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How the Media Elects a President

We wound up with him through a very successful advertizing campaign. It cost him nothing, since every news cycle for a yr straight kept mentioning him. And, if.it continues in 2020, he will be our president again, impeachment or not.

So, write your local news papers, news outlets, and other media sources to censure him. Make him pay to be seen. And, unfollow anyone who reposts anything he says. Make it a #ZeroTrumpDay

Keeping an empathic and positive social network is a proven way to improve emotional resilience - The support of positive people who care about you will help bolster your resilience when the going gets tough. Being alone or surrounded by negative people w

Playing Till You Win the Game

The Super Mario Effect - Tricking Your Brain into Learning More | Mark Rober | TEDxPenn

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9vJRopau0g0&t=331s

The clip above talks about reframing the problem into a game, and keep trying after every failure because you learned something. How many times does it take to win Super Mario, or some other game.  Getting a job is the same way.  With every job you apply for, what do you learn when you don’t get a response to your cover letter, or don’t get a call back for an interview, or fail a technical interview, or on and on and on ... 

What did you learn?

Destroy!

Nu.

Trust vs Understanding

For me, “Trust” is a 4 letter word. That’s because too many people have asked me to “Trust” them, only to find out that the “Trust” was misplaced because they were withholding information needed to properly evaluate a situation and make suitable decisions necessary to mitigate a larger problem.  

Instead, I work based on “Understanding”. The difference is that understanding a situation and everything it entails allows me to make a better decision, and help in resolving the problem we are facing. I don’t have to rely solely on others. 

Differences

"What do i tell my children?" What do you tell them when they see someone of a different race, creed, color, handicap, ... do you hide them from these differences as well? Or, do you teach them that these difference make them unique? Not special. Different, not dangerous.

Creativity

You will never know how creative you are if you constantly consume others creativity, and worse .. judge your own creative efforts based on theirs.  

Fundamentalists

The problem with fundamentalists, is that they always complain that they are being excluded from the conversation.  Hate speech should be allowed, since all speech should be allowed.  Except, hate speech only has 1 purpose, and I’ll get back to this in a minute.

Fundamentalists aren’t being excluded from the conversation. No, instead, they are being ignored.  Which is more infuriating.  They want to be heard.  But not in a fashion that supports actually resolving an issue. Instead, they want to be heard in such a way that it distracts from solving a problem.  As if kaos were the only solution.

The Supreme Court created a test that stated that speech is not protected when it fails one or both of these tests:

Does it harm yourself

Does it harm others

Think about that for a moment. Does your freedom of expression cause physical harm to yourself.  If you cut yourself in such a way that it puts your life in danger, should this activity be protected?  And, what if a group uses ritual sacrifice, which ends the life of another human, is that protected speech?  In this case NO!.  It is not protected speech.

The second test is whether your speech calls for hurting another person or group.  This came about when Sarah Palin asked her base to shoot a Senator.  Had anyone else said it, they would have been incarcerated immediately.  However, this speech is not protected either.  Calling for someone’s death is akin to demanding genocide.

Which brings us back to what fundamentalists want.  If they believe that kaos is the answer to everything, then their only means of feeling as though they are winning is when kaos rules. Thus, to achieve kaos, they must engage everyone else in fights.  It is the only time that a fundamentalist is being heard.

Fights don’t solve problems.

And, thus, why fundamentalists are ignored. Not silenced. Just not given the space needed to be engaged.  This requires time or energy and will only be lost in a fruitless exchange that leads no where.  

