We Hope That Once We Pass Away That Those Beloved To Us Will Do Some Kind Of Sadaqah Jariyah For Us To

We hope that once we pass away that those beloved to us will do some kind of sadaqah jariyah for us to honour our memory. But my recent reflection questions this notions;

Why do I wait for people to leave a legacy for me?

How dare I wait for my Lord to take me before I decide to do good that will benefit me in the hereafter?

What am I waiting for?

When will I take initiative and honour my own memeory?

It occurred to me that I don't want to wait until I pass for someone to honour me. He knows I love Him, but I am still in need of every good deed I can find so that I could enter into Paradise without any difficulty.

I thought it is time for me to take a hold of my own legacy. The point is, we know people will, or we hope that that those beloved to us will try their best to honour our memory by doing as much sadaqah jariyah for us after our passing, but we should not wait until death approaches us to do beautiful deed. Start now, do it for yourself and do it for the sake of Allah.

We all need as many good deed on the day of Judgement, so start leaving your own legacy and people will follow with the same after your passing. We ask Allah to take us when He is most pleased with us and to give us a good ending.

So amazing to know, the reassurance Allah SWT is giving us, SubhanAllah.

Allah SWT is always there for us, looking after us, it is whether we recognise that.

Do we call out to Him or not?

Do we rely on Him or not?

Do we have sabr while getting the response or not?

Do we completely believe He is Al-Wakeel (The best disposer of our affairs) or not?

I guess the ultimate question during any hardship we face is the amount of tawakkul we have, because greater the reliance on Allah, the easier will be the hardship. Because no matter what Dunya(this life) is an ongoing test till our death, who better to ask for help, to rely on, to seek comfort from but The Creator of the entire existence who has The infinite knowledge, wisdom, who is The Most Merciful.

All you have to do is reach out, lift your hands up to Him, speak to Him although He knows your problems, He still listens, and loves you, He knows your situation better than you yourself, so ultimately surrender that is handover the matter to Him, ask Him for His help, guidance, be obedient to Him and believe sincerely He will take care of your affairs, of you. That's so beautiful knowing a being having the Most Grandeur has your back, even though you are so little. He notices you, that is so soothing and calming, Alhamdulillah.

رَبَّنَا وَلَا تُحَمِّلۡنَا مَا لَا طَاقَۃَ لَنَا بِہٖ

"Lord, do not burden us with more than we have strength to bear"

(Quran, 2:286)

This supplication is beautiful because it recognizes that there's a point beyond which the burdens of life can break and incapacitate us. But what's even more beautiful is that the beginning of this verse answers this existential question itself:

لَا یُکَلِّفُ اللّٰہُ نَفۡسًا اِلَّا وُسۡعَہَا

"God does not burden any soul with more than it can bear"

(Quran 2:286)

Therefore, Allah is in a way, letting it be known that you will survive, you will be looked after, you will not be burdened beyond your capacity, and most importantly — you have the strength to bear whatever hardships life brings you, because He never charges a soul with something that it doesn't have the capacity to endure, all we therefore have to do is to search for that inner God-given strength and put it to use.

"Never underestimate the small gestures, the choice between micro-agression and micro-compassion. The difference is between making someone feel like a real human being, or crushing their soul. The human heart is so fragile. This is why the Prophet ﷺ was so adamant to teach us the etiquette of emotion, the core of character: Don't whisper between two if you are joined by a third. Smile, its a charity. Turn your full torso when someone speaks to you. Don't take someone's seat when they get up temporarily. Regard anything personal someone tells you as a secret to hold close even if you aren't told to do so. Make peace between people. Don't hold a grudge more than three days. And so so so much more. The big things aren't what break hearts. The big things aren't what destroy friendships. Its the little things."

— Dalia Mogahed

3 things

Ibn al-Qayyim Says:

Three Things sickens the body:

1) talking too much. 2) sleeping too much. 3) eating too much.

Four things destroys the body:

1) stress. 2) grief. 3) hunger. 4) staying up late at night.

Four things dries the face and takes away its joy and respect:

1) lying. 2) insolence. 3) asking too many questions without knowledge. 4) indecency.

Four things brings to the face joy and respect:

1) piety. 2) truthfulness. 3) generosity. 4) self respect.

Four things brings Rizk (provision):

1) Night full prayers. 2) frequent remembrance of Allah before dawn. 3) continues charity. 4) the remembrance of Allah at the beginning and at the end of the day.

Four things prevents Rizq (provision):

1) Sleeping early in the morning (after Fajr). 2) lack of prayers. 3) laziness. 4) treason and betrayal.

Bab-al-Tib( Zaad Al Ma'ad ) 378/4

“Be the kind of person who isn’t afraid to ask someone if they are okay twice if they say they are, but look like they aren’t. Be the kind of person who smiles at people even if they don’t smile back. Be the kind of person you wished for when no one was there for you. Be the kind of person who is brave enough to stand alone in a crowd for what is right. Be that person because we need more people like that in the world. Be that person because people like that are rarer than the rarest diamonds and gold.”

— Nikita Gill, Be That Kind of Person