I Want To Get Married Just To Get Divorced Because Yeah The Feeling Of Yearning For Someone Youve Been

I want to get married just to get divorced because yeah the feeling of yearning for someone you’ve been crushing on is so fun but it feels kind of childish. you start dating and then you get married when you’re old enough and I feel like somewhere around that long period of time the yearning feels forgotten because yearning is essentially associated with love. so sometimes that love slips through the cracks of your fingers and in between coming home late and ignoring calls and petty fights and giving half assed responses just to receive a “are you going to actually talk with with more than one word or am I going to be having a monologue all night?” and going upstairs to see them still awake but ignoring you. you get used to it. you get so used to it in fact that you don’t expect it to end.

next thing you know is that you’re at the beach house (the one you have dreamed about having together when you were yearning for your lover), there’s a divorce paper with your lover’s signature on the marble kitchen table (the one you both took time picking out, mindlessly walking through an ikea hand-in-hand but your stomach hurts and you can’t tell if it’s because of the overwhelming PDA and love that’s rushing through your veins or the ice coffee you’ve been sipping on with your free hand) and suddenly you’re getting a call from your lawyer while you’re trying to process your emotions, you can’t really figure out what the most appropriate response is because even though you did know you would get divorced you didn’t properly prepare for it.

now you’re standing in the kitchen, the phone call ended and you’re thinking about what went wrong, when you already know. so you sign the papers all while you tell yourself “it’s for the best.” but is it really? did you dream this part too when you were 16 years old thinking about the future with the love of your life? and the answer is no, you didn’t. now you’re trying to learn how to live without them because it’s think that it’s better this way.

but it’s not better, because how could it be better? when they move into their parent’s house until they get themselves together but you still see them sometimes across the grocery store and you’re thinking about how nobody else in the grocery store knows that you used to wake up next to them for more than 10 years. that you still catch myself making coffee for two (one is exactly the way they liked it). that you still get up in the middle of night to a cup full of water because they used to get thirsty in their sleep. that you know every little thing about them and still see them in everything and now it’s gone and then you realize you’re yearning again and you need them more than you ever have and it’s a different kind of want.

The sun bites down on my shoulder

I’m humming a song I can’t remember where I got it from; I think you sang it once when I was in the back seat of your car as we wound up the mountains. I put in my head that it was supposed to keep you out, but I’m singing your favorite song on my only free day. My childish defiance of your affection but you still find a way through me.

It’s warm, and I’m laying down against a beach lounge, letting the sun soak into my brown skin. It kisses me and I feel myself turning red, I know you hate it. I have my sunglasses on, and I act like I can’t hear anything except the sound of the waves breathing down my neck.

You kneel at my feet, where you belong, offering me a cup with a touch of kindness. As our hands briefly meet, I lower my sunglasses, allowing you to see the smile that reaches my eyes so you know I mean it, despite the darkened bags beneath them in the sunlight. With a whispered “thank you,” I take a sip, only to swallow the grit of sand you’ve placed in the cup.

I don’t want to grant you the satisfaction of my discomfort, I swallow without betraying my realization. It’s only later, in the quiet of my bathroom, that I cough it up, clutching the edges of the mirror. Through my blurred vision, all I can discern is the streak of teary eyeliner tracing down my face. I can’t even recognize myself but I know I’m stubborn and you exploit that until my skin burns with rashes worse than the sun could ever. Even months later, I still find myself coughing up bits of sand.

First language in love, second but more fluent in anger: on planet Venus

Today, I’ve settled into anger’s company. I gesture it to sit across from me at breakfast. I don’t shout it. But I can tell you sense it in my tight fists and clenched jaw. And you? Your silence reverberates down the hall. I can tell you’re angry with every move you do, in the way you sidestep in the doorway and in the glare you give me that you don’t think I notice.

Like two balls of flames and rage thrown into a ring, constantly colliding despite our efforts to avoid each other. And when we do crash, it’s a cataclysmic explosion worse than either of us could imagine.

That moment when two burning stars finally crash, but it’s expected, scientists saw it coming after years of study. They gave us a decade, said we’ll be okay for a while, but expected our implosion after all the tension. It’s been a long time coming but it hurts more when it finally happens.