Making the World a Better Place

While I could share my trails and tribulations of bouncing through several groups, I think you will be better served by my wisdom: 1) A Leader’s motto is, "To make the world a better place one man at a time!" 2) Everyone has an expectation of how we wish to treat each other. 3) Everyone has the right to demand an apology. Every group creates a set of rules that the members are expected to follow.  We hold each other accountable when the rules are broken. These rules even apply to how people interact with each other.  Communities at all levels have rules, expectations, values, cultures, and moralities that strive to encourage proper behavior .. households, apartment complexes, farming communities, cities, counties, states, countries.  We have expectations on what is considered proper behavior. When I see another man break these rules, I have an opportunity to look at myself and determine why this triggers me.  It is also an opportunity to help everyone involved reflect on the event, understand how it affected me, how it is affecting them, how it makes this man look in my eyes, and how it looks when other men support this behavior. It is behavior that we are actively working to change.  We do this through reflecting / reflection. We help other men see how their actions / choices are affecting others around them. When that behavior is repeated without conscious or consequence, the behavior is considered normal, even if it disparages another man or group.  It is here, where men have to build their courage, practice speaking up, and stand against inappropriate behavior, and demand a change. That change comes in two forms, the first is an apology, and the second is a change in the rules, habits, expectations, values, morals, and/or culture. A true apology uses the words "I'm Sorry!" in a way that ensures that the bad behavior is going to be corrected.  They are not a phrase that begs forgiveness. They are not used flippantly in a way that demeans their value. They are powerful. And, when used properly, will release the emotional energy in both parties because 1 party wants to see real change, while both parties want connection. Unfortunately, when we don't know how to ask for an apology, or ask men to adhere to the rules, or have vague undefined expectations, is when men feel powerless to demand an apology. For this, I suggest looking at your own mission statement.  When you are asked, "How will you make the world a better place?" What does a better world look like to you, and what is needed to achieve your version of a better world.  For me, it is helping men reflect on their bad behaviors and choices when they act out.  And, it can be as simple as asking, "How does this help you make the world a better place?"

Achieving Goals

Through small wins.

Static goal lines.

Celebrating achievements.

Being an Invisible Mediator

Become an invisible mediator and take an active hand in shaping the society yet to come by teaching people how to treat each other with compassion and empathy.

The Conversation

Whats more important at a given moment, keeping the conversation going or stifling it?

If the constitution were to be interpreted as the framers intended, then you would know that they were all about keeping the conversation going. Not about stifling it. However, the constitution speaks about ling term social issues not immediate crisis. In those instances more direct action is required.

The framers knew all to well that they could never solve all the problems we have today, but what they could solve was whether or not we talked about them. Examining problems. Debating. Bringing new information to light.

Even scientists fell into the religious trap in that late 1800s early 1900s when they began to claim something was correct because it was common sense. When Einstein released his proof on General Relativity, Special Relativity, and it lead to the discover of Quarks, the doctrine of common sense was thrown out the window. The conversations had to start again about, "Gaud playing with dice!" And, "Fuzzy action at a distance."

Some say that leadership is situational, because there are times that the conversation must go forward, or during crisis decisions must be made and executed. Do not mis interpret one situation for another. Nor, disown the conversation because it doesnt affect you. You may see things from your status as an observer very differently.

An example is the caravan walking through Mexico. Whether you think they should or shouldnt be let into the country, have you considered whether these people should be given food, aid, and shelter? And, should the US apply diplomatic pressure to the countries that they are fleeing from? And / or ask the UN to send in troops to stabilize the region so that people can conduct their daily business in peace?

A leader knows how to drive a conversation, bring people to consensus through mutual goals and motivations, and execute a plan.

But, if the constitution were to be amended do you think you or I would ever have a say in the process? Maybe a obligatory vote to appease us, but framers would do what they wanted and sell it to use with lots of promises, and then go back to the courts to interpret it.

Today’s Fortune Cookies

You will appear as an extra on a TV series

You will hit on a teacher

You will have sex in a grave yard

You will accidently pie on yourself and your teacher when scared

You will fake an orgasm afterward

You will create a fake twitter account to disavow the incident

Quarreling Siblings

As a parent, you might relate to quarreling siblings each picking on each other, and eventually getting into a fight because neither started the fight, neither are willing to end the fight, and neither believe that they are in the wrong for either continuing the fight or for starting it. And, yet, you have to stop the fight by sending both of them to their respective corners.

Why?  Why do you stop the fight?  What is your reason as an adult for stopping the fight?

There are many reasons: 

you’re tired of hearing them quarrell? 

you’re afraid they might actually cause physical damage to the house?

you’re worried that they may hurt each other?

you’re worried that you’ll get into trouble of the police are called, and they file charges through child protective services?

you believe that siblings need to fight to prepare them for the real world which will beat them down at the first instant it can.

What distinguishes Good Leaders from Great Leaders is their reason.  And, the way they go about separating the siblings, as well as bringing them back together again.

Great Leaders separate the siblings because there is an expectation of how they are to treat each other, even when their is a disagreement.  In general, it’s called, “Dialogue”.   But not just any dialogue, it’s a discussion about what was the original point that caused the ruckus in the first point.

