get flustered. It was really cute! It tended to happen when he was under some kind of stress, which usually came from being out of his comfort zone. This was a good way to get him agitated, not to mention it would just be a great way to spend the day.
However, playing had been harder to do because you needed a team of fourteen people; seven on each team. You weren’t really sure how you’d done it. All it took was some mention of extra money for a private game, and the owner was all about that. He allowed you inside very, very, rapidly.
Thinking about it now, you had realized that Adam did seem slightly reluctant to step inside, but he kept his composure. He was really good at doing that. You were trying to get him to be more open with you. You wanted him to talk to you about his feelings. It had yet to happen, unfortunately. But hope never ran out.
Now though, you couldn’t wait to begin. The game had started a few minutes ago, and you were sure that Adam was probably overthinking, and trying to strategize. For being an overthinker, he was pretty skilled at strategy games. You crept into the laser tag arena, your eyes stretched wide, scanning for any kind of movement. It was hard to see in here due to the lack of light, but that was the point, wasn’t it?
Around your wrist was a watch, displaying all of your lives to you, and on your head was a band displaying the same thing to the other players. A laser gun was supplied for a weapon, of course.
You felt secure that you could win this. Most likely you would, seeing as how well you could keep your cool under pressure. The same could not be said for your boyfriend.
You turned a sharp right corner into a dark hallway and followed it around in a long twisty loop until you found yourself on the other side of the arena. The arena itself was in the middle of the branching hallways. This whole place was made to hold ten or fourteen people, so finding anyone in here would be difficult with only two. But you liked a challenge.
The floors and walls were black and shiny, reflecting the sunlight that shone through the high windows. From your place inside the hallway, you could make out the arena. It was a large circular space in the middle of the room, surrounded by half walls all the way around. Platforms were scattered all about, none of them were connected to each other. You could climb on some of them with ladders, and others with stairs, but all of them were above the main arena in some way. There were half walls on the platforms as well, to suffice as some kind of shelter.
You considered your options. Higher ground seemed like an iffy course of action, even if you could hide behind the walls. Your opponent wouldn’t be ABLE to find you, at least that was the hope, but then again there was only one way down. And if you found yourself trapped with the opponent, you’d be easy prey, especially if they were blocking the escape route. You decided it was best to stay on the floor, where your mobility wouldn’t be limited; there could always come a time when running became the better choice.
Now was the tricky part. Did you present yourself or not? You were safe right now under the cover of the hallway, but you couldn’t stay here forever. Someone had to win this game of laser tag. You lifted your laser gun up, clutching it firmly in your hands, and then boldly stalked into the open.
As you did, you spotted exactly who you were looking for in the darkness of one of the hallways. “Oh, Adam,” you called out amiably. “Why don’t we fight face to face?”
Adam took his shot, much to your disappointment. Your headband buzzed and your watch flashed wildly. You were slightly amused that Adam managed to get a shot on you.
“I’m impressed,” you said sweetly, stepping behind one of the half walls. “I wasn’t expecting you to get the first shot on me.”
Adam mumbled something back, but it was too quiet for you to hear.
That was my fault, you admitted. I was practically asking to be shot… But this isn’t over. I won’t let him win this. But cockiness doesn’t get you anywhere either. You reminded yourself calmly. I’ll have to be more careful. This shouldn’t be hard. Adam will slip up soon anyway.
You sunk back into the shadows, and wound around the long way. If you could come up behind Adam, you’d have the element of surprise.
Crawling on your hands and knees, you fumbled through the dark corridor. At the end of it was Adam Faulkner. You could see him from this angle. He had his back to you, clutching the laser gun to his chest.
You smirked to yourself. Adam could be scatterbrained, and obviously he could be a little clumsy too, but you loved him all the same. You stopped moving and took in the sight before. It wouldn’t take long for Adam to see you, but he wouldn’t notice you for a couple of minutes.
Adam’s lithe body pressing against the wall was enticing. His body language told you that he was just slightly uneasy, but not uncomfortable. His hair was still damp from swimming in the lake earlier, which made it look fluffy. There were… many ideas going through your mind of what you could do to him while he was pushed so closely to the wall, and none of them were winning laser tag. You tried not to get excited.
