Mens Indifference To Learning About Contraception And To Taking Any Responsibility For It Is A Theme

“Men’s indifference to learning about contraception and to taking any responsibility for it is a theme that emerges from many reports of projects that have attempted, and failed, to reach and educate men. One of the most successful programs of contraception education for men, a Planned Parenthood project in Chicago, abandoned its attempts to reach men over the age of twenty-five when it was found that these men simply would not participate… Instead, the project targeted a younger group, and as part of its research the project conducted a survey of over a thousand men aged fifteen to nineteen:These young men were asked whether they agreed with the statement “It’s okay to tell a girl you love her so that you can have sex with her.” Seven out of ten agreed that it’s okay.They were asked whether they agreed with the statement “A guy should use birth control whenever possible.” Eight out of ten disagreed and said a guy should not.And when asked, “If I got a girl pregnant, I would want her to have an abortion,” nearly nine out of ten said no, they would not want her to have an abortion.These teenage men agreed: Deception to obtain coital access is okay; male irresponsibility in contraception is okay; but abortion is not okay—“because it’s wrong.””

— John Stoltenberg, “The Fetus as Penis: Men’s Self-Interest and Abortion Rights” from Refusing to be a Man: Essays on Sex and Justice (via reading-blog)

No offense but if you didn’t make him nut you failed as a top

Anybody else's partner ever bruise their cervix so bad they couldn't sit? Because that's what happens to a lot of people with vaginas once you hit notch four.

I repeat

HAS SEX EVER HURT SO BAD YOU FELT NAUSEOUS AFTERWARDS?

The ex who did that to me thought a man was supposed to RAM HIS PENIS THROUGH THE CERVIX, INTO THE UTERUS, if he wanted to get his partner with a vagina and uterus pregnant

There are some disgustingly ignorant people out there. You all need to be safe.

the more you know.~

no cishets at pride! *spin kicks a grandma with a “I love my gay son” tshirt*

Whenever men make videos or posts, or (god forbid) a podcast, about issues or discrimination specifically faced by men, my response will always be one of nonchalance and zero concern usually punctuated with a casual “well fix it then.” I don’t argue and I don’t debate. Don’t like it? Fix it then.

And my response will remain such until men stop framing every single one of these conversations around what women can do better to support men and start framing these conversations around what men can do better to fix this problem.

Because ironically, every single one of these problems is caused and maintained by men. But men, do not want to take accountability for the world they have built and maintained and so they look to women to have this conversation and I’m just simply not going to have that conversation with you. Don’t like something? Talk to your homeboys and fix it. It’s above me.

ik white gays dont want to hear it but they make lgbt spaces so uncomfortable for poc esp black gays…..like ALL spaces. if u ask any gay of color they will probably tell u that they have been made to feel like an undesirable partner in lgbt spaces bc of their race. nd if they were desired it was out of fetishism. we see the way yall talk abt black/ dark skinned women…..begging for them to crush u nd be aggressive with them nd let’s not even talk abt how if a poc points out the flaws of the gay community white gays call them homophobic. like at this point it’s painfully obvious that white gays consider the gay community to include white ppl nd no one else. they value fictional ships over the feelings of poc