What type of society do you want to live in? Is it a society that quarrels with each other over the smallest of issues, or one that discusses the issues to understand them and find solutions that start addressing part of the issue, if not all of it.

The next step is to bring the two siblings back to each other, through their motivations.  What ever the original issue was, it may not be remembered, but what is remembered are the feelings and motivations for starting the fight.  These will uncover the reason for the fight.  And, through these, the two siblings and begin repairing the damage caused by the fight.

Eventually, as I’ve found, at some point, one sibling will need something from the other sibling. And, then either the argument will be over, or it will start again.  But, in most cases, the argument will be over, and the relationship will begin to be repaired.

Lifestyles of the Impverished vs Rich

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2018/oct/19/billionaires-wealth-richest-income-inequality

Goals and Intentions

Setting a goal is black and white—you either achieve it, or you don’t. Intentions, however, come from a growth mindset, and they set the standard for how you live and act, regardless of whether or not you achieve a set goal.

The big difference here is that intentions are rooted in values, not external outcomes, and they keep your attention in the present, not the future. While accomplishing goals everyday may not be feasible, intentions are flexible and ever-changing, leaving you plenty of freedom to re-evaluate.

Number 1 Sign of High Intelligence

Smart people are actually wrong a lot.

Scientists have "observed that the smartest people are constantly revising their understanding, reconsidering a problem they thought they'd already solved. They're open to new points of view, new information, new ideas, contradictions, and challenges to their own way of thinking."

Luck

Luck is not an ethereal thing granted by gauds. Its a result of refined work being recognized, appreciated, and rewarded.

Discussing How An Event Affected You, and What You Wanted Instead

When understanding a problem, testing samples include or exclude distinctive differences in a population. Diversity in the sample set or lack there of may be necessary depending on what problem is being observed. In the case of Darwin’s Finches, samplings were finches from different islands. In the case of a class room, it would be students with various and diverse backgrounds.  In the case of companies, it would be the various employees with diverse backgrounds.  And, in the case with clients, every client is considered unique.

While samples may integrate or segregate based on differences, it is used scientifically to study a particular and unique characteristic of the population as a whole.  Who is affected by this problem and why?  For cancer patients, the segregation of candidates may be required to identify a unique gene flaw, which is then tested against non-cancer patients.  The same would hold true with Alzheimer patients.  Or patients with Leukemia due to exposure to glyphosate [ Round Up ].

When segregation and integration are used in a human population to define racism, it is not used scientifically to understand a problem, but to create an artificial problem that doesn’t exist, and probably never did. Yet, it is used to exclude and separate people from opportunities that should be available to everyone.

Racism is not a prejudice against humans of different races, because there are no different human races. Rather, racism is the process whereby certain characteristics — like religion — are taken as signs of essential biological difference. Sociologists Karen E. Fields and Barbara J. Fields call this creation of difference "racecraft." Racecraft is all the cultural work done to divide people into arbitrary categories called "races." Once you've established that this human, over here, is not in fact fully human, discrimination and prejudice follows naturally.

The Civil Rights Act of 1964 outlaws discrimination in hiring on the basis of "race, color, religion, sex, age, or national origin."

A recent ruling by U.S. Magistrate Mark Hornsby of Louisiana helped to clarify the distinction between race and racism. Hornsby ruled July 16 in a civil case Joshua Bonadona vs Brewer, where Bonadona sued under civil rights law, alleging that Brewer had discriminated against him by denying him a coaching position because his mother was Jewish, even though he himself is Catholic. In this case, Bonadona wasn't being discriminated against for religion, since he was not actually Jewish. So was he then being discriminated against on racial grounds, based on his heritage?

Hornsby concluded that he was, since "Jewish citizens have been excluded from certain clubs or neighborhoods," Hornsby writes, "and they have been denied jobs and other opportunities based on the fact that they were Jewish, with no particular concern as to a given individual’s religious leanings. Thus, they have been treated like a racial or ethnic group that Title VII was designed to protect from employment discrimination based on membership in that group.”

Systematic segregation was and is used to create unnecessary problems, like: discrimination, isolation, wage gaps, roadblocks to work, investment disenfranchisement, poorer public services, fewer business opportunities, opposing culture fears, concentrated fears, linguistic and dialogue drift … just to name a few problems at the society level.  

And in a recent conversation concerning low wages for teachers, I stated, “are you aware of the stress placed on people who are earning below that limit [4x their rent]. They and their children are not able to participate economically in our society. Many of these homes have high ACE numbers, leading to children that will not be productive when the graduate from high school or college, simply because they will be dealing with psychological problems and inappropriate social habits.”

To break down the stereotypes created through segregation there are two sets of instruction needed:

1. Debate as Scientific Inquery

2. Facilitating the affects of an action

Our country is not a democracy as many believe, but a republic.  A republic is built on the power of representation, or put another way, sampling.  The idea is that a representation of the populous as a whole is taken to understand the social direction the group as a whole should go.  We consider how these representatives are elected the democratic process, but it’s more than just voting .. it’s talking, and not just talking (free speech), it’s how we discuss issues that matter.

Debate provides the guiding principle on how issues are discussed. We don’t have to use the rules of debate, or Roberts Rules of Order to insure that debates between 2 or 5 individuals are handled with decorum. This methodology only gets in the way at this level of discussion.  Instead, it is to focus on the issue vs labeling.

Labels – topics, groups of people, types of fruit, … - are used convey meaning when a longer explanation of meaning is not necessary.  The distinction between Roman Tomatoes and Cherry Tomatoes is easily understood. Yet,  labels easily lead to classifications based in racism or wealth – squalor, poor, low, middle, and wealthy, upper class.  Labels can also be applied to the conditions children at home face – single parent, fatherless, only child, middle child, youngest child, molested, endangered, …

Whenever someone uses a label in a debate, the participants in the debate should not accept the label as given, but instead use the scientific method to consider the label’s validity.  Is gravity really 9.8 meters per second squared, or only at sea level?  What happens as we move farther away from the earths surface, does gravity change?  

Nor should labels be used in a derogatory fashion to label a debater, such as name calling, or race bating.  “You are only saying that because you’re a bleeding heart liberal!  Stop being a snow flake and accept the fact that homeless people choose to be low life’s who don’t want to work!  They could find work if they wanted to, they just don’t want to!”

Scientific Inquiry, uses 6 questions to determine if everyone agrees that something is what it is, vs common sense:

1. observer the phenomena

2. form a question

3. create a theory about the phenomena

4. conduct an experiment

5. analyze the data and draw conclusions

6. see if others can replicate your results

Here the scientific process can be used to test that gravity does in fact change as you move away from sea level, though ever so slightly.  And, it can be used to examine the labels used in a debate.  Those labels that concern the topic of diversity in homeless populations.  We could simply challenge the observation that all homeless people are alike. Are they?  What if some of the homeless do actually want to be homeless, while others are migratory, and others became homeless due to economic circumstances that they are unable to change and would willingly choose a home if the opportunity arose, and so on.

The biggest challenge will be changing the culture ingrained methods we use to discuss how a problem affects us.  I say culturally ingrained, because as a child I was uniquely positioned to watch how a family issue affected me personally, and how my mother used her authority and position to pressure me into silence.  This issue is the, “Family Secret!”. It’s passed down through the generations. It happens to every generation. It is never spoken about, because if others were to learn of the family secret they would judge us, ridicule us, think less of us, or they would split us up and put us in different families that would be far worse than what I was dealing with as a 5 year old.

The challenge is to provide a space where people of all ages can:

1. state what the situation was

2. voice how a situation affected them

3. state what they wanted instead

"We believe that the real number of children whose records were lost or who were afraid ever to come forward is in the thousands," the grand jury report says.  

In a study of children exposed to violence, including being a witness to and a victim of violence, is examined among 8-11-year-old children of migrant and seasonal farm workers. Potential relationships between sociodemographic factors and violence exposure are examined, and associations between violence exposure and children's emotional and behavioral problems, and weapon carrying behavior are investigated. The results show that greater than 50% of the children had been exposed to violence, with 46% having witnessed violence among others and 19% having been the direct victims of violence.

Violence exposure was positively related to children's emotional problems, behavioral problems, and weapon carrying behavior. Compared to non exposed children, violence exposed children were eight times more likely to evidence internalizing problems, were six times more likely to evidence externalizing problems, and were four times more likely to carry weapons (specifically, knives or guns).

As NYPD SVU demonstrates in their series, is that children do not have the language to articulate the violence that they have witnessed.  Nor, when the violence is reported, are people willing to listen to it, as the Grand Jury in Pennsylvania reported.  Victims of rape were often told to get out of the precinct house by officers who didn’t want to hear about it.  If they made it past the officers to a detective, the case was often lost.