Your rage burns and leaves marks onto my skin, next to the ones where you used to love me, and they look the same and I can’t distinguish them. But you have the same marks as me so what are we now? We gained nothing from this, no new star or planet born from this, so what now?

We’re just two crashed cars, obviously on flames, waiting for someone to come to our rescue. But is that all we are? Are we just wreckage waiting for rescue? The car may be salvageable, but what about us? Will we come out from this unscathed? Will we be okay? Will you still love me, even if you couldn’t do this anymore?

for days, I craved for something perfect, a sweetness to linger on my tongue, a memory to savor for days. I wanted it to shake me up so bad I wouldn’t forget how it tasted even when I haven’t had it in months. I experimented with all kinds of sweeteners—powdered, brown, molasses, even cubes—but none satisfied that bitter feeling in my throat. then, I found it, that perfect sweetness. It became my obsession, seeped into every crevice of my day, in the morning with my coffee to the evening with my tea. People told me it was no good, that I’ll eventually die from heart ache. But, it was simple, easy to swallow. I didn’t have to wrap my head around it. but one afternoon, I realized I didn’t like it anymore when I couldn’t get it past my mouth without feeling the urge to throw up. I felt my gums rot and panic set in as I faced the need for something new. in my desperation, I tossed the sugar into a pot, I tried to fix the hurt by making the old into new, but it stuck stubbornly to the pan and there was no coming back from it.

Grieving Forecast: Warning at Noon, A Remote Control Experience

I spend too much time on my couch, it’s made for two but inhabited by one, my leg draped over the armrest, claiming that little space. There’s a remote control in hand, I flip through channels, cheek resting against the plastic surface.

At noon, the news anchor’s voice fills the room, warning of looming emotions at the doorstep that will swoop you off your feet, a level 4 scare. “Stay wary,” they caution, urging viewers to heed the call.

But, I skip past it and play commercials, it just becomes noise, and then I reach for my phone instead. I check the weather app, even though I already know it’s bad outside. But really, I’m just hoping to catch a glimpse of when the clouds in my head will clear up, of when this pain will ease, when the hurt will dissipate and vanish into thin air. Before I can see, a notification pings on my phone from the news app that distracts me for a moment, it reads along the lines:

“Woman Doesn’t Know What to Say for the Funeral Even Though Nobody has Died Yet, More Details at Seven.”

Except, I’m aware it’s inevitable, that death is relentless, an unstoppable force. It’s the unknown timing that scares me, that creeping preemptive grief that I’ll eventually deal with. It’s a dilemma I fight with. Then, out of nowhere, the crack of thunder startles me from behind, and I still jump, even though I anticipated it.

“Woman Wants to Stop Time to Live in That Perfect Moment Forever, Discovers Healing in Memory and Remembrance, Headline at Eight.”

With a deep breath, I find the courage and do the first brave thing in a long time: grabbing an umbrella as a precaution. It’s a small gesture, but a big step towards a new start. Stepping outside, I find unexpected sun shining onto me that wasn’t forecasted, but it’s not unwelcome. After so long of being inside, I accept it with open arms. I can breathe. I can feel grass grow beneath my feet.

I've gotten so used to seeing your back, your black hair tied up messily as you tirelessly work day and night. I sit on the staircase, not doing much, while you rush past, paying me no mind. This house feels warm, and I have no reason to go outside, nowhere else to be. No one to become. I watch you leave from my window, and I wave goodbye when I know you’ll come back. But I didn’t think of what I would do when you didn’t come back one day, and then the flames consume the house, the walls closing in. I have to find you. I run through the house, I see my reflection in the mirror and I find you in me. I find you in the moon and me in the stars. I find you in the withering flowers and me as the seeds you plant. I stumble outside, knees scraping against concrete. The rain pours, but I barely feel it. My heart aches, it’s bleeding into the raindrops. You’re gone, and I’m alone, but you taught me love and pain. You’ll keep staying a memory, fixed in place, while I move forward without you. I gather myself and return home, but you’re still not there when I get back. But instead I see you in everything I do. I tell myself, “I’ll eventually become just like you one day, so I guess I’ll have to start now” all while I still have you, so that you can help me through all of this.