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Thank you so much for the positive response! As someone who has a intense interest in mental illness and media, I can get exceedingly annoyed when I see the same reductive portrayal of these conditions, I can often forget the well-meaning person behind the creation.

For that, I apologize.

If you still want to write a story where Liam Clark is unaware of the murdering, you could use the supression or repression of memories.

It would be an interesting way to still keep Liam Clark in the dark about the murders while not outright villainizing any specific disorder.

Although, if you are going this route, I recommend that some traces of the memories "bubble" up from time to time. It can be a misplaced phobia that doesn't really make sense, an avoidance of certain actions that his brain may associate with the murders, and other stuff like that.

If you want to send in a more "formal" writing advice request, my inbox is always open :)

I Need help creating a new Character

HI, so I have a new character, but I am worried I would write him wrongly.

My new character is called Liam Clark. But the thing is, he is the villain in his own story.

Sort of like Norman Bates but the thing is,he is austistic.

Yeah, I am so worried. I have opened like ten tabs on Autism in teens and kids and boys. I read a book Lady Midnight by Cassandra Clare. Great book by the way. Where Ty , has autism or has the traits ,show don't tell but done amazedly well.I think.

My other worry is that he is a villain, anti-hero. Who commits crimes without his knowledge.

I even wrote a draft, if anyone who is Autistic, please tell me if I am writing wrongly. So I can improve it.

I even want to consult one of my friends, but I feel like I am overstepping a boundary by asking him to help me.

I would ask him tho.

So, I have created his well personality, kind off. I want to make him a guy who happens to be autistic not an autistic guy and that's it.I am somewhere, not quite.

So, Liam Clark, is a seventeen-year high School student from southern California.

Liam is a smart dude, gets all A and Bs and stuff. At his High School, people bully him for being "werid" because he likes staring at stuff that are posters. Liam is obsessed with posters and Horror films. The book takes place in 2019 so is very progressive. He HATES loud music and HATES being stared at and it pisses him off.He hates the texture of yogurt because it reminds him of something NSFW, but he is into it.He still eats it because he can and taste like wet cement. He is very picky with his food and stuff and avoids the texture. He is very honest, very rude if you don't know him and points out the obvious to people which pisses them off. He doesn't like socializing much Tho, His classmates are little shits and call him Aussie just to piss him off. And in the first chapter, he calls them out. He really wants to punch those kids but he is worried that he would get in trouble for it, so he insults them in his mind. He divides his lunch and certain foods that look like plastic.

Plus, he is bisexual. Attracted to men most but attracted to women. Since he doesn't get social cues, he would tell the guy to his face about his assets and even girls to which makes them shocked.

Not the best guy right.

I am scared to write him because I feel like I am villainizing Autistic people and making him a villain.

Please I need help.

Worst of all is that he suffers from a big delusional disorder so he doesn't really see what he did was wrong even if it stared at him in the face. And DID, which he isn't aware of his criminal version of himself which does crime from petty to straight up evil. He doesn't get it, he becomes ignorant. He is unreliable narrator.

The story is indded a Murder Mystery which is told in first person and not chronologically.

He is a white guy who is lanky and skinny and stuff.

So yeah.

I need criticism need to improve him, or I would lock him away. And never write him.

I am stretching my hands towards the Autistic community asking for help and advice. Thank you.

Heres a link to the draft. Thanks if anyone reads it and gives their viewpoint.It is also kind of Satire.

I Am Not A Murderer I Swear ( Book 1 #I Am Not Series ) - Google Docs

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Writing Advice Requests!

Feel free to ask me for any advice on writing :D

I have no boundaries only one rule and an exception to that rule:

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However, if you want to ask about my personal life, i'll try to answer the question while remaining internet safe. So no age-related questions, location questions, name, and all identifying details that I haven't mentioned,

Remember: I don't know your world. I barely know your characters. If this advice doesn't apply, think on it but don't force it.

There is a LOT to cover in this small post so i'm going to skip over the big fucking autistic elephant for just this moment!

From most problematic to least :D

A) Villainizing DID

You are definitely villainizing DID. Certainly. Like this is one of the most clear-cut examples of villainzing DID that I have ever heard.

Seriously:

A "secret" criminal alter

DID meant to not demonstrate people with DID but to scare non-plurals

Murder Mystery Genre

DID as a shocking plot twist

Please, for the love that is holy, don't write THAT aspect of his character. The majority of the DID community doesn't have criminal alters and by writing that specific part of your character you're introducing ableistic bullshit into you writing where mental illness is not meant to be sympathized with but to horrified off.