When university's create “Safe Spaces”, what they should really be creating are “Safe Spaces for people to talk about the violence they witnessed or was perpetrated on them.”  In most cases, these safe spaces are created by therapeutic integration groups, where “Adults Molested as Children” or AMACs are able to see how the violence affected everyone involved.  They are encouraged to discuss how the violence affected them. And, they are encouraged to discuss what they wanted instead.

I said that this is a cultural issue, since this same situation [non disclosure and confrontation] is perpetrated by the HR departments.  People who feel offended are separated from those that have offended them, instead of confronting them.  Closure comes from being able to describe the situation, state how if affected them, and what they wanted instead. While I won’t go into all the legalities of why this methodology came about and persists, I can use this forum to advocate that the HR department review it’s policies with group psychologists to see if this method could be employed to improve relations between various groups of people.

References:

Judge rules that Judaism is not a race but Jewish people can be targeted for racism. Here's why that matters.

https://www.nbcnews.com/think/opinion/judge-rules-judaism-not-race-jewish-people-can-be-targeted-ncna896806

Economic Consequences of Segregation

http://www.umich.edu/~lawrace/consequences.htm

Scientific Method Steps

http://www.schoolofdragons.com/how-to-train-your-dragon/the-scientific-method/scientific-method-steps

Report details sexual abuse by more than 300 priests in Pennsylvania's Catholic Church

https://www.cnn.com/2018/08/14/us/pennsylvania-catholic-church-grand-jury/index.html

Children Face Dangers On Farms, But Not From Farmwork

https://www.npr.org/sections/thesalt/2012/03/09/148320219/children-face-dangers-on-farms-but-not-from-farmwork

Survey of exposure to violence among the children of migrant and seasonal farm workers.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/7610214

Key facts about children’s exposure to violence

https://www.childtrends.org/indicators/childrens-exposure-to-violence

Team Building

To be a team requires studying the repetitive motions the team must execute to be effective and productive.

Diversity Statement

In reviewing diversity statements from individuals, universities and corporations, there was no common understanding of what diversity is, means, or accomplishes. Individual statements talk about their childhood experiences and struggles - poverty, alcoholic parents, single parents, poor schooling, poverty, … [Things described by the ACE test] Universities desire to make everyone feel safe and comfortable on their campuses. Corporations, focus on:

Leading and managing inclusively – embracing different cultures, ethnicities, genders and sexual orientations

Creating a work environment that fosters growth and advancement

Engaging with our audiences in a way that reflects and respects their unique perspectives and experiences

These descriptions provide no understanding of what the purpose of diversity is. This general lack of understanding and its importance by the populous as a whole leads me to believe that diversity is currently a buzz word used to placate, patronize, and segregate people through underhanded techniques of bait and switch.  

Charles Darwin’s, definition and purpose of genetic diversity, is:

[It is] important because it helps maintain the health of a population, by including alleles that may be valuable in resisting diseases, pests and other stresses. Maintaining diversity gives the population a buffer against change, providing the flexibility to adapt.

Does this definition apply to the human population?  A simple test using entropy would indicate that humans should be randomly distributed for the best genetic diversity.

Entropy states that given a random distribution in a closed system, the distribution will reach equilibrium [or equal spacing].

However, every random group of people will choose to clump together based on their similar and individual characteristics – gender, height, weight, eye color, hair color, ethnicity, speech patterns, personal habits, deformities, occupation, shared interests, and private classifications, like: orientation, history, upbringing, living environment, and learning disabilities.

Thus, humans don't follow the laws of ThermoDynamics. Nor, do they follow the laws of Genetic Diversity. Instead they tend to group based on the various characteristics described above.  Which allows a 3rd actor to engage the groups fears about "Others".  That "Others" are to blame for their unhappiness. That "Others" are affecting their inability to achieve their goals. That “Others” are taking their resources! And, that YOU!!! are better than the “Others”!   We have documented how 3rd party instigators glides between us in books and movies, to achieve their goals by dividing us through distracting us.

This 3rd actor doesn’t have to be the Devil.  For systematic discrimination to occur, it just needs 3 things: 1) human who feels that they are better than others, 2) a group of followers, and 3) for others to be to afraid to speak against the leader for fear of being labeled “Other”.

