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I'm Mars dominant, and mamma mia- it's way too accurate 🔥😍🔥

Mars dominant

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🔥 Ambition, Drive: for a Mars dominant the desire is their gasoline, they need to have a dream, a goal, something that everyone else in the world believes is impossible for them to go there and do. They needs to experience battles and win wars to feel alive.

🔥 Success, Victory: the will of Mars dominant is insatiable, they don't know what to stop, they don't know the meaning of the word "limits", that's why they win. They fall and rise. They get hurt by fire and therefore carry scars that are horrible to others, but they proudly carry each one of them, because if life did not give them the trophy they stuck it in their body, heart and soul.

🔥 Competition, Infamy: their desire surpasses that of any other, they may even want to help, put you first, but they cannot, if for them if help you in a super insignificant way will not help them, they will not do it and because of that, people usually don't like them, they live so much in their own rules that they created that the rules of society hate them, and that is why they always have a problem with some image of power.

🔥 Passion, Fervor: no one understands the flame of love as they do, if they love someone it is forever, if they love a religion they follow it faithfully, if they like a restaurant they go there whenever they can and they will cry too much if they miss something that they appreciate, because they live life so intensely that things do not mark their heart but their soul.

🔥 Fury, Vengeance: everything that happens to them marks in the soul, so the negative things too. Do not think that a Mars dominant will forget or forgive, do not step on them toes, they will attack in the same way that was attacked, from the front and straight. They doesn't beat weaker ones, but those who think they are more powerful than them, they drop with a delicious flavor.

Jupiter dominant

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⚡ Abundance, Wealth: they may even complain, but the life of a Jupiter dominant has less ups and downs than the rest. They don't have to do what we call “selling lunch to eat dinner”, financial problems were not an issue for them and probably never will be.

⚡ Joy, Optimism: basically, they are happy people, they are people who do not need to create shields and barriers to live life and therefore they do not carry weights, they live lightly, they like to live life and feel the warmth of the day and of people.

⚡ Versatility, Broad mindedness: in life they don't need to create armor (and even technically moving with armor is totally normal, look for videos, we are talking about barriers in the soul) they are not fixed people and difficult to change, they understand the differences and the different tides that life brings. People are different, how cool. You found someone with a name that you would only have in another country, how incredible.

⚡ Leadership, Authority: no matter how good they are, their voice is heard like a bang, Jupiter dominant are easily heard, often followed because people believe what they say, others see him as a wise leader, a guru or a monk.

⚡Expansion, Influence: in the area they are in, they are influential, they are seen, others perceive them as titans on earth, beings of enormous power and that is usually what they do, they do not tend to change life, customs, they are mirrors of Alexander the Great, to conquer and expand, but without changing the customs and truths of those who were conquered.

Take me places that nobody knows… 🍷🩸

A good therapy for the sweet little submissives who know what their body wants, but are in denial.

You better trust your Dom, he knows what's best for his sub.. ..to expand her horizons safely..

who needs therapy

"no don’t do that, don’t do that"

Your parents are confused as to why you and Hamza haven’t yet submitted your final school project, you show them your face coated in thick Arab seed and they completely understand 

You can only watch as your daughters get bred by the same Muslim man, a year later you’re welcoming seven new baby Mohammed's in the family.

No matter how hard you try, you can’t keep away from him. He wants to take you back to his home country so he can inject your lips with filler, pump those breasts and that ass up. And then cover you up modestly to be a good obedient Muslimah

A white boy is destined to develop anxiety and depression unless they adopt a life of devotion and sex. The moment their white lips engulf an Arab cock their worries wash away. They think about nothing but Islam and Muslim hunks...

Rules!!

Rules are the basis for many cg/l and d/s relationships. They allow for an exchange of power and give the dominant or caregiver a way to help the little or submissive grow and learn as a person. I’ve met and talked to a lot of people that have trouble making a basic rule list that works for them weather it be the dominant or submissive making it. So this is my basic list. It’s all the rules I would usually include:

1. ready for bed (shower, brush teeth, pajamas, etc) by 9pm

2. In bed and asleep by 10pm

3. No bringing harm to yourself

4. No harming others unless in self defense

5. At least two good meals a day

6. Always tell me if you will be gone for long periods of time, why, and how long. (I will never control who you hang out with, just wanna know you're safe)

7. Absolutely NO drugs or alcohol unless prescribed by a doctor.

8. Always ask for sweets.

9. No sweets after 9pm

10. Refusing to do an AGREED UPON punishment will result in a worsened punishment. (This is not saying punishments can not be taken off limits or discussed. Your feelings come first in all of this. It just serves as a warning to do what you're told when you break a rule.