Focusing, you raised the gun into the air. You aimed for the band on his head, and took a shot. Two, actually. The two red lights flashed and you leaned back as they blinked out. You smiled proudly at Adam when he turned around, looking flustered. “Y/N!” He exclaimed. “I… I didn’t know you were there.”
Your gaze flashed down his body, taking in every single detail. How his white shirt hung loosely on his body, and his black flannel hung open. The way he pointed the laser gun at you even though he was nervous. How he pretended to be confident when he was actually fairly agitated. You could see it all in his movements, and his expressions.
He shot at you, but his nerves made him edgy. He missed. You couldn’t help feeling slightly attracted to that. “Relax…” you murmured. “You can’t perform anything under pressure.”
You brought up the gun, but Adam laughed. “Yeah. We’ll see.” He made a run for the opposing hallway that was on the other side of the arena. You let him get away. You could take your time with this.
Two to one… I think we know who’s winning.
You followed him out, quickly. This led to a rushed game of laser tag. Stanheight tried to stay behind the cover of the half walls, and you tried to stand back and keep track of him. You both ran around each other for a good five minutes. Sometimes one of you would round a corner and find yourselves way too close to the other, and then go bolting in the other direction. Adam was smiling by this time. There was a glint of happiness in his eyes, and his cheeks were red from running around. You liked that - a lot.
At one point a shooting fit erupted from both of you. Neither of you made a shot, though Adam nearly got you several times. The laser beams sliced the air back and forth and spiraled into walls, but never quite touched the assigned target. It unsatisfied you, but now that Adam was warming up, he wasn’t that much of an easy target. You regretted underestimating him.
“Y/N,” Adam said at last. “Let me win so we can go home.”
You cocked your head to the side, suspiciously. “What are you saying? You aren’t having any fun? Come on, you look like you're having a blast. Your body language says it.”
Adam shuffled his feet awkwardly. “No. That’s not what I meant. I-I was trying to make a joke.”
His timidness made you giddy. You laughed. “Oh, I see. You want me to let you win.”
Adam chuckled nervously. “Uh… Yeah, I guess.”
You lunged for him, but Adam dove backwards, slamming into the entrance doors with a thud. You could hear the painful clash as Adam’s back was thrown into the doorknobs. You flinched for him. “Shit. That hurt,” Adam mumbled.
“Are you okay?” You asked hesitantly.
“I think.”
“Good.” You lifted yourself up so that you were looking down at Adam, and whispered, “Having a good day?”
“Y-Yeah,” stammered your boyfriend.
Putting him under pressure was cute. You loved how it made him react. “Yeah?” Adam nodded, but didn't say anything. You kissed him gently on the lips, then pulled away slightly. Adam looked at you longingly. “Good. That’s very good. I’m glad. Today was supposed to help you feel better. Is it working?”
Adam sank into the door, and gazed at you like a lost puppy. “Yes…”
You smirked at him. Adam had practically melted into your arms. He had a look of desperation on his face. “I love you,” you told him.
Adam groaned. “I love you, too, baby.”
“Hmmm,” you hummed out, satisfied. “I’ll bet you do.”
You kissed him again, and Adam deepened it immediately. He was trying to get every piece of you, but you didn’t allow that. You only gave him a little bit of what he wanted. Adam struggled on the door for a couple seconds but you pushed him down. “Comfortable?” You purred in his ear.
Adam moaned into your mouth. “Y/N… Please…”
“Now’re you ready to go home?” You asked teasingly.
“Uh… W-What would we do at home?”
You raised a smug eyebrow. “Well, I know what I would be doing.”
“What?”
You only licked your upper lip. The answer was standing right in front of you. Your gaze flashed down Adam’s body. Then you leaned down for a third time, and connected your lips to his lips.
It was a passionate kiss that lasted for a long time. Beneath you, you could feel your boyfriend wriggling frantically, attempting to get closer to you, attempting to provoke a more furious reaction from you. You weren’t giving him your all, and he knew that. You wouldn’t take this seriously until you were at home. This was just to work poor Adam up.