This is especially bad-looking when you understand that DID (aka dissociative identity disorder) is caused by extensive trauma in their early childhood. I'm talking about the worst kinds of things one can suffer. Not just name-calling. Not just something you can pull out of the Murder Mystery HAT! F#CK!!

B) Delusions

This can work.

It can.

But should it?

From a purely writer perspective, if you already have a character who doesn't see the murder in "murder mystery" as wrong then why do you need DID to throw into the mix for a half-handed messy plot twist that doesn't need to be there?

If you wanted to make Liam Clark a villain while still being an unreliable narrator, just have them be murdering people and then cut those parts out.

HECK! Why do you need delusion in the first place?! Just have Liam Clark be a normal autistic guy who sometimes murders people! Then the theme can be "murderers are humans, not monsters"!

It just screams "demonizing mental illness" and that is not good at all.

C) Autism

At this point, the focus should be on the fact that these autistic traits are going to be seen as evidence that "displays how this guy was always mentally screwed up".

When your audience sympathetizes for the loner bullied guy who gets called weird by his classmates, they are going to feel like they should have been calling this guy weird the whole time!

They are going to re-read the book and see all of these autistic traits and say to themselves "oh how didn't I see this murderer sooner?"

So many times movies and shows use autistic traits to communicate to the audience that something spiritually or morally wrong with that individual.

I'm not saying that autistic characters can't be villains. I'm just saying that it's a delicate topic.

Here are some tips:

The only way this is going to work out for you is if you add a sympathetic good person autistic person. You need to convince your audience that autistic people are not the villain. Only Liam Clark is.

Try to add sympathetic reasoning behind why Liam Clark acts like this. Use diction to properly show why he would find this texture disgusting

Honesty: Yes, autistic people can sound rude when they are trying to be candidly helpful. If Liam Clark is trying to be helpful to these people and he comes of as rude, that is not an issue. If Liam Clark is just saying hurtful shit because he wants to then that's not autism, that's being an asshole.

Really? Your villain is a guy obsessed with horror movies? And is autistic? how groundbreaking...

WAKE UP!!! Scream did it first! And every single f*cking Scream copy-cat did it after you!

This is just pure cliche and is definitely going to be seen as you villainizing autistic traits like hyperfixation.

CONCLUSION:

Is Liam Clark a poor example of autism representation? Kinda. It could swing to good and bad depending on how you play with his traits.

Is Liam Clark a poor example of DID representation? Yes. Definitely.

Is Liam Clark a poor example of delusion representation? Almost certainly.

Liam Clark is a fucking ableist character who feels wholly unsympathetic, kinda disgusting, and pretty ableist all things considered.

Is Liam Clark un-fixable? Obviously not.

You could have Liam Clark as the autistic DID guy who isn't the villain. That's an actual twist.

You could have Liam Clark be the autistic villain who battles against actual hero, autistic somebody!

But never put people with delusions and/or DID in the fucking villain role

I Need help creating a new Character

HI, so I have a new character, but I am worried I would write him wrongly.

My new character is called Liam Clark. But the thing is, he is the villain in his own story.

Sort of like Norman Bates but the thing is,he is austistic.

Yeah, I am so worried. I have opened like ten tabs on Autism in teens and kids and boys. I read a book Lady Midnight by Cassandra Clare. Great book by the way. Where Ty , has autism or has the traits ,show don't tell but done amazedly well.I think.

My other worry is that he is a villain, anti-hero. Who commits crimes without his knowledge.

I even wrote a draft, if anyone who is Autistic, please tell me if I am writing wrongly. So I can improve it.

I even want to consult one of my friends, but I feel like I am overstepping a boundary by asking him to help me.

I would ask him tho.

So, I have created his well personality, kind off. I want to make him a guy who happens to be autistic not an autistic guy and that's it.I am somewhere, not quite.

So, Liam Clark, is a seventeen-year high School student from southern California.