11. You will never hold back on how you feel about things like rules or punishments. This is for your safety and happiness

12. You are ALWAYS allowed to come to me with any problem, concern, or worry 24/7

13. Clean your room once a week

14. No getting in trouble at school

15. No junk food unless you ask first

16. No talking bad about yourself

17. No cussing

18. Talk to me at least once a day no matter what

19. Try your best in everything

Rules vary greatly from person to person. I believe rules should always be negotiable for the submissives saftey and happiness. Making compromises that suit you both is an essential part in making this work. ALWAYS keep a clear line of communication between you and your partner. I can speak from experience that ignoring a problem or leaving it to fester will only make it worse for the both of you. I hope this helps lovelies ☺️

Long Distance Relationships

Long distance relationships are, in my opinion, one of the absolute hardest to make work. And make work for the long haul. There are so many things that could go wrong but when those things don’t it only makes you and your partner closer and stronger than anyone else. Let’s go over the pros and cons of general ldr first.

*pros

- you have literally an entire planet of people to pick from so you’re bound to find your soulmate somewhere

- You have a reason to save money and do better for yourself and go see somewhere new with someone you love

- Making it work will only make the both of you stronger together

- You can discover a new culture/society/ place and learn about life for your partner wherever they live

- You can teach someone new traditions and customs

- You don’t have to pay outrageous shipping fees to send them something if you get it online.

- These are only the ones I could think of. Feel free to add your own if they aren’t here!

*cons

- little to no physical contact

- Time zone differences

- You need to trust your partner 100%

- Late nights and early mornings because of time differences

- Loneliness from lack of physical contact

- Idiots butting into your personal life because they feel they know best

- The closest you can get for now is Skype calls and FaceTime

- Not being able to scare those who hurt your significant other.

You can compare those two lists and make your own assessment on which matters more. I personally prefer long distance in the beginning but once I’ve found that special person I want to spend my life with I want them as close as possible.

Now onto ldr for cg/l and d/s relationships. These include all of the pros and cons from the first two lists with a couple extra cons due to the nature of these relationships.

- ABSOLUTE TRUST. cg/l and d/s relationships already require much more trust than a vanilla or normal relationship so to do them long distance you need even more.

- Punishments are a bit of a Grey area. You have to trust that your little or submissive will follow through with them especially for the ones you really have no way of checking.

- COMMUNICATION. I don’t think I could ever say this enough but communication is so. Fluffin. Important! Long distance makes communication hard as it is so with cg/l and d/s relationships again needing even more of it than normal it becomes a huge issue a lot of times. You need to communicate any and all problems or concerns to your partner when you are long distance especially because they are not there. They can not read your body language or nervous ticks and habits from miles and miles and miles away.

Okay now onto the part where I do my best to help.

_ Skype (play)dates and scenes can be very helpful with being more connected with your partner. Get creative with those camera angles people because you’ll need it.

As far as punishments go there are a few that can be done and you can know they got done correctly.

- writing lines

- Skyping while the sub or little sits in corner time

- Dictionary definitions

- Silent treatment

- I know most of these seem childish but they are effective. If you have any more feel free to add them!

And lastly but certainly not least COMMUNICATION

-weekly talk it out sessions where once a week you both sit down and have a serious talk about your lives, thoughts, concerns, relationship, the whole shabang.

-being clear and open about what’s on your mind

-lay it all out. Don’t hide anything. It will come back to haunt you later.

That is all I have for today if you have any questions, comments, concerns, feel free to contact me. Be good, stay safe, and have fun!

Self Care

Self care is so important for caregivers/doms and Littles/subs alike. It is important for doms because subs depend on you to take care of them and you can not do that without taking care of yourself first. Think of it like this, an empty battery can not power something else. You need to feel good to make sure they feel good. Subs need to care for themselves because you can not always count on a dom to be able to completely care for you especially if you don’t have one.

Dom selfcare.

- let yourself relax. Take a day to just give yourself a re charge

- Take a warm bath

- Jam out to music

- Make yourself a nice meal

- Order take out and laze around in sweats with Netflix or Hulu

- Take a mid day nap

- Binge your favorite show

- Talk to someone and just let out your frustration

Sub selfcare

- Drown in your headspace and let your problems float away.

- Cuddle with your stuffies

- Make a pillow fort

- Take a bubble bath

- Stay in your jammies all day

- Eat an okay amount of sweets and junk food(something not detrimental to your health)

- Color to your hearts content

- Dance around the house to music

Everyone needs to take the occasional personal day to work on themselves and recharge. No matter what helps you do that, it’s worth it if it helps to better yourself. You can not help others if you can’t help yourself.

I know this is shorter than usual but it’s something that I felt needed to be said. Until next time Be good, stay safe, and have fun!