Systematic discrimination advances through majority approved measures, artificial boundaries and private agreements.  Schools can only receive funding from their districts. Poor neighborhoods will receive poor educations and have fewer chances to network, because they have to work harder to earn the same amount of money for the same benefit that those in better neighborhoods recieve. In addition, due to the stress of living in a poorer neighborhood the generational habitual habits of punative reward system will be passed down, creating inappropriate behaviorial responses to situations.  Roads, railroads, highways, water ways, or natural barriers are used to keep groups of people separated.  People of specific ethnicities are encouraged to group together into ethnic towns, and discouraged from migrating into other groups through peer pressure.  

Everyone considers this the norm, since it’s your choice to live and work anywhere you want.  Communities are supported with businesses catering to their specific needs and targeted marketing campaigns. It’s all well and good until it isn’t.  When someone chooses to break the social norms, self segregation and systematic discrimination fail the outcast.  A group of people who were favored but rejected and became “Other”.  These fallen angels move into poor neighborhoods and begin demanding that their children to have the same opportunities they did.  Then they sue to reverse the discrimination. Eventually the neighborhood is revitalized, gentrified, and occupied by the chosen, as this helps raise the property values for land owners, and pushes subversive elements farther from the chosen.

The problem with these two examples - Charles Darwin and Entropy – is that entropy assumes that a system stays in equilibrium as long as it is a closed system.  When Darwin looked at finches on various islands he found varieties of them, which raised a question, “Why?!?  What caused these different varieties to arise?”  His answer was that natural selection allowed the strongest to breed and reproduce, thus producing off spring that were better suited to the conditions of their environment.

What should have brought us closer to having equality, justice, and fairness, has been warped into meaning that the financially successful are the naturally selected superior beings, and thus should inherit the fruits of their forefathers.  While the less financially successful should wallow like pigs in what ever scraps the wealthy deem to leave us with. A few phrases the successful use, are: Divine Right of Kings, Gaud favors the fortunate, Gaud only helps those who help themselves … Or, Information is Power.

Thus neither of these definitions lead to the purpose of why diversity is needed.  If we assume that everyone is unique, then diversity is nothing more than a random sampling of the human population in a location, at a specific time, for different reasons, for the sole purpose of being breeding stock, and ignores all other external factors, because it’s a closed system.

Is it a closed system?  Another interpretation of Darwin’s answer concerned the problem that the finches were trying to solve. Their environments were moving, changing, evolving.  And, thus they needed to adapt or die out.  So, the finches without thinking about it, followed Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs:

Physiological: Oxygen, Food, Water, Sex, Sleep, Warmth

Safety: Protection, Security, Order, Law, Limit, Stability

Belongingness / Love: Family, Affection, Relationships

Esteem: Achievement, Status, Responsibility, Reputation

Self-Actualization: Personal Growth, Fulfillment

While these are individual needs, here are the corporate needs, where groups form and dissolve daily:

Physiological: an Employee, Product, Business Strategy, Funding, Work Space, Media

Safety: Revenue Streams, Employees, Steady Retention Rate, Office Space

Belongingness / Love: Employee Relations, Investors, Clients

Esteem: Brand Recognition, Partnerships, IPO, Press Coverage

Self-Actualization: Corporate Citizenship, Corporate Social Responsibility

While people form and dissolve groups regular in corporations, the major impediment that corporations face is communications.  Communications is how people talk about problems, share ideas on solving the problem, and reach consensus.

Elon Musk, discussed communications throughout Tesla (paraphrased):

Anyone at Tesla can and should email/talk to anyone else according to what they think is the fastest way to solve a problem for the benefit of the whole company. Moreover, you should consider yourself obligated to do so until the right thing happens.

Any manager who … [encourages the chain of command], will soon find themselves working at another company.

Jeff Bozes, discusses meetings:

If you've ever been in a meeting with too many people, you can understand the wisdom in [the two pizza meeting]. The larger the team, the greater number of opinions--and the more difficult it becomes to reach conclusions and make decisions. And if some of those many people just like to hear the sound of their own voice, your meetings are bound to be time-suckers.

What these two men are addressing are the reasons why people come together - problem solving!  If you’re not there to solve a problem, then you’re a 3rd actor. You are unnecessary to solving the problem and just taking up time.  What these two men don’t address is how diversity is used within their companies to improve problem solving.