Liam is a smart dude, gets all A and Bs and stuff. At his High School, people bully him for being "werid" because he likes staring at stuff that are posters. Liam is obsessed with posters and Horror films. The book takes place in 2019 so is very progressive. He HATES loud music and HATES being stared at and it pisses him off.He hates the texture of yogurt because it reminds him of something NSFW, but he is into it.He still eats it because he can and taste like wet cement. He is very picky with his food and stuff and avoids the texture. He is very honest, very rude if you don't know him and points out the obvious to people which pisses them off. He doesn't like socializing much Tho, His classmates are little shits and call him Aussie just to piss him off. And in the first chapter, he calls them out. He really wants to punch those kids but he is worried that he would get in trouble for it, so he insults them in his mind. He divides his lunch and certain foods that look like plastic.

Plus, he is bisexual. Attracted to men most but attracted to women. Since he doesn't get social cues, he would tell the guy to his face about his assets and even girls to which makes them shocked.

Not the best guy right.

I am scared to write him because I feel like I am villainizing Autistic people and making him a villain.

Please I need help.

Worst of all is that he suffers from a big delusional disorder so he doesn't really see what he did was wrong even if it stared at him in the face. And DID, which he isn't aware of his criminal version of himself which does crime from petty to straight up evil. He doesn't get it, he becomes ignorant. He is unreliable narrator.

The story is indded a Murder Mystery which is told in first person and not chronologically.

He is a white guy who is lanky and skinny and stuff.

So yeah.

I need criticism need to improve him, or I would lock him away. And never write him.

I am stretching my hands towards the Autistic community asking for help and advice. Thank you.

Heres a link to the draft. Thanks if anyone reads it and gives their viewpoint.It is also kind of Satire.

I Am Not A Murderer I Swear ( Book 1 #I Am Not Series ) - Google Docs

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What Outsiders Think: Yuuma and Jukka

From the most positive to the most negative :D

Tree Of Heaven: Tree of Heaven is the alias of a guy who originally had an antagonistic relationship with Jukka until they forever bonded over their mutual obsession with cinema. Tree Of Heaven is literally the only person who has given their entire heart to the relationship. Tree Of Heaven loves the image of Attractive Hero x Attractive Villain

David Rodriguez: David is Yuuma's step-father. David certainly distrusts Jukka with their child. Jukka was a villain and the only reason David was able to even learn his name is because Jukka gave it out with the express threat that if David reveals this information, he is dead. Luckily, David is willing to try and like the guy :)

Henry Liu: Henry is the quasi-son of Yuuma. Originally, Henry had no stake in the romantic tension but when Henry realized that this weirdo was going to be an active part in both of their lives, he is now always ready to cut him out. Henry is basically an attack dog for Yuuma since Yuuma is stupid and can be somewhat gullible.

Shiloh Whitlock: Shiloh can't understand love in the first place. But if they wanna like each other then sure. They'll be there for Yuuma for the probable break up.

Anghel Dalca: Anghel is one of the closest people to Jukka. He was skeptical of how these two could possible like each other. Whenever he tried to talk to Jukka about what there is to bond about, he was cut down. Anghel can only see there differences. Jukka is a hypercompetent, intelligent, bundle of mystery while Yuuma is an incompetent, stupid, open book of a human.

Edward Whitlock: Edward is a staunch traditionalist who somehow isn't racist or homophobic. He can't see why such a lovely person like Yuuma would like this guy without a future and barely with a past?!

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The Lengths: Yuuma and Jukka

Jukka's "grand sacrifice" moment was the time he left his previous organization which (unfortunately) left him with a huge target on his back.

This one was incredibly hard since Jukka has been a member of the organization for several years. It gave him a purpose and a sense of stability he wouldn't ordinarily have. Luckily, Jukka was able to find that joy in his new community but he still suffers the consequences :(

Yuuma's "the lengths they are willing to go" moment was when they revealed their secret identity to the population in order to protect Jukka's own triple sided identity.

This was incredibly difficult since it made Yuuma unable to ever lead a peaceful life ever again. Now they have to deal with responsibility and all of that shitty obligation :(

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tag your posts with #lilasromanceweek24 !

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Hi, For five months I've been trying to find a friend to create a campaign for me. I was even able to create a campaign through my friend Brooke Cole so that the campaign would be reliable and the donation would be protected for everyone. My children are living under bombardment in the war 😭 Please consider them your children and help them 🙏🙏 Stand by my side to save and protect my children. They haven't gone to school for a year 🙏😢😢 Donate to save my children's lives 🍉 🙏🇵🇸 We live in very difficult and desperate circumstances, and what is worst of all is that the fear that haunts me increases day by day. Help me provide them with basic life needs

Of course I will post the account for everyone's viewing pleasure

Tips for the future:

Include the link of your campaign

Try to get verification from one of your friends and include that in your posts

These are tips that can help the easibility of people who want to donate to you and the reliability of your actual campaign. There are a lot of scammers who are pretending to be palestinians and by seperating yourself from them, the chances of receiving donations goes up.