Self Acceptance

Acceptance is different for many people. Sometimes it’s easy to accept yourself and your habits, wants, or needs. For others, it may not be so easy. I have never really thought of it before because I am one of those people where it comes very easily to me. However a few days ago someone needing my help came to me about a little space need not sitting well with them outside of their headspace even though they needed it to be happy and that’s what I’m explaining today.

*happiness

Happiness is something that most everyone desires, needs even to make it through their day to day life. However, if we stop our selves from being happy because what makes us happy is a little off putting then we are only making it worse for ourselves. As long as you’re not hurting anyone in any way that they have not fully consented to or hurting yourself then there’s no problem with wanting to be happy. It’s like having a favorite food combo that everyone finds weird or even you find weird and not enjoying it even though you know it tastes amazing. Happiness is not a crime.

*acceptance

Liking something out of the ordinary is not uncommon. Everyone has their own preferences, likes, dislikes, etc. again, as long as you’re not hurting anyone in any way that they have not fully consented to or hurting yourself then there’s no problem with it. If you like that pacifier at Walmart, you buy that pacifier! You like the tea set at toys r us? I’ll write the tea party invitations for you! Diapers put you in your headspace? Diaper up and giggle away! My point is that even if you think your likes, hobbies, headspace activities, or anything else you like to do is out of the ordinary, just remember that if it makes you happy, relaxes you, de stresses you, or puts you in your headspace then there’s nothing wrong with it. Not even in the slightest.

That’s all for today. I hope this is a help to anyone who needs it. If you want help with anything specific or need to talk to someone my asks and inbox are always open day or night. Be good, stay safe, and have fun!

Safe words!

We’re talking safewords words today kiddos. In my opinion, they are one of the most important aspects in this community next to communication but they also go hand in hand. A safeword is a word used during a scene or 24/7 sub/dom (and the nsfw side of cg/l) dynamic. It needs to be something you would never accidentally say while in the moment or just in everyday life.

Common Safe words-

* green for go

* Yellow for slow down or need a break

* Red for stop immediately

I refer to this as coloring out and I’ve seen the term used a lot in the community. I believe that while doing an intense scene or pushing your subs limits you should check on them throughout by asking their color.

Other Safeword suggestions

* pineapple

* Unicorn

* Dragon

* Freeze

* Mango

* Phone number (from a book. It’s actually sad)

* Ladybug

* Apple

* Drop

The list could go on and on and on. It just has to be a random word that will get your doms attention quickly. Doms who do not listen to safe words are to be avoided at all costs. This is very bad and very dangerous for the submissive, safewords are there to protect you. Not to be taken lightly.

Those are verbal safewords, if the sub can not speak for this or that reason then there are still ways to give them the ability to safeword.

* hold a ball in your hand. Drop it to safeword.

* A small metal bar, drop to safeword

* Tap a designated spot on your body

* Clap( if possible)

* If not, shake your hands(like jazz hands)

* A button strapped to the subs palm, press it so it makes an alerting noise

These can also go on and on. It is really just what works for you and what will get your doms attention efficiently.

A fair amount of new subs or subs with a new dominant do not like to safeword because they feel it makes them look weak, this is absolutely not the case. Safewords are always appropriate whenever they are needed! Do not force yourself to do something you are not comfortable with to please anyone! They are meant to keep you safe, comfortable, and happy.

That’s all for today. Be good, be safe, and have fun!

Dom Drop and Sub Drop

Okay lovelies I will be covering subdrop AND domdrop tomorrow. It’s gonna be long. It’s gonna be extensive but if there’s anything you feel should definitely be in there or an experience you’ve personally had with either of them and you want me to add what helped you or how you knew what was going on or the symptoms you feel need to be covered let me know!!!! Either through anon or messages my inbox is always open but with such a serious topic I want to make sure I cover every base possible. Thank you for all your help lovelies!! Be good, be safe, and have fun!

Subdrop

For the multi-roll labeling purpose today I’m going to refer to it as Drop. Drop happens usually after an intense scene but can also happen after any scene if it was particularly pleasurable and draining. Drop is the result of your brain releasing “happy chemicals” and adrenaline in large doses during a scene and then your body and mental state going through a withdrawal essentially because they are not coming in at such high doses after the scene has ended. For subs it usually happens within a day or two of the scene. However, for doms it could be several days before it kicks in and really hits you. It’s especially bad for subs and doms with anxiety or self doubt. I will be covering both subdrop and domdrop today because they are both very real and could potentially be very dangerous.

Subdrop-

Subdrop tends to happen a day or two after a scene. It does not always happen but those no real way to guarantee it won’t happen so it’s good to keep an eye out for it any time. There are a lot of different ways it can show up. Let’s talk about the physical things first

- It can show up as feeling like a hangover

- like you stayed up too late (even if you got more than enough sleep)

- you could wake up feeling just off

- Drop can be associated with feelings of loneliness, mental and physical exhaustion, confusion, insecurity, tremors and many other physical symptoms.