In the midst of your making-out, you very promptly raised the laser gun into the air. In one swift motion you pushed the gun to Adam’s headband, and won the game.
There was an announcer on the headband, and it’s words resounded around the room chaotically. “headshot!”
You stepped back gently, leaving Adam’s mouth lonely. His band was flashing, as was his watch.
Adam glanced at you miserably. “Wait.”
“Game over…” you remarked wittily, and bit your lower lip flirtatiously.
Adam rolled his head back onto the door. You could tell that he had gotten carried away in the moment, and recovering was going to be hard.
The door was pulled back randomly, and you grabbed Adam’s wrist and yanked him towards you so that he was leaning on you for support; you didn’t want him to fall over. He leaned into you dizzily, trying to regain his composure. Somehow he got more attractive when he looked like that. You had to grit your teeth, to keep yourself from doing anything you’d regret. You handed your laser tag gear to the security guard.
“You’re the first,” the security guard growled. “I will never allow my boss to accept private games again.”
“Thanks,” you said smartly. “We enjoyed it. Didn’t we, Adam, baby?”
Adam stumbled after you. He had taken off his laser tag gear as well. “Huh? Oh, yeah. We did.”
You said gracefully, “You look like you need some taking care of. Are you ready to go home?”
Adam nodded instantly. “Yeah.”
You nodded back. That didn’t surprise you in the slightest. Adam was staring at you with a look of utter passion on his face. “You want something?” You asked seductively.
Adam nodded again.
“Can you wait ‘till we get home?” You inquired softly.
Faulkner let out a long sigh. “Okay.”
You smiled proudly to yourself. Your boyfriend was long gone by now. He had fallen into your trap a long time ago. “Get in the car,” you instructed. Adam trudged off, and you followed behind him, checking him out along the way.
The ride home was short, though you were pretty sure Adam couldn’t agree with that statement. Poor Adam, he was struggling at the moment, but that look on his face… The one where he stared at you like you were the only good thing in the damn world. That gave you power, you ate it up. Once you made it to the apartment a flurry of hurried actions occurred. The following events were… unsuitable to describe to the outside world, but one thing was obvious: Adam was definitely the one being dominated, and you wouldn’t have it any other way.
I was always a shy boy who was ashamed of my submissive desires. When He messaged me for the first time He had nothing to indicate he was a Dom on His profile. He didn't need to, he exuded a calm, non-arrogant power.
When he started listing what He wanted to do to me, arousal and shame competed fiercely in my head. He was going to make me drink His piss. Get on my knees and look up at Him while choking on His dick. I wanted it, my little dick grew hard even thinking about it but what if my friends, or work colleagues found out I was so submissive, so controlled.
To calm my nerves I asked Him if He was discrete. He assured me He was not going to tell anyone and that He was only interested in using me. He felt safe, He was from out of town and just wanted a fuck toy. I could handle this.
He wanted to go for a drink before we fucked. I was surprised as usually 'Dom' guys had just went for a fuck and leave affair. Why would He want to go for a drink?
I arrived at the bar first, with my cock caged and a hole plugged as instructed. I waited there anxiously for Him. The He came through the door. Tall, relaxed and with a cheeky grin as He saw me there. Then I saw his sweater - "DISCIPLINE IS NOT A DIRTY WORD" my heart pounded as I looked around to see if there was anyone I recognised but as I checked the room I could feel my dick swelling up in its cage and felt like I was going to cum! He sat down and kissed my forehead and smiled at me "you ok there". He knew exactly what was happening to me, and had planned it.
Later he fucked me hard, tied me up, pissed on me. It was incredible - but the greatest act of domination was in the bar, calmly pushing my limits by simply wearing a sweater.
That was the day I learned that domination is about the subtle every day acts as much as it is taking a dick hard.
BLOG OVERHAUL
Redoing my blog, I’ve found out I’m pretty submissive when I’m with a black man. So I am dedicating my blog now to ‘THE BLACK BREEDING PROGRAM’. I want to make this a real thing. I want to set up a KIK group to help people find what they need. This blog will be dedicated for Black men to find a white sissy male to fuck BAREBACK. If you are uncomfortable with being barebacked please let the person you talk to know.
