Aftercare

Aftercare

Sweet sweet aftercare. It’s an essential ending to any scene, no matter how intense. Aftercare is done after a scene is over and should be done every single time. Maybe at varying degrees but done none the less. Let’s go over some of the types and methods of after care

* Communication, this is so both parties can talk about what happened. What they liked or didn’t like, Anything new they want to explore further, any lingering thoughts or concerns from the scene, stuff of that nature. This may not always happen right after a scene since the sub may still be winding down

* Physical pampering, this includes massaging a subs sore muscles, especially if any sort of tying or bondage would cause the muscles to become tense or stiff; it really helps to use certain oils or lotions, bubble baths, again to relax the bodies of both the sub and the dom and clean off any bodily fluid left from the scene, rubbing soothing lotion over marks and inflamed skin to insure everything heals properly and won’t hurt too bad the next day.

* Nutrition, this isn’t so much aftercare as it is just general health common scense. Drink LOTS of water to rehydrate and maybe even eat a few fruits like apple slices or strawberries. Just something to refuel the body.

* Sleep, this is one of the most important points here. Get PLENTY of sleep. Give your body time to rest and recuperate.

Just because a dom/me may not use all of these methods does not make them a bad dominant. A fair few more experienced dom/mes have their own aftercare routines that they have settled into. However, if a dom/me does not perform any sort of aftercare, run. Run very very far.

I know it’s short but that’s all for today lovelies! Lots of drama since the move so it’s quite a task to adjust but hopefully I’ll speak with you again soon, till then, be good, be safe, and have fun!

Um I need some advice... basically I was in an abusive relationship where my little side was considered a chore to deal with. Now it’s hard for me to fully get into littlespace. I’m with someone now and he says he’s been a daddy in a relationship before and that he’s comfortable being my daddy, but it’s hard for be to get in that space outside of sex. Have any advice??

Oh jeez I’m so sorry I’m just now seeing this, well I guess it’s a matter of trust. The more comfortable you get with him, the easier it should be for you to go into space and trust him to take care of you. Your headspace should never be seen as a chore. It’s a safe space for you to go and relax and letting someone in on that takes time and trust. You’ll get there sweet pea.

For all my lovelies who might need a little nudge to help yourself. I know this may not change your mind on what you think people might do but hopefully it gives you a bit of confidence to do something that will help make being social just a little easier for you. I’ve had friends call me mid-anxiety attack because of having to socialize without something to help ease their mind. I hope this helps even one of you, then I will have done my job. Be good, be safe, and have fun!

God I really wish carrying stuffed animals around with you was socially acceptable

H hey could we talk?

Of course love, just message me.

Let Me Be Sappy For A Minute

Okay so it’s very late for me and unfortunately I can’t sleep. I’ve been hoping from one ASMR video to the next and no luck. However, with a lot of those being from Karuna Satori (actual goddess of my sleep schedule) I feel like being sappy because I feel like I haven’t touched base and interacted with you guys a lot. I love all of you dearly whether we talk or not and no matter how small this blog is currently it always lifts my mood to know that in some capacity, no matter how miniscule it is, I’ve been able to help SOMEONE, or make them smile for the first time that day, or helped them solve a problem or hell, even just help with their homework! I’ve done something to make someone’s life just a bit better and that’s all thanks to you guys. I’ve moved back home and gotten in a much better mental state than I was in July. I have two jobs, one of which is my dream job that I wake up ready and excited to go to everyday and it finally feels like things are working out. Thank you guys, so so much. I truly do love and appreciate all of you. As always, be good, be safe, and have fun.

NOPE my momma is my best friend and I will fight anyone for her. Not even taking a chance.

Reblog or your mom will die in 928 seconds.

I love my mom.

I am risking nothing

I AM SORRY FOLLOWERS, I LOVE MY MOMMY

Will not risk.

sorry followers :(