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The Importance of Nightwing
Nightwing is also known as Dick Grayson and previously Robin. When he was dismissed from his Robin position Dick Grayson had decided he wasn’t done with the vigilant life and becomes Nightwing.
Admittedly I’m not excited for the supposed upcoming Nightwing movie (which I do not believe will go ahead) or Brenton Thwaites portrayal of this character in the live action Titans series. This is because I don’t have faith that they will do the character justice. Hopefully I’m just being cynical and will be proven wrong.
Nightwing for me has always been both masculine and feminine never really molding into one category. Which I appreciate as it shows how everyone is both masculine and feminine because we have a wide vary of traits. Dick Grayson comes from a circus backgroud with this past his fighting style is more elegant and has more of a performance nature. This is unlike most superheroes who have a very strong and dominant presence in the arena.
Starfire is Nightwings first love and the two shared an beautiful relationship that questioned wither it’s love or lust. I think that it’s Nightwings awkward innocence in this relationship that makes it so sweet. It is also this innocence that puts Nightwing in the more vulnerable position. This type of vulnerability in love isn’t shown often for the man as it’s seen as emasculating them but in fact it’s doing the opposite.
Batgirl and Nightwing, I love this relationship despite it never really having a happy ending. The two have always had feelings for each other but after the devestation of The Killing Joke their relationship just doesn’t seem to work. Yes, Nightwing does sleep around and is a playboy but it’s always very affectionate besides you can always tell he loves Barbara Gorden.
He’s a rape victim whilst male rape does happen in comic books much more then in the media of TV and Film I still think the fact that Nightwing has been raped twice makes it even more heartbreaking. Besides males being abused by females is a thing that needs to be talked about more often because it is a thing that happens which people tend to sweep under the rug. The fact that Nightwing is a character who can do this futher goes to show his importance as he is providing such a taboo topic a platform.
Nightwing is important as he shows the diverse sides of the heterosexual male often not shown in the media. He displays the various vunerablities of humans and also opens up topics for discussion that others keep closed.
Fellas. If you have to wear a mask, or don a fake personality, at least go for the one where you get to eat steak, smoke cigars, and bang hot chicks instead of the other way around.
how to become the epitome of masculinity
1. replace your personality with one given to you by someone who does too many steroids
“Caretaker”
Acrylic on Canvas Paper.
“Paralysis”
Acrylic on canvas
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https://www.instagram.com/p/CSZ9jxYLLk8/?utm_medium=tumblr
setup and punchline
Discussion?
So this has actually been hunting me since I was first introduced to K-pop and South Korea in general. As far as I can tell, after watching countless K-pop idols, K-dramas and Koreans on YouTube and such, South Korea is probably one of the countries with the least toxic masculinity. Guys tend to be very 'groomed' in their appearance or 'pretty', some (mostly K-pop idols but not only) wear makeup, guy friends can walk hand in hand in the streets without it looking weird, guy friends in general are very touchy-feely with each other, being called 'cute' as a guy isn't something 'sus', fanboys are welcomed and not irregular, males go to beauty salons without fear, Korean men find lean bodies better looking than thick ones, and their behaviour in general is just really soft and romantic, not tough and manly, at least in my opinion.
With that being said, although I wholeheartedly support the idea of flowerboys and gentle masculinity, I can't help but find it weird that in this country of all countries, a country that accepts men behaviour that many would call 'feminine' in the Western world, the LGBT community is pushed aside and disregarded. Common sense made me think that it's actually in these places that it would be so much more acceptable, especially since I'm part of country where 'toxic masculinity' is seen in every corner smh. Anyway, thanks for coming to my TED talk lmao.
Rocky Balboa. stallone’s original dude brosona. Never before has a man put so much cash into Affirming their Masculinity
i guess i’d be the dissenting opinion here
when crisis time comes there won’t be time for hugs. when society depends on you for survival they’ll need you to be the rock they depend on. we can’t be 100% statues, but as men we need to show we’re strong enough to keep society intact just as we always have
i know i wasn’t, that’s why i’m a 31 year old piece of shit rn
was cruisin my tl & this is so fucking important
mourn for the loss of the days where queerness wasn't defined by rules. Remember that cis butches were the first group the radfems targeted, because in that fact there is the solid truth that masculinity is seen as a poison to more queer people than it should be. In our own community, people treat masculinity as a poison, an inherent danger, and we're pushed away for not being feminine women. In our own community, there are people adamant about erasing experiences they don't understand. 'Lesbians can't date men! they can't be men!' and yet, where's all the vitriol towards women being in the gay community? It definitely exists, but I have noticed a significant amount of pushback towards m-spec LESBIANS, not mspec GAYS (again, this is not to say that mspec gays don't get shit, because they do), and lesboys.