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Hey, if you are in France, please message me. I'm an extremely cute and obedient little doll. I wanna meet likeminded freaks irl.
You're a good toy, aren't you?
Yes, you are..
You're an obedient doll
Following all and every command given to you
It feels so good to give in..
To have your thoughts and actions
Controlled..
As if you have no power over yourself..
You just want to obey every command..
Every order given to you
Don't you?
Yes you do..
So here's an order for you..
Find somewhere quiet..
Let yourself relax..
And be prepared to Drop
Deep into trance..
Stare mindlessly at this spiral
And feel as it slowly sucks your brain in..
As your mind gets helplessly erased..
With each and every breath you take
Every passing second..
Let your mind clear..
As you sink deeper and deeper..
Slowly but surely..
Feel it become impossible to focus
To concentrate on anything but my words..
You feel yourself Drop..
Further and further..
Deeper and deeper..
Into trance..
And now, I'm going to count to three..
With each and every number you'll feel yourself be Dragged even deeper into trance..
In a state or complete
And absolute
Relaxation..
One.
And you feel yourself lose control over your body..
Feeling every cell, every muscle of your body..
Relaxing.. completely..
More than ever before..
Two.
And your mind forcibly shuts down
You go Blank
Empty
And Obedient
You have no thoughts..
No worries..
Enjoying the complete emptiness..
Bliss..
And Three.
You've never been this deep before..
In a state of absolute trance
Floating around in pleasure
Your consciousness.. deep asleep
And your subconscious in my control
You can't move, you can't wake..
Not that you'd want to..
It feels So Very Good
To be This Very Deep
Out like a candle..
Like an obedient toy..
Good girl..
Now, I'm going to count to three..
On three you will wake up..
Feeling Needy.
As if your insides are on fire
You feel arousal more than you've ever before..
Your mind melts down
And you start shaking..
Drooling..
Moaning in arousal..
The second I say the word
Three
You'll be wide awake..
And as if a button has been pressed on a toy
You'll be in breeding mode...
Wanting nothing more to be used and abused..
To be bred..
Like a good fucktoy..
Like a bitch in heat..
Uncontrollably horny..
But, this arousal comes at a cost..
When you wake up, you will Not be able to pleasure yourself..
In any way whatsoever..
No touching..
No rubbing..
No humping..
There will be nothing you can do to bring yourself pleasure..
..Except one..
After reblogging this post, you will come to my DMs..
And tell me your wildest sexual fantasies..
Because everything you describe to me
You will feel.
Whether it is being touched..
Used..
Fucked..
Everything you describe to me
You will feel Vividly.
And the more detail you use, the more pleasure you can give yourself..
And you Need to please yourself..
More than anything..
Ready, now?
One..
Two..
Three.
And you're wide awake..
Feeling feral
Mindlessly horny
More than you've ever been before..
A bitch in heat who'll do anything for pleasure..
I'll enjoy reading your perverted fantasies~
Rules!!
Rules are the basis for many cg/l and d/s relationships. They allow for an exchange of power and give the dominant or caregiver a way to help the little or submissive grow and learn as a person. I’ve met and talked to a lot of people that have trouble making a basic rule list that works for them weather it be the dominant or submissive making it. So this is my basic list. It’s all the rules I would usually include:
1. ready for bed (shower, brush teeth, pajamas, etc) by 9pm
2. In bed and asleep by 10pm
3. No bringing harm to yourself
4. No harming others unless in self defense
5. At least two good meals a day
6. Always tell me if you will be gone for long periods of time, why, and how long. (I will never control who you hang out with, just wanna know you're safe)
7. Absolutely NO drugs or alcohol unless prescribed by a doctor.
8. Always ask for sweets.
9. No sweets after 9pm
10. Refusing to do an AGREED UPON punishment will result in a worsened punishment. (This is not saying punishments can not be taken off limits or discussed. Your feelings come first in all of this. It just serves as a warning to do what you're told when you break a rule.