In Ratatouille, by Disney and Pixar, Ego states, “Not everyone will become a great chef, but a great chef can come from anywhere!”  This, is similar to another statement, “The solution to a problem can come from anywhere and anyone!” Entrepreneurs in Silicon Valley are constantly disrupting what was considered traditional business practices, forcing large companies to rethink their business strategies.  These people are coming from all walks of life, and taking on the power elite corporate titans and forcing dramatic changes in established industries, that were well protected by laws and regulations.

Communication is both the key and the impediment to cooperation. In order to get rid of the 3rd actor and let the “Other” fade away, we need to change how we communicate with each other.

One of the earliest recorded actions of the 3rd actor is this:

And, Moses asked, "Gaud, how will we know thee, when you return?"  Gaud, responded, "You will know me when ... "

Why would Gaud choose to say this, “You will know me when ...” vs “Thou shalt not ...”.  The edit is no mistake, nor is it mine.  The second phrase implies how humanity should govern itself, and avoids answering Moses question.  The first version states how humanity must act before Gaud will return.  The edit was made by a 3rd actor because if everyone where to follow the 10 commandments as originally written, then the 3rd actor would be unable to manipulate groups of people, since there would be only 1 group of people.  Thus, by imposing rules, the 3rd actor, is able to bend people to his will through blame, shame, and guilt.

Treating each other respectfully though is not taught.  Whenever our Hero is triggered by their Protagonist, the Hero is told to take their problems through the chain of command, and that they will resolve the issue.  This however, disempowers both parties, and places the 3rd actor back in power.  Under traditional Human Resource Management protocol, both parties are separated, interviewed, and a resolution is brokered independent of each other.  This method disempowers both individuals because it doesn’t allow the Hero to stand up to and share how they were affected by the Protagonist.

Safe spaces are created when Protagonists are made aware that they are being watched, and that people they affect will be empowered to face them and share through reflection how the Protagonist affected the Hero, and what they wanted instead.  The Hero is encouraged to confront not only the current Protagonist of their story, but also the past Protagonists. In this situation, the Protagonist is made to face their actions directly, and see the costs directly.

In addition, a person has to become a Hero to themselves, before they can model the path to becoming a Hero to others.  When a Hero sees someone misbehaving, they ask them to reflect on their behavior and how it is affect others.  A Hero lets the Protagonist know what the consequences of these behavioral problems are.  And, when a Hero slips up, as they do,  they listen to what was wanted instead?  

You will know me when …

When you believe in yourself

When you remember that hard work hard requires rest

When you honor each other

When you don’t need to take life to feel safe

When cravings secede

When the distinction of “Other” fades away

Until then we will need to enforcing diversity.  Though, as I mentioned above, “diversity is currently a buzz word used to placate, patronize, and segregate people through underhanded techniques of bait and switch.” That bait and switch is executed in Human Resources, where the chain of command is followed out of fear of further legal retaliation and / or loss of future employment.

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Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) Questionnaire

https://www.ncjfcj.org/sites/default/files/Finding%20Your%20ACE%20Score.pdf

News Corp - Corporate Diversity Statements

https://newscorp.com/corporate-governance/corporate-diversity-statement/

Genetic Diversity & Evolution

http://maize.teacherfriendlyguide.org/index.php/genetic-diversity-and-evolution

Entropy

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Entropy

Maslow's hierarchy of needs

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Corporate Needs

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/abhishek-seth/maslows-hierarchy-of-corp_b_3756841.html

Elon Musk Describes What Great Communication Looks Like

https://www.inc.com/justin-bariso/this-email-from-elon-musk-to-tesla-employees-descr.html

Jeff Bezos Knows How to Run a Meeting.

https://www.inc.com/justin-bariso/jeff-bezos-knows-how-to-run-a-meeting-here-are-his-three-simple-rules.html

Ratatouille final taste

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kuyUKdJccgM&list=FLPTcFR3Pcd4xRjgxApFTSzQ&index=50&t=5s

17 miles

1600 breaths continuous Breaths .. 100, 1600, 200 Speed .. 3.5, 6.0, 3.5 Bpm .. 86, 110, 165, 132 Miles .. .41, 4, .4, .5 ... 5.5 Time .. 7, 50, 9 Incline .. 2, -1.5, 0 Weight .. Bmi .. Muscle .. 35 Ive been eating more animal protean lately. Like 1 lb per meal. Im finding that my happiness comes more easily. This is probably due to less sugar diet.