Me As A Little Kid: Is Told That To Be A Narcissist Is To Be A Self-absorbed Abuser

me as a little kid: is told that to be a narcissist is to be a self-absorbed abuser

internalizes this, misunderstands 'self-absorbed' as any sort of indulgence in confidence

develops depression by 8 years old, has a horrific lack of self-esteem and hardly allows myself to fully receive compliments

at least I'm not a narcissist!

me now: is a narcissist

That has literally nothing to do with the fucking post, but T/SWERFs are so rabid in their hatred and brainrot that this lady felt the need to state her brainless opinions on a post unrelated to anything she's talking about. I guess she saw 'man' and 'fuck trophy' in the same post so the black mold took over or something

why are terfs like this

wish I could throw that part about gaslighting at an ex 'friend'

A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.

Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.

What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.

Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.

What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.

Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.

What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.

Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.

It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

-Xanthe

reblogging again because one reblog isn't enough to convey how much I hate Pinterest comment sections for this shit. who made YOU the queer police? shut the fuck up nobody wants to hear your insignificant closeminded whining because guess what, people are still going to have identities you don't want to understand. hope this helped!/nay

"As a lesbian..no" "as a trans man.. no-" OMG SHUT UP, YOU CAN'T POