AYYY BRUDDERS ITS PRIDE OF THE MONTH TIME!!!!! >:D

AYYY BRUDDERS ITS PRIDE OF THE MONTH TIME!!!!! >:D

(Sorry I’m busy rewatching the Fundy Maid stream lol XD) (It’s hilarious if any of you wanna watch it go ahead (swear warning))

Anyways uh

So Hi everyone! I’m Quail ^-^

Doing the 30 days of pride challenge :>

Anyways! 

(image from mainenglish.com)

 I don’t really know my pronouns rn I’m trying to figure them out, but right now I’m okay with anything, but He and They are coolio if you want to use those, but if you’d rather call me she thats fine

As far as labels go, I’m choosing between:

Demiboy,

Genderfluid, 

Or just Nonbinary. :>

Who knows? 

But all I know is 

I want to try wearing a binder

When I said to myself that I am a woman and can never change that it made me cry so uh not doing that again (I was hoping I was maybe faking it so I tried referring to myself with just she/her and saying things like that and I hated it,  but I just wanted to maybe see if I was comfortable with it so I could not go through with telling my mom who has already expressed that same statement of me now and always being a lady and then wouldn’t have to deal with all the craziness of friends leaving me after I someday come out and I’m scared-)

When some close friends referred to me with They/Them it felt weird but not bad? And when a person accidentally called me sir I didn’t want to correct them because it gave me this huge rush of happiness that made me want to do the happy flappy hands? 

anyway :b

In terms of my sexuality, I’m either Demisexual, Greysexual or ace, 

and I might be Demiromantic, but I’m not sure ,:> 

I would rather be friends with someone and see how the relationship goes from there; if the feelings change, great! If they don’t, that’s great too :b 

With people, I’d rather date girls or nonbinary people, but I’d be open to a guy :>

So... Ye! For now, the labels I’m going with are: 

Genderqueer

Greysexual DemiOmniromantic

All pronouns

Happy pride month, everyone! Let’s make it the gayest month the cishets have ever seen >:3

An Illumise Thing :]

(Trigger warning: Violence, Insanity, Bullying, Blood, Mild Swearing)

A little unpolished! There might be some grammatical mistakes, sorry ,:>

“Something wrong, three?” An indistinct voice mocked from somewhere above him, but it quickly faded back into silence. 

A starburst of searing red pain bolted through the darkness at his side, accompanied by the voice again, this time more persistent; “Ahem. Listen when I’m talking to you, failure.” The darkness began to evaporate, revealing glimpses of the bright and noisy lab around me, filled with hostile voices-

No.

Muffling blackness swept around him again like an inky blanket as Vian steadied his breathing. 

It’s fine, it’s fine, it’s fine, He consoled himself. They’ll get bored, and then they will leave. 

Or, A voice in the back of his head offered-

NO. I’m staying AWAY from that place. Away from my body, away from the scalpel, and away from any poor soul who happens to be in my vicinity. Besides, I won’t get to eat if they find the dead bodies on the floor-

Another burst of crimson agony, this time erupting from his head, jolted Vian back into his body. 

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Through the steady stream of blood flowing down my face, I could make out the smug Conqueror soldier grinning at me on one knee.

“Knew you’d come around,” she taunted, tossing and catching the ball of sharpened, bloody metal as her two subordinates smirked menacingly behind her. Shifting one arm over her knee, she squinted at my face, at my emaciated arms and torso, and stood up. “‘Highly Dangerous’ my ass. You’re just as harmless as every other mistake in this room.” 

Before I could stop myself, I chuckled, then muttered, “Then you must not be looking hard enough.” 

And the scalpel I’d stole from a nearby surgery table cut her off before she could respond.

✨I will personally have my army of crows tear out your trachea so you never speak again ✨

🔫 😊 People can Identify however the frick frack diddlydack they want; you can fight me on this all you want  

Said it before and I’ll say it again: rejecting femininity and holding onto your womanhood will always be more radical than rejecting femininity and claiming that makes you a new gender.

Hek ye! Being butch, imo, has nothing to do with sexuality; anyone can be butch if they want to regardless! Do what makes u happy <3

Hey can y'all reblog this or comment if you think it's ok to call yourself a butch if your bisexual? I got an ask about it and now I'm unsure...

So trying to prove something to myself.

Token Representation

In the same realm as fetishizing an individual for their sexuality is none other than the new pop culture phenomenon of token representation. This is the concept of including an individual of a minority group to create diversity and inclusion. Token representation has a few key factors that skews it from just representing the community:

The token character is never complex.

The token character follows stereotypes, tropes, or plot lines, such as them quickly being killed off or no longer being seen in the film.

There not intersectional but rather are just LGBTQIA+

They have nothing else in their life except this identity.

