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*releases pack of dads into home depot* go……be free
Making the World a Better Place
While I could share my trails and tribulations of bouncing through several groups, I think you will be better served by my wisdom: 1) A Leader’s motto is, "To make the world a better place one man at a time!" 2) Everyone has an expectation of how we wish to treat each other. 3) Everyone has the right to demand an apology. Every group creates a set of rules that the members are expected to follow. We hold each other accountable when the rules are broken. These rules even apply to how people interact with each other. Communities at all levels have rules, expectations, values, cultures, and moralities that strive to encourage proper behavior .. households, apartment complexes, farming communities, cities, counties, states, countries. We have expectations on what is considered proper behavior. When I see another man break these rules, I have an opportunity to look at myself and determine why this triggers me. It is also an opportunity to help everyone involved reflect on the event, understand how it affected me, how it is affecting them, how it makes this man look in my eyes, and how it looks when other men support this behavior. It is behavior that we are actively working to change. We do this through reflecting / reflection. We help other men see how their actions / choices are affecting others around them. When that behavior is repeated without conscious or consequence, the behavior is considered normal, even if it disparages another man or group. It is here, where men have to build their courage, practice speaking up, and stand against inappropriate behavior, and demand a change. That change comes in two forms, the first is an apology, and the second is a change in the rules, habits, expectations, values, morals, and/or culture. A true apology uses the words "I'm Sorry!" in a way that ensures that the bad behavior is going to be corrected. They are not a phrase that begs forgiveness. They are not used flippantly in a way that demeans their value. They are powerful. And, when used properly, will release the emotional energy in both parties because 1 party wants to see real change, while both parties want connection. Unfortunately, when we don't know how to ask for an apology, or ask men to adhere to the rules, or have vague undefined expectations, is when men feel powerless to demand an apology. For this, I suggest looking at your own mission statement. When you are asked, "How will you make the world a better place?" What does a better world look like to you, and what is needed to achieve your version of a better world. For me, it is helping men reflect on their bad behaviors and choices when they act out. And, it can be as simple as asking, "How does this help you make the world a better place?"
This is going to be an unpleasant truth, but:
People will, and are allowed, to find you or things you do or the way you act annoying or upsetting or unpleasant.
What people are not allowed to do is treat you badly because of those things. But you cannot control the way people feel. You cannot force them to not feel those things.
Its just a fact of life. Everyone has sounds, sensations or things that annoy them or are unpleasant to experience. I can't stand the sound of children crying or screaming. It grates on every single nerve I have.
I'm entitled to feel that way. I can't help feeling that way. I can't just magically not be annoyed by screaming children anymore.
Your tics will irritate some people. Your anger outbursts will be upsetting to some people. Your endless rambling and interrupting or loud voice will be off-putting to some people.
And its perfectly fine. For you and for them.
You are who you are. Who you are will co-exist with some people and not with others. You deserve the opportunity to be authentic and the right to be comfortable, but so do other people, and people who put respectful distance between you and them are not being cruel.
I've been called 'weird' by different people in my life, but what really is 'normal'? If you think about it, calling someone else 'weird' is not very normal
A team of researchers has found a simple and unique way to considerably reduce stress levels and increase the welfare of monkeys living in a popular zoo.
The study, carried out by Durham University with Chester Zoo, found that planting a metre-wide barrier of tropical shrubs between the monkeys’ glass-fronted enclosures and the visitors’ viewing platforms reduced the animals’ stress-related behavior (such as showing their teeth and pacing) by more than half.
In addition to the significant overall improvement in the animals’ welfare after the shrubs were planted, the researchers found that stress-related behaviour specifically directed at the visitors, such as approaching the glass, reduced by 54 per cent. Instead, the type of behaviour monkeys would show in the wild, such as climbing and eating, increased by 13 per cent. The study also showed a 16 per cent rise in sociable behaviour, such as playing and grooming each other. (Source)
Photo by Fiona Rogers.
I thought I was the only one who shipping real people togther was really CREEPY and STALKERISH on top of being DEHUMANISING. And the “coping” defense is just as creepy, like, what does it help you cope with? Your fetishisation problem? Your creepy stalker behaviour? The fact that you see people as toys for you to play with instead seeing them as human beings? Freaking weirdos I tell you...
Some pro-shippers on here are like "umm, don't judge people on what they ship!!" And I'm like... if they're fictional characters, sure, but your ship isn't valid if it's real people.
"BUT-" Your ship isn't valid if it has people in it.
"HOW COULD YOU-" Your ship isn't valid if it has real people in it.
"But these celebrities don't-" Your ship isn't valid if it has real people in it.
"It's harmless fun, though!!" YOUR SHIP IS NOT VALID IF IT HAS REAL PEOPLE IN IT. WHY SHIP REAL PEOPLE WHEN THERE ARE SO MANY FICTIONAL CHARACTERS OUT THERE TO FUCKING CHOOSE FROM. KEEP TO FICTIONAL CHARACTERS IF YOU WANT TO REMAIN VALID. STAY MAD ABOUT IT, I DON'T CARE.
I'm not gonna appease people who do this shit. Real people are off limits, especially kids. If you do this shit, take a hike.
I've made it explicitly clear on numerous occasions that I will NEVER support RPF. If you do support this or even are a part of it, I won't treat you any differently than I have been, but I won't support it nor be okay with it. I draw the line when it come to shipping real people.
{NOT UP FOR DISCUSSION. IF YOU TRY IT, YOU'RE IMMEDIATELY BLOCKED WITH EXTREME PREJUDICE.}
DOLPHIN MOMS DO ‘BABY TALK’ WITH THEIR CALVES
Baby talk or Motherese/ Parentese is a speech pattern nearly universal across cultures and languages in human caregivers interacting with children. It is characterized by a higher than usual pitch, exaggerated intonation, repetition, calling attention to objects and use of slow stretchy speeches. What we know about baby talking in other nonhuman species is sparse. Now, researchers have found evidence for baby talk in bottlenose dolphin, a species that shows parallels to humans in their long-term mother–offspring bonds and lifelong vocal learning.
Researchers analyzed audios from made wild bottlenose dolphins in waters near Sarasota Bay, Florida, United States, and found that females produced signature whistles with significantly higher maximum frequencies and wider frequency ranges when they were recorded with their own dependent calves.
This finding provide an example of convergent evolution of motherese in nonhuman mammals, and may help us understand how motherese can facilitate vocal learning and bonding in nonhumans as well as humans.
Photo by Carli Brush Stoll
Reference: Sayigh et al., 2023. Bottlenose dolphin mothers modify signature whistles in the presence of their own calves. PNAS
Very useful tips to guess someone's placements 💕
when you first meet someone, cross them on the street, or encounter them in the professional setting - you see their midheaven sign when you are no longer strangers - you see their ascendant when you become friendly - you see their venus sign when they let their guard down around you - you see their moon sign but if you meet somebody who is very distressed or feeling unwell - you see their moon sign if you meet somebody who is enraged, competing with you for the job, or in a mad rush - you see their mars sign
and the sun sign was there all along, shining through every planet in orbit, shining through everything