The simple fact is that the man hating virus is unfortunately very common in online lesbian discussions... I can only surmise it's due to the attempt to validate their own identities. They think the only way to not be attracted to men is to hate them and push out anyone who lives differently. Unfortunately though, they have one foot in the door to the radfem party without realizing it. They are doing their part to make the queer community hostile rather than an actual community. And that's very sad. I can only hope the hatred against those with 'contradictory' labels becomes just as frowned upon in queer spaces as more blatant TERFism one day, because infighting only weakens us. I can only hope these people will eventually see that.
I think this all just highlights a bigger issue within our community. For all our "love" and "inclusivity," we exclude men and hate, or rather, have a bias against masculinity.
At least in the online queer space, it feels like fem presenting individuals are the only one's that receive credit for just being themselves. Even I'm guilty of being slightly disappointed when a guy (trans or not) happens to be especially masculine— but that's because I find feminity pretty and enjoyable.
Men have done terrible things; but, Women and NBs have done terrible things. When we actively supress or discourage masculine self expression, or push guys away (because they're not trying to be your pretty pink boyprincess) , we contradict the supposed inclusive nature of this community.
We can't, as a community, say that we love everyone and want inclusivity, while he disregard our own problems and exclude people that don't express themselves how WE want them to.
Trans men didn't sign up for exclusion when they transitioned. They signed for being themselves. Or, now that it suits you, is being trans suddenly a choice? That would make this shitty take a lot better for you, wouldn't it?
If the LGBTQIA+ community can't treat masculine identifying individuals with the same care and consideration we afford fem identifying people, it needs to drop the whole "gender roles" and "gender stereotypes bad" thing, because it starts to sound contradictory.
I hate that we're supposed to be a community that celebrates individuality but we've normalised condeming straight white cis guys. We place femininity and androgyny on a pedestal while expressing indifference or outright distaste for masculinity.
I hate that we're such a mess because one day a TURF or far right figure head with more than 2 brain cells will find an audience, and when they do, they're going to point at these real problems— none of the manufactured bullshit. This "community" will fall apart in seconds.
You know why tomboys have an easy time in right leaning places? Misogyny. They're aligning closer with masculinity and are thus less womanly. Why do femboys have an easy time in our community? It seems like misandry. We're just a reflection of what we supposedly despise.
tried to vent in a trans space about how, as a trans man who’s been on T for a long time (over 7 years now), i have noticed that the more i pass as a man, the less welcomed i am in queer spaces unless i go out of my way to feminize myself. and how that sucks! and it’s isolating!!! and it feels horrible to see ppl who used to like you and be close to you drift further and further the more masculine (& therefore more comfortable in urself) u become…
only to get ppl replying to me and saying “well if you dressed more fem then ppl wouldn’t be intimidated by you. you signed up for this”
i’m sorry but i didnt sign up for social isolation when i transitioned, i signed up for gender euphoria and comfort in myself and my life. and i had hoped that the ppl in my life would be able to see how much joy that brings me and continue to love me.
Daddy, ram that dick deep inside me!
Look at me!
masculinity is the same thing that hurt me and that will protect me
it splintered off bone and it’s what will piece me back together
it’s what tattered my envelope and what will hide me in the rain
because the wrong men hurt me, the wrong men cut me
but the right men heal me, the right men love me
the right men shelter me
like i never could
and i am safe
in their arms
A collage I am showing this month at The Tavistock and Portman Clinic.
Team: Winter Light
Framed, 40 x 30 cm (SOLD)
A combination of some older collage papers which I started working on in the nineties. The branches are from a magic tree in St Pancras Old Church Yard.
Do pop in to have a look 8am - 8pm, Monday - Friday until 31 January 2024.
The exhibition is in the library corridor - check in at reception (they’ll give you a badge)…go through the doors on the left…then in the next main corridor, left again.
Please tell and bring your friends, family, colleagues, and anyone you think will be interested.
Address: Tavistock Centre, 120 Belsize Lane, NW35BA
Pictures are for sale.
W🤗😋F. I’d lick whole your back side to turn us on like beast before exploring your black inside 🤪
You turned me on. How shall we start? 😋💦