Not so random fact: pain can make you tired. You’re going to feel it and it’s going to wear your energy down, and your body is going to be short on chemicals to give you a boost. This can make you crash and suddenly become exhausted, and being tired can make you emotional.

Honestly, the emotional side is the more dangerous half. Emotions can wreak havoc on our logic,you could be great one minute like normal, then suddenly you’re completely out of it and it can be mental torture.

- you could feel abandoned

- Depression(especially if you already have it on a daily basis)

- Even feeling unloved is common during subdrop.

Subdrop can not be prevented or avoided entirely. You can try but there’s no sure fire way to do so. Here’s how to help subdrop:

- If you can get to your dom and they can help you calm down and reassure you with cuddles and words that works fairly well for most people.

- COMMUNICATION( I really can not say that enough) Text or call your Dom as soon as possible.

- if you can’t get a hold of them, you need to stop and evaluate.

- Remind yourself that sub drop is normal

- remind yourself of what happened during and after the session.

- There should have been some type of aftercare, go back to that moment and stay there.

- Remember how loved you felt, hold on to the fact that your dom cares for you.

- Take your self to a happy place with happy and positive thoughts

If you’re feeling a little emotional, think of what makes you feel better when you’re sick (because you kind of are). A warm blanket, a bubble bath, candy, a favorite drink, music, etc. If you are someone who likes to journal, keep a notebook with you to write out how you feel to get the words out and down, this might also help you clear your head before you talk to your Dom.

Okay I know I was supposed to have this up a while ago but I had several things come up. I just recently got a new job and that’s been taking up a lot more of my free time which was sparse enough since I try to meet with my friends often. As you can see this only covers subdrop. I’m not confident in the level of research I’ve been able to do on domdrop and don’t want to give vague or incorrect information to you guys. I’ll try to get it done soon but no promises. I will also be at daughters of the moon which is a Wiccan event this weekend so contact and any sort of posting will be delayed until at least Monday. As always be good, stay safe, and have fun!

Hey guys. I had to go on a bit of a hiatus to fix a few things in my life and help a few friends get through some things. I hope to be posting again soon but I am currently on a road trip and I have a convention after that and then I’m moving for college so I’ve got a lot to do between now and mid July but after that I should be back to our regularly scheduled program. Still feel free to message me or send me asks, I really do love answering those, and I will be active as much as possible besides full on posting. This is caregiver signing out, be good, stay safe, and have fun!

Just found it funny that this is casual conversation for me and my friends. I’ve also been called “The Mom That Gives”. Being the mom friend is so nice. Anyways I’m all settled into the new place for the most part. I should be back to posting soon but I’m also still looking for a job so when that happens I might have to slow down a bit. I’ve seen a few people saying their ask box isn’t working so if you’ve sent me an ask or a message and haven’t gotten any sort of reply then please contact me on my kik: Freshie_Fangirl or my Snapchat by the same name. That’s all for now, be good, be safe, and have fun!

Aftercare

Sweet sweet aftercare. It’s an essential ending to any scene, no matter how intense. Aftercare is done after a scene is over and should be done every single time. Maybe at varying degrees but done none the less. Let’s go over some of the types and methods of after care

* Communication, this is so both parties can talk about what happened. What they liked or didn’t like, Anything new they want to explore further, any lingering thoughts or concerns from the scene, stuff of that nature. This may not always happen right after a scene since the sub may still be winding down

* Physical pampering, this includes massaging a subs sore muscles, especially if any sort of tying or bondage would cause the muscles to become tense or stiff; it really helps to use certain oils or lotions, bubble baths, again to relax the bodies of both the sub and the dom and clean off any bodily fluid left from the scene, rubbing soothing lotion over marks and inflamed skin to insure everything heals properly and won’t hurt too bad the next day.

* Nutrition, this isn’t so much aftercare as it is just general health common scense. Drink LOTS of water to rehydrate and maybe even eat a few fruits like apple slices or strawberries. Just something to refuel the body.

* Sleep, this is one of the most important points here. Get PLENTY of sleep. Give your body time to rest and recuperate.

Just because a dom/me may not use all of these methods does not make them a bad dominant. A fair few more experienced dom/mes have their own aftercare routines that they have settled into. However, if a dom/me does not perform any sort of aftercare, run. Run very very far.

I know it’s short but that’s all for today lovelies! Lots of drama since the move so it’s quite a task to adjust but hopefully I’ll speak with you again soon, till then, be good, be safe, and have fun!

Talking with my friend. He hasn’t been happy in space in a while and definitely usually doesn’t accept compliments. I’m so proud of how far he’s come