I Get The Whole Lacking Empathy Doesnt Make You A Bad Person As Long As You Show Compassion To Others

I get the whole “lacking empathy doesn’t make you a bad person as long as you show compassion to others” thing, but I don’t completely agree.

You don’t need to show compassion to others all the time in order to be a good person. I understand how hard it is for someone who lacks empathy to care about someone enough to be compassionate towards them, especially when you just don’t give a fuck.

I think people have this idea that you need to be kind and friendly and care about others all the time. Thats not something some people, especially with ASPD, can achieve all the time.

Sometimes the most you can do is just stop yourself from being argumentative asshole and thats fine. Whatever your coping mechanisms are to limit the damage is fine. You don’t need to extend compassion to people if you can’t. You’re not a bad person for being unable to do so.

I can just imagine Tobys tics acting up on that car ride with Lyra, which led to him believing he was the cause of the crash. If he wasn’t such a twitchy freak, if he was just normal, she’d be alive.

I can also imagine that the real distraction was Lyra catching a glimpse of Slenderman which prompted her to swerve off the road. Of course Toby never found out about this and would forever blame himself for her death. And maybe to him, being a proxy was nothing more but punishment for what he did.

OK thats all the ASPD posts for awhile thank you 👍

Pyroverse Jeff. Hes such a little shit

i love characters that are just a cunt. no redeeming characteristics. just there to stir shit up and scheme. cause a ruckus. get on everyone's nerves.

Another thing is that people tend to accept the label of ASPD, but not the behaviour.

Do you fear being called ableist? Do you find it easier to accept a word rather than the person?

I understand completely that an antisocial person isn’t easy to swallow. We can be very harsh, blunt, mean, uncaring, yada yada, but I can assure you that we’d much prefer you just say you don’t like pwASPD rather than pretending you accept it but turn around and hate on people who exhibit antisocial behaviour.

And I’m talking about people who are in and out of treatment. Don’t exclude people who aren’t being treated from your ASPD positivity. Even if you aren’t on the road to recovery, you deserve support.

People who don’t care about others. People who don’t care about others suffering. People who only look out for themselves. People who have different morals and opinions. People who don’t care about political issues because it doesn’t effect them. People who are argumentative. People who have a bad temper. People who are brutally honest. People who view relationships as transactional. People who view the world as a warzone.

If you’re going to accept people with ASPD, accept people with ASPD. Don’t hide behind this faux layer of positivity when you immediately make fun of, ostracize and hate on people who actually show with these behavioural issues.

Girlfriend let me use her drawing tablet and I drew TicciWork cuz Im on a roll today