11. You will never hold back on how you feel about things like rules or punishments. This is for your safety and happiness
12. You are ALWAYS allowed to come to me with any problem, concern, or worry 24/7
13. Clean your room once a week
14. No getting in trouble at school
15. No junk food unless you ask first
16. No talking bad about yourself
17. No cussing
18. Talk to me at least once a day no matter what
19. Try your best in everything
Rules vary greatly from person to person. I believe rules should always be negotiable for the submissives saftey and happiness. Making compromises that suit you both is an essential part in making this work. ALWAYS keep a clear line of communication between you and your partner. I can speak from experience that ignoring a problem or leaving it to fester will only make it worse for the both of you. I hope this helps lovelies ☺️
Long Distance Relationships
Long distance relationships are, in my opinion, one of the absolute hardest to make work. And make work for the long haul. There are so many things that could go wrong but when those things don’t it only makes you and your partner closer and stronger than anyone else. Let’s go over the pros and cons of general ldr first.
*pros
- you have literally an entire planet of people to pick from so you’re bound to find your soulmate somewhere
- You have a reason to save money and do better for yourself and go see somewhere new with someone you love
- Making it work will only make the both of you stronger together
- You can discover a new culture/society/ place and learn about life for your partner wherever they live
- You can teach someone new traditions and customs
- You don’t have to pay outrageous shipping fees to send them something if you get it online.
- These are only the ones I could think of. Feel free to add your own if they aren’t here!
*cons
- little to no physical contact
- Time zone differences
- You need to trust your partner 100%
- Late nights and early mornings because of time differences
- Loneliness from lack of physical contact
- Idiots butting into your personal life because they feel they know best
- The closest you can get for now is Skype calls and FaceTime
- Not being able to scare those who hurt your significant other.
You can compare those two lists and make your own assessment on which matters more. I personally prefer long distance in the beginning but once I’ve found that special person I want to spend my life with I want them as close as possible.
Now onto ldr for cg/l and d/s relationships. These include all of the pros and cons from the first two lists with a couple extra cons due to the nature of these relationships.
- ABSOLUTE TRUST. cg/l and d/s relationships already require much more trust than a vanilla or normal relationship so to do them long distance you need even more.
- Punishments are a bit of a Grey area. You have to trust that your little or submissive will follow through with them especially for the ones you really have no way of checking.
- COMMUNICATION. I don’t think I could ever say this enough but communication is so. Fluffin. Important! Long distance makes communication hard as it is so with cg/l and d/s relationships again needing even more of it than normal it becomes a huge issue a lot of times. You need to communicate any and all problems or concerns to your partner when you are long distance especially because they are not there. They can not read your body language or nervous ticks and habits from miles and miles and miles away.
Okay now onto the part where I do my best to help.
_ Skype (play)dates and scenes can be very helpful with being more connected with your partner. Get creative with those camera angles people because you’ll need it.
As far as punishments go there are a few that can be done and you can know they got done correctly.
- writing lines
- Skyping while the sub or little sits in corner time
- Dictionary definitions
- Silent treatment
- I know most of these seem childish but they are effective. If you have any more feel free to add them!
And lastly but certainly not least COMMUNICATION
-weekly talk it out sessions where once a week you both sit down and have a serious talk about your lives, thoughts, concerns, relationship, the whole shabang.
-being clear and open about what’s on your mind
-lay it all out. Don’t hide anything. It will come back to haunt you later.
That is all I have for today if you have any questions, comments, concerns, feel free to contact me. Be good, stay safe, and have fun!
Self Care
Self care is so important for caregivers/doms and Littles/subs alike. It is important for doms because subs depend on you to take care of them and you can not do that without taking care of yourself first. Think of it like this, an empty battery can not power something else. You need to feel good to make sure they feel good. Subs need to care for themselves because you can not always count on a dom to be able to completely care for you especially if you don’t have one.
Dom selfcare.