The “gay best friend” trend is one that has swept the nation. This ranges not only from the mass media representation in movies like its namesake, “G.B.F” to the trend of straight celebrities having their very own. But sadly, this is only detrimental to the community and does not work to expand on accurate representation. “Gay men are not accessories; they are not your entities. Lesbians and bi women are not just the objects of your sexual desires. We are real humans with more to offer than the romanticized stereotypes straight people perpetuate. I guarantee no gay man wants to follow you around, tell you “yas, queen,” and give you fashion advice. The fetishization and romanticization of same-gender attraction is extremely damaging to our community. It dehumanizes us.” (Price) We are turning people into items, no longer are they a gay person struggling through coming out, societal backlash, learning about themselves, or navigating an ever-changing terrain. Instead, they are as if the newest trendiest handbag on the market, and guess what, those get ditched fast for the next new one.

(Price)

This trend works to perpetuate the idea that gay men are there only for the benefit of these straight women when they adamantly avoid other members of the LGBTQIA community. “Urban Dictionary's top voted definition for the term is “the best friend of any hot girl you know.”” (Price) It draws attention to the fact that these people are not made famous for their individuality, their contributions, or being themselves but rather by taking one singular aspect, their sexuality, and making it the only aspect that anyone cares about. We are morphing these people from a complex human with thoughts, emotions, desires, and pains they carry with them every day throughout the day into just a gay guy.

"More LGBT people are simply integrated into the lives of all people as friends and family," says Cathy Renna, a media activist and LGBT community PR guru. "We will continue to battle homophobia and sexism and racism for a long time to come, but I would like to think we have made progress beyond the patronizing 'I have a gay friend so I must be OK with it' statement." (Scheffler) This concept perpetuates the swathe that holds together our current society's stance on the LGBTQIA+ community. “We’re okay with it.”, “I have a friend”, or “my sister is”. These all play off the concept that association or even simply mentioning a concept equates to acceptance and understanding of it.

“While 64% of adults think it’s positive for the LGBTQ+ community to be visible in advertisements, a considerable 72% of the LGBTQ+ community think the way they are presented in advertising is tokenistic, according to research commissioned by the Gay Times and Karmarama.” (Watson) The fact that 72% of the community being depicted feels as though it is only out of tokenism shows just how big this problem is. It is the culmination of people fetishizing the community into objects they want to see for their own pleasure, it is the monetization of a community, and it relies upon heteronormative stereotypes which erases people within the community. Representation on the other hand, would include dynamic characters, with complex emotional and background stories, and a wide variety of representations and plot lines to which a character advances through (all while not disappearing or being killed).

A token representation is one that follows stereotypes or even flows within the heteronormative narrative society so wishes to paint. “I find that these policies and documents promote a specific normative form of monogamous, marital, middle-class, normatively gendered, and in many implicit and explicit ways, white, heterosexuality—that is best described as heteronormative.” (Rosenblum 425)

This very specifically calls attention to the fact that diversity and intersectionality is a rare find within representation, meaning it is not real representation. It is a sad excuse that is happy to sweep the entire community under one blanket statement that follows the standards set up for the whole world, heteronormativity. Best put, we are looking for representation that understands, “LGBTQ+ people run the gamut. We are white and Black and brown. We are lesbians, and gay men, genderqueer, trans, nonbinary. We are rich and poor, fat and skinny, healthy and disabled, and our representation deserves to show us in all of the shades that we exist.” (Karner)

What our community demands is this: “That means when it comes to representation, it has to be more than a token. It must be inclusive and intersectional. People do not exist in a single aspect. They are complicated and multi-faceted, and heterosexual people get to see themselves in a hundred different ways onscreen. We deserve the same thing.” (Karner)

Thus, despite the exposure and seeming representation, there is still an oppressive and commodity culture-based reason to be including these characters. We are not showing that this community is everywhere as normal human beings but rather depicting them solely as this overly noticeable and focused upon person just for their sexual identity.

Resources:

Karner, Jen. “LGBTQ+ Representation in Movies Has a Long Way to Go.” Whattowatch.com, WhatToWatch, 2 June 2020, www.whattowatch.com/opinion/lgbtq-representation-movies-has-long-way-go.

Price, Cameron. “Stop Fetishizing Gay People.” YouthCake, 1 Jan. 1970, www.youthcake.com/2019/01/stop-fetishizing-gay-people.html.

Rosenblum, Karen Elaine, and Toni-Michelle Travis, editors. The Meaning of Difference. 5th ed., McGraw-Hill Education, 2008.

Scheffler, Daniel. “Why It's Time to Say Goodbye to the ‘Gay Best Friend.’” Mic, Mic, 26 Feb. 2015, www.mic.com/articles/111308/why-it-s-time-to-rename-the-gay-best-friend.

Watson, Imogen. “72% Of LGBTQ+ Community Believe Their Representation in Advertising Tokenistic.” The Drum, The Drum, 17 June 2019, www.thedrum.com/news/2019/06/17/72-lgbtq-community-believe-their-representation-advertising-tokenistic.

Image:

“G.B.F. (Film).” Wikipedia, Wikimedia Foundation, 3 May 2021, en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G.B.F._(film).

Piskorski, Mikolaj Jan, et al. “LGBT Diversity and Inclusion within Organization: IMD Article.” IMD Business School, IMD Business School, 20 June 2019, www.imd.org/research-knowledge/articles/Thrive-as-an-LGBT-executive-or-ally/.

most human rights debates can be watered down to this:

Person: hey maybe we should care about other people

Another Person: no❤️