Trigger Warning, Violence Mention

⚠️trigger warning, violence mention⚠️

Thinking about the time I had an exclusionist reblog my post to tell me that queer people are dying, and then they proceeded to yell at me for being an mspec lesbian. 💀

They were unwittingly admitting that there are more important issues than somebody's identity, while trying to invalidate my identity lmfao. I suppose they thought it was some huge ‘gotcha’ moment, cuz ooh I'm so selfish for expressing my distress toward mspec lesbians such as myself being crucified for calling themselves lesbians, while people are facing REAL issues! Give me a break.

I know queer people face acts of violence, and mspec les/gays saying ‘hey guys, we'd like to be allowed labels and spaces too’ isn't in any way invalidating that. Exclusionists need to get over themselves.

It's 'support trans lesbians' until they're not binary trans women. Until they're trans masc, trans men, or masc AMAB non-binary people.

It comes off as vaguely performative to be honest.

last minute DTIYS for @bestjeanistmonster !!!! happy 1k!!!! Original Here!!

Also, while we’re here:

Not all non-disordered systems are non-traumagenic. Trauma-formed systems can and do exist without also having DID/OSDD/etc.

Not all non-traumagenic systems are non-disordered.

A systems ORIGINS, a system’s FUNCTIONING, a system’s DIAGNOSTIC STATUS, and a system’s SPIRITUAL/PSYCHOLOGICAL BELIEF can all be very different things. 

Ie, you can have 

a trauma-formed system that isn’t disordered and isn’t dxd with anything, who see themselves in a spiritual light

a non-traumagenic system that is disordered, is diagnosed with DID, who see themselves in a psychological light

and many other combinations!

Please stop using DID/OSDD/etc as a synonym for “trauma-formed”.

Please stop using traumagenic as a synonym for disordered.

Please stop using non-traumagenic as a synonym for non-disordered.

Please stop assuming all trauma-formed systems see themselves purely psychologically, and all non-traumagenic systems see themselves purely spiritually.

The plural community, on all sides, is so rich and diverse. Community support, and an individual system’s needs, are not always so easily divided into two very small boxes.

I adore being trans. I adore being queer. This is who I am!

I'm sick and fucking tired of people not fucking remembering that one of radfems first targets were BUTCHES. It was about dykes being masculine and hating that masculinity. You can find dozens of accounts from all the way back in the 70s of radfems targeting cis and trans butches alike. They steal from butches. They stole our fucking flag. They appropriated androgyny and drove a divide between butches and lesbians that identified as androgynous for YEARS. Don't you fucking DARE conflate being butch with being a terf or a radfem. If you knew an ounce of your history you'd know that radical feminism started as a movement to remove butches from the community completely, and also that butches/transmascs/drag kings and transfems/drag queens have a long history of solidarity, love, and trust considering the fact we're INCESSANTLY demonized even within our own communities. Butch/femme include transfemmes, it always will and ALWAYS has.