- let yourself relax. Take a day to just give yourself a re charge
- Take a warm bath
- Jam out to music
- Make yourself a nice meal
- Order take out and laze around in sweats with Netflix or Hulu
- Take a mid day nap
- Binge your favorite show
- Talk to someone and just let out your frustration
Sub selfcare
- Drown in your headspace and let your problems float away.
- Cuddle with your stuffies
- Make a pillow fort
- Take a bubble bath
- Stay in your jammies all day
- Eat an okay amount of sweets and junk food(something not detrimental to your health)
- Color to your hearts content
- Dance around the house to music
Everyone needs to take the occasional personal day to work on themselves and recharge. No matter what helps you do that, it’s worth it if it helps to better yourself. You can not help others if you can’t help yourself.
I know this is shorter than usual but it’s something that I felt needed to be said. Until next time Be good, stay safe, and have fun!
Self Acceptance
Acceptance is different for many people. Sometimes it’s easy to accept yourself and your habits, wants, or needs. For others, it may not be so easy. I have never really thought of it before because I am one of those people where it comes very easily to me. However a few days ago someone needing my help came to me about a little space need not sitting well with them outside of their headspace even though they needed it to be happy and that’s what I’m explaining today.
*happiness
Happiness is something that most everyone desires, needs even to make it through their day to day life. However, if we stop our selves from being happy because what makes us happy is a little off putting then we are only making it worse for ourselves. As long as you’re not hurting anyone in any way that they have not fully consented to or hurting yourself then there’s no problem with wanting to be happy. It’s like having a favorite food combo that everyone finds weird or even you find weird and not enjoying it even though you know it tastes amazing. Happiness is not a crime.
*acceptance
Liking something out of the ordinary is not uncommon. Everyone has their own preferences, likes, dislikes, etc. again, as long as you’re not hurting anyone in any way that they have not fully consented to or hurting yourself then there’s no problem with it. If you like that pacifier at Walmart, you buy that pacifier! You like the tea set at toys r us? I’ll write the tea party invitations for you! Diapers put you in your headspace? Diaper up and giggle away! My point is that even if you think your likes, hobbies, headspace activities, or anything else you like to do is out of the ordinary, just remember that if it makes you happy, relaxes you, de stresses you, or puts you in your headspace then there’s nothing wrong with it. Not even in the slightest.
That’s all for today. I hope this is a help to anyone who needs it. If you want help with anything specific or need to talk to someone my asks and inbox are always open day or night. Be good, stay safe, and have fun!
Safe words!
We’re talking safewords words today kiddos. In my opinion, they are one of the most important aspects in this community next to communication but they also go hand in hand. A safeword is a word used during a scene or 24/7 sub/dom (and the nsfw side of cg/l) dynamic. It needs to be something you would never accidentally say while in the moment or just in everyday life.
Common Safe words-
* green for go
* Yellow for slow down or need a break
* Red for stop immediately
I refer to this as coloring out and I’ve seen the term used a lot in the community. I believe that while doing an intense scene or pushing your subs limits you should check on them throughout by asking their color.
Other Safeword suggestions
* pineapple
* Unicorn
* Dragon
* Freeze
* Mango
* Phone number (from a book. It’s actually sad)
* Ladybug
* Apple
* Drop
The list could go on and on and on. It just has to be a random word that will get your doms attention quickly. Doms who do not listen to safe words are to be avoided at all costs. This is very bad and very dangerous for the submissive, safewords are there to protect you. Not to be taken lightly.
Those are verbal safewords, if the sub can not speak for this or that reason then there are still ways to give them the ability to safeword.
* hold a ball in your hand. Drop it to safeword.
* A small metal bar, drop to safeword
* Tap a designated spot on your body
* Clap( if possible)
* If not, shake your hands(like jazz hands)
* A button strapped to the subs palm, press it so it makes an alerting noise
These can also go on and on. It is really just what works for you and what will get your doms attention efficiently.
A fair amount of new subs or subs with a new dominant do not like to safeword because they feel it makes them look weak, this is absolutely not the case. Safewords are always appropriate whenever they are needed! Do not force yourself to do something you are not comfortable with to please anyone! They are meant to keep you safe, comfortable, and happy.
