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The thing is that, like most trans men I know, I’m more than willing to discuss my relationship with male privilege and manhood regarding the ways I’ve seen a direct benefit on my life.

I work a woman-dominated, and let’s be real an afab-dominated, job. When a known misogynist client- who has been scolded multiple times for his behavior heckles and hassles the women who work there to the point where multiple coworkers refuse to be in the same room as him- glances at me and then looks away and chooses a different target, I know why. It’s because he saw my beard and my moustache and my generally male appearance and decided that it would be far too gay to engage in that behavior with me.

But if I talk about this relationship, then you also need to listen when I say that exact same client treated me exactly the same way he treats the female staff when I was on the phone with him just a week prior, because he heard my voice and decided for me that I was a woman he was going to treat poorly.

If I talk about this relationship, then you need to listen when I say that people have called the police to report a violent black man was threatening them when all I was doing was existing in an area, an area that I have existed in as a black woman and not had people try to get the police to kill me.

If I talk about this relationship, then you need to listen when I say that I experienced terrible antiblack racism as a direct result of being one of three black girls in my entire school system, and that it did not magically get better the moment I realized I was transgender at 13 nor did the misogynistic part of the abuse suddenly stop affecting me or my mental health.

If I talk about this relationship, you need to listen when I say that being pulled over by the police due to a broken headlight takes a very different tone now that I am largely passing in my day-to-day life, and what used to be “let off with a warning” has now become “tickets and points”.

And if you are not ready to listen, then I am not willing to have this discussion, because by focusing only on one part of the equation you ignore the entire rest of my existence.

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if you want to enforce rules on everyone's sexuality and gender, I think you'd get along very well with queerphobic conservatives as you have similar interests. You'd just have to make sure they don't stop seeing you as one of the good ones and you'll be fine... probably. Just continue throwing the rest of the queer community under the bus and I'm sure they'll tolerate you for a little bit.

the term lesbian means many, many things, but it has never and will never mean "hates men,". when you want to say "i hate men" you should say "i hate men". just say what you mean. lesbian means having a queer relationship with sexuality, gender, presentation, and/or biological sex, it means something about who you love and who loves you, but it does NOT mean hate or who you pathologically hide from. it will never stand for who you hate, only for who you are, who you find community with, and/or who you love. inclusion, not exclusion.

As much as I can be unbothered by blatant bigotry in the moment, it does add up. Hearing stories of yet another queer person being murdered does add up. It makes me angry, and I'd be lying if I said it didn't cause me to lose hope for the future.

It's hard knowing I can't travel even if I wanted to, because otherwise I'd be constantly afraid that somebody will clock me and I'll literally die. It's hard being visibly queer online, and having someone make fun of your pronouns out of nowhere. It's hard living with the knowledge that that's not even the worst thing that can happen: doxxing, for example, is something that I've come to fear.

And then people say queer people aren't victims. Oh, how I wish we lived in a world where that was true.