Image Description: SpongeBob (cartoon Yellow Rectangular Sponge With Large Eyes And Nose) Wearing Only

Image description: SpongeBob (cartoon yellow rectangular sponge with large eyes and nose) wearing only tube socks and black shoes standing in the entrance to a cave with a green field behind him. He is out of breath and leaning against the wall of the cave.

Text beneath image: me after a shower where I don’t know if I have the energy to get dressed

Me after a shower where I don’t know if I even have the energy to get dressed.

I have SO MANY I’m really bad with names though so even though I’ve named them all I’ve forgotten most of their names. My favorite/bestie is named Pig and he’s a Pig (creative naming right) that’s dressed up as a cow and he owns my heart. He was given to me by my girlfriend (who uses they/them pronouns) and my life is fuller with the two of them in it. I have absolutely no clue how many stuffies I have in total but it’s probably 100 if not more I just love having squishy little friends

So many people collect stuffed animals!! This has made so happy!!!

hi ! you ! please don't blame yourself for the secondary effects of your disability. the weight changes are not your fault. the muscle atrophy is not your fault. the malnutrition is not your fault. the new/worsening mental health condition is not your fault. the low hygiene is not your fault. none of it is your fault!

are there areas of your self care that need improvement? of course, that's true for everyone! but it's hard to be kinder to yourself when you're disabled. sometimes we downright can't do things because of our disabilities. and it all snowballs and self perpetuates. that's not a moral failing - that's scary and difficult to go through!

you don't deserve blame, ridicule, or hatred. you just have limits. you just need support. and that's, morally, neutral. it's okay. you're not doing anything wrong, and i hope things get easier soon. give yourself a little more grace, okay?

Fuck abled people and their opinions on disabled bodies

My mother literally said to me that she “believes that I am choosing to be disabled and that she believes that I am healthier than I feel” like ma’am you are not in the same body as me you do not know it better than I do. Do you not think that I wasn’t to be healthier? Do you not think I’d rather not be in pain? You really think I’m choosing this? After saying that bull shit she goes on to say that she only wants the best for me and for me to “get well soon” and arugh I stg she really feels like one of those people who are like “don’t say disabled say differently abled” like gah no there are things I simply cannot do anymore I don’t do them differently I just can’t do them

MOBILITY AIDS ARE NOT FUCKING TOYS GODDAMN IT. THEY ARE NOT HERE FOR YOU TO PLAY WITH!!!

Non caps: mobility aids are not fucking toys goddamn it. They are not here for you to play with!!!!

The fuck is up with abled people and thinking that using or having a mobility aid makes us weak? Or that our goal should be to not use them? Why can’t they just accept that using mobility aids is not a bad thing and that we use them because they help and give us more freedom? My mobility aids enable me to do so much more than I can without them and my goal is not to get rid of them or not use them or whatever my goal is to have the ability to do what I want and be independent and not be in excruciating pain. Maybe at some point I wont need my mobility aids but right now I do so idk about other disabled people but stop telling me to try to not use something that makes my quality of life so much better and stop telling me to get better soon I’m just trying my best and the fact people don’t see that is really disheartening just because I don’t fit what someone thinks i should look like or be doing to “get better” doesn’t mean they should feel free to tell me their opinions on my body and what I do to accommodate myself

Honestly this started out as a rant about ableist bullshit regarding mobility aids but it definitely applies to so much else like neurotypicals complaining about how I accommodate my autism and telling me to “just be normal” and other shit like that.

It definitely applies to more than what I’ve said here but goddamn it abled people stop policing disabled bodies and minds, stop trying to control us, stop thinking you know our bodies better than we do

Tl;dr: abled people need to stop with their bullshit and leave disabled people and their tools and accommodations and self accommodations alone. Abled people believe they know our bodies better than we do and that’s simply not true.