How to Show Affection: Jukka(he/him) and Yuuma(they/them)

Jukka is the most simultaneously extravagant lover and the most laidback lover. While, yes, Jukka routinely demonstrates love through obviously romantic gestures such as poetry and love letters, it's not the most 'genuine" thing.

Jukka's love languages are primarily gift-giving and words of affirmation but these aren't "natural" for him. He could, theoretically, do anything or nothing to express affection since Jukka doesn't really feel strong emotions.

Jukka's greatest act of affection is mostly through his effort. He doesn't feel the subjective emotion of sadness whenever Yuuma is sad BUT Jukka does try to comfort Yuuma.

Yuuma expresses affection in the little things. Leaving a specific chair open since they know Jukka needs to sit next to an exit. Grabbing an extra soda since Jukka is always thirst yet never remembers to bring something >:(

They both show affection just through open-mindedness and a strong respect for and consideraton for their boundaries.

Jukka doesn't understand Yuuma's hypersensitivity but that doesn't mean he can't try to emotionally comfort them

Yuuma doesn't understand Jukka's need for privacy but that doesn't mean Yuuma can't defend their partner whenever someone tries to force that information out!

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Classic Examples Of Their Love: Yuuma and Jukka

Yuuma is definitely a laidback type of lover who only really goes out of their way for obvious Grand Romantic Gestures when it's some type of anniversary or holiday.

Yuuma's main gestures tend to be waiting up for Jukka if he's lagging behind the rest of the group and listening to Jukka go on a passionate monologue about cinema for hours on end.

Yuuma's more romantic gestures are when Jukka makes some type of comment about adoring a specific romantic cliche. One time, for Jukka's birthday, they made a portrait of Jukka. It was incredibly hard since Yuuma went for realistic in this portrait when their normal artistic style is far more abstract and symbolic :)

Jukka's casual love gestures are through excessive compliments and poetry. He definitely tries to recreate typical romance cliches for Yuuma such as writing a song for Yuuma, expensive restaurants, and all that fun jazz!

It's less because Jukka genuinely wants this and more due to the fact that Jukka is f*cking awful when it comes to genuine displays of affection.

His most genuine gesture is when he's recommending movies and shows for Yuuma to watch. Jukka takes cinema very very seriously.

p.s yes I am doing multiple posts >:(

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Jukka: "Even alone is never alone! I'm just a stringed together wire set of tropes, cliches, and archetypes like every single other person!

Yuuma: " Once I finally developed the self-awareness that has escaped me my full life I was struck by the realization that I need to die; I knew that every single moment of my entire life since I was cursed to be a nothing human was destined to a catastrophic cacophany of errors and sin where every single action would be another coating of shameful failure upon me. Dreams of falling through the futtering fall leaves as I feel life herself hugging me were not meant for nothings like me".

Write two sentences from one of your WIPs, I dare you

@incestthemes @herestoevilskanks @supergaysupernatural (or anyone else who wants to jump in or get added to the tag list)

In the spirit of fairness, here you go, two sentences from one of my WIPs I haven't touched in a bit:

"I know I'm getting off on this, but I've got a pair black eyes, you though," Dean bites his ear hard enough it might honestly be cut. Sam doesn't care, can't care with all the sensations warring inside him. "You're just naturally this twisted Sammy."

My Most Hated Romance Tropes

Hi, this is going to be me convincing you to hate these tropes :)

A) Misplaced Sexual Tension

Is this a real thing? I see this trope so much that I'm starting to wonder if i'm the outlier.

This tends to come up in the "hurt/comfort" scene a lot. Basically, a character is deathly ill or even unconscious sometimes. The love interest is sitting by the bed. I would think that this is going to be angst-y scene where you get incite into the deep love that the love interest has for the sick one. And the resulting fear and concern.

BUT NO! The "Love Interest" "feels heat rush in between their legs" as they run off to the bathroom!

I hate this trope because it always turns romance into just more sexual shit. I don't want that. if I wanted to see two characters have lust for each other I would have just read an erotica.

