I Know We Like To Talk About People Who Claim To Be For Queer Weirdness And Really Aren't, But It's Also

I know we like to talk about people who claim to be for queer weirdness and really aren't, but it's also important to point out that there are people who will wholeheartedly say they don't want us to 'make up more weird shit'. There's a certain brain rot circulating that makes queer people with relatively baseline queer identities throw the queers with more complex and non-normative identities under the bus. I reckon it's a strain of the pick-me virus that causes a monogay or binary trans person with 'normal' pronouns to go 'you make us look like jokes!' or 'not all queer people are like THOSE freaks!' when faced with, say, someone like me: the loveless aroace, m-spec boybutch multi-agender individual who uses neopronouns and xenogenders.

Making cishet society question their ideas of sexuality and gender does not end at Kevin the monogay trans man with he/him pronouns. While that is more digestible than m-spec lesbians and gays and, god forbid, lesboys and turigirls, sweeping these very real queer experiences under the rug to make yourselves more palatable to cishets just makes things worse for queer people. You are only fighting for the acceptance of part of the community, and you're leaving the rest of us in the dirt.

mourn for the loss of the days where queerness wasn't defined by rules. Remember that cis butches were the first group the radfems targeted, because in that fact there is the solid truth that masculinity is seen as a poison to more queer people than it should be. In our own community, people treat masculinity as a poison, an inherent danger, and we're pushed away for not being feminine women. In our own community, there are people adamant about erasing experiences they don't understand. 'Lesbians can't date men! they can't be men!' and yet, where's all the vitriol towards women being in the gay community? It definitely exists, but I have noticed a significant amount of pushback towards m-spec LESBIANS, not mspec GAYS (again, this is not to say that mspec gays don't get shit, because they do), and lesboys.

The simple fact is that the man hating virus is unfortunately very common in online lesbian discussions... I can only surmise it's due to the attempt to validate their own identities. They think the only way to not be attracted to men is to hate them and push out anyone who lives differently. Unfortunately though, they have one foot in the door to the radfem party without realizing it. They are doing their part to make the queer community hostile rather than an actual community. And that's very sad. I can only hope the hatred against those with 'contradictory' labels becomes just as frowned upon in queer spaces as more blatant TERFism one day, because infighting only weakens us. I can only hope these people will eventually see that.

while we're all online and memeing the failed assassination of a usamerican fascist please take a second to [donate to save a family in Gaza] and do your [daily click for Palestine]

'TERFs are punk, we go against the grain' you are dickriding bioessentialism and using it to justify your transphobia, that is NOT going against the grain nor is it punk to be a bigot

i’m gonna say something controversial yet brave: sexuality labels are a convenient tool we use to define something that is undefinable

I'm only in pain because I'm a super cool werewolf and my body's just constantly trying to change haha (my back it hurts owww my legs oW oh ouchie-)