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Straight Men just Be Like That sometimes

Also, I hate abstinence-only, and I absolutely agree that teenagers need accurate information about sexuality that isn’t shaming or meant to “scare em straight,” but I feel like social media (especially fucking Instagram) has reeeaally pushed this “hoe culture” thing that tells especially underage girls that the best way to own your sexuality, be “sex positive,” and be #empowered is to act out this really porny hypersexuality to appeal to boys. (And also to be hypersexual for boys on demand but never expect anything like emotional reciprocation in return, because that’s prudish and whiny and not what Baddies™ do.)

Even on places like tunglr.hell; of a clearly underage teen girl deepthroating a banana in front of her cheering peers at a party, and the reactions were all “yaaaaasss what a queen lmaaaooo #baddie,” with nobody really stopping to ask if maaaaybe that doesn’t really look like a really great situation, also why are you sharing a clip of a teen faking a sex act, let alone cheering it on as badass.

The only people who expressed any kind of concern were the people yelling about how “if that was my daughter I’d whoop her hoe ass and lock her in the basement.” It seems like young girls are caught between the left and right wall in a maze, one being this porny sexiness for boys, he other being this controlling and shaming insistence on “purity”, and in between are predators who know how to corner you against either of those walls

Any shit that acts like women just don’t understand how lonely cis men are fundamentally assumes that women don’t feel as deeply as men. They’ll concede that yeah, sure, women get lonely too, but that their silly female feelings can’t possibly compare to the deep tragedy men, the Main Character of the universe, go through. But what it really comes down to is an inability to reckon with the fact that women get just as lonely and depressed as cis men and yet don’t commit 98% of mass shootings and 90% of global homicide like they do. It’s much easier to excuse men choosing to be violent by acting like they have special sad feelings uwu that justify rape and murder than to examine the ways the patriarchy makes cis men feel entitled to hurt people because of their big sad feelings, and then constantly makes excuses for their actions