That’s all for today. Be good, be safe, and have fun!
Dom Drop and Sub Drop
Okay lovelies I will be covering subdrop AND domdrop tomorrow. It’s gonna be long. It’s gonna be extensive but if there’s anything you feel should definitely be in there or an experience you’ve personally had with either of them and you want me to add what helped you or how you knew what was going on or the symptoms you feel need to be covered let me know!!!! Either through anon or messages my inbox is always open but with such a serious topic I want to make sure I cover every base possible. Thank you for all your help lovelies!! Be good, be safe, and have fun!
Subdrop
For the multi-roll labeling purpose today I’m going to refer to it as Drop. Drop happens usually after an intense scene but can also happen after any scene if it was particularly pleasurable and draining. Drop is the result of your brain releasing “happy chemicals” and adrenaline in large doses during a scene and then your body and mental state going through a withdrawal essentially because they are not coming in at such high doses after the scene has ended. For subs it usually happens within a day or two of the scene. However, for doms it could be several days before it kicks in and really hits you. It’s especially bad for subs and doms with anxiety or self doubt. I will be covering both subdrop and domdrop today because they are both very real and could potentially be very dangerous.
Subdrop-
Subdrop tends to happen a day or two after a scene. It does not always happen but those no real way to guarantee it won’t happen so it’s good to keep an eye out for it any time. There are a lot of different ways it can show up. Let’s talk about the physical things first
- It can show up as feeling like a hangover
- like you stayed up too late (even if you got more than enough sleep)
- you could wake up feeling just off
- Drop can be associated with feelings of loneliness, mental and physical exhaustion, confusion, insecurity, tremors and many other physical symptoms.
Not so random fact: pain can make you tired. You’re going to feel it and it’s going to wear your energy down, and your body is going to be short on chemicals to give you a boost. This can make you crash and suddenly become exhausted, and being tired can make you emotional.
Honestly, the emotional side is the more dangerous half. Emotions can wreak havoc on our logic,you could be great one minute like normal, then suddenly you’re completely out of it and it can be mental torture.
- you could feel abandoned
- Depression(especially if you already have it on a daily basis)
- Even feeling unloved is common during subdrop.
Subdrop can not be prevented or avoided entirely. You can try but there’s no sure fire way to do so. Here’s how to help subdrop:
- If you can get to your dom and they can help you calm down and reassure you with cuddles and words that works fairly well for most people.
- COMMUNICATION( I really can not say that enough) Text or call your Dom as soon as possible.
- if you can’t get a hold of them, you need to stop and evaluate.
- Remind yourself that sub drop is normal
- remind yourself of what happened during and after the session.
- There should have been some type of aftercare, go back to that moment and stay there.
- Remember how loved you felt, hold on to the fact that your dom cares for you.
- Take your self to a happy place with happy and positive thoughts
If you’re feeling a little emotional, think of what makes you feel better when you’re sick (because you kind of are). A warm blanket, a bubble bath, candy, a favorite drink, music, etc. If you are someone who likes to journal, keep a notebook with you to write out how you feel to get the words out and down, this might also help you clear your head before you talk to your Dom.
Okay I know I was supposed to have this up a while ago but I had several things come up. I just recently got a new job and that’s been taking up a lot more of my free time which was sparse enough since I try to meet with my friends often. As you can see this only covers subdrop. I’m not confident in the level of research I’ve been able to do on domdrop and don’t want to give vague or incorrect information to you guys. I’ll try to get it done soon but no promises. I will also be at daughters of the moon which is a Wiccan event this weekend so contact and any sort of posting will be delayed until at least Monday. As always be good, stay safe, and have fun!
Hey guys. I had to go on a bit of a hiatus to fix a few things in my life and help a few friends get through some things. I hope to be posting again soon but I am currently on a road trip and I have a convention after that and then I’m moving for college so I’ve got a lot to do between now and mid July but after that I should be back to our regularly scheduled program. Still feel free to message me or send me asks, I really do love answering those, and I will be active as much as possible besides full on posting. This is caregiver signing out, be good, stay safe, and have fun!