B) Random Sexual Tension

Character A cries about their dead parent and Character B gets a boner

Character A hugs Character B. boobas

Character A promises to protect Character B and Character B immediately thinks about bedroom affairs

Character A is fighting and Character B is staring at their chest

SERIOUSLY!?! Why can't these characters keep it in their pants for just one motherf#cking moment!?

I hate it because I want to see Character A and Character B have their personalities and inner depth explored. I don't want to see literal sex objects!

C) Everything Serves Sex

I hate the belief that writers and fans share that all characters must act either according to their sexual position or as a subversion of that.

Seriously, I'm just trying to read about a nice gay love story and all the comments are talking about is:

"who's da top and who da bottom?"

"who man and who woman?"

GOD Fucking DAMMIT!!! This doesn't matter. Personality doesn't impact sexual habits.

i just want to see gay man love gay man or gay woman love gay woman.

i'm not here to read about erotica :`(

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tag your posts with #lilasromanceweek24 !

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Obviously, when it comes to advice I can't give you 100% accurate advice since I don't know the entire philosophy of your characters nor do I know the specific worldbuilding details.

If this advice doesn't apply, think about it but don't try to force it :)

First Things First: Trauma Responses Are Complicated

Oftentimes, when it comes to coping mechanisms, they have two contradictory fears or desires for something which cause confusing behavior if you aren't aware of their struggles. A common fear combination is the fear of abandonment and the fear of engulfment. Or the desire to be unconnected and the desire to find belonging.

When it comes to Daxoril's characteristics, they already have some of this but I think an interesting quality to explore, if you haven't already, is the soul-sucking clinginess Daxoril could display towards Keya.

I think it could add internal conflict to both Keya and Daxoril.

Keya could feel guilty for feeling exhausted by Daxoril's constant clinginess while Daxoril could feel shame for failing to remain unconnected.

Second Thing: It's The Small, Dangerous Things

A big pitfall that writers often fall into is writing outward displays of a lack of trust or whatever a character is dealing with, and just ignore the inner complexity.

Trauma responses tend to become ingrained in a person's thinking behavior. It's not just social. It's not just physical. It's everything.

Daxoril expresses these fears throughout their profile:

Guilt over not being strong enough

Lack of trust

Fear of being simplified

Now, when it comes to establishing just how fundamental these fears are, it actually doesn't need many pages. Have a few establishing moments where a character notices something and then either have "backstory confession" or have the camera show what the character feels in the midst of trauma response.

Daxoril could try to work through their fear of not being strong enough through over-exercising (physcial) and pushing their comfort boundaries (emotional)

Daxoril could embody their trust issues through always having weapons next to them if that's within their character. Constantly searching a specific character's behavior for anything that reminds them of their original abuser.

Daxoril could turn into a huge people pleaser who constantly tries to establish a positive reputation. Heck, they could start using the same manipulation techniques that were used on them!

Last Thing: Consequences @melda0m3

Flaws only count when they have consequences. Daxoril's fears need to either physically manifest BECAUSE of their flaws or their fears need to be used against them.

How To Write Trauma With Humanity

This short post is for those who think that they might be so focused on writing trauma well that they accidentally forget to write an actual character.

As someone who has an "interest" (read: deeply passionate and completely consuming dedication) for psychology and character analysis, I feel like sometimes writers don't really know how to write a character with trauma.

To quote a quote:

Don't Write A Traumatized Character, Write A Character With Trauma

I'm just trying to talk about those situations where the only interesting thing that we ever learn about this character is the fact that they have trauma and that's sad.

People tend to think that PTSD and trauma in general is just:

sit in dark, crying inconsolably about death

have nightmares

hide the fact that you have PTSD with broodiness

try to revenge

die tragically or happy ever after

Remember: Nobody has time for that

These people have obligations, responsibilities, family members, loved ones, and dreams that don't allow for this type of lifestyle.

Many people with PTSD *seem* like standard members of society. They sometimes participate in community activities. They have hobbies and vague interests that they put on their dating profile but don't really care about.

People with PTSD and trauma are interesting REGARDLESS of their trauma and trauma-related bullshit, not because.

If the only thing that's interesting about a character is what something else did to your character, it's not really interesting.

What's their dreams?

What do they like to eat in the morning?

What's their values?

Stop Trying TO ANSWER These Important Questions With:

"don't care :3 trauma will make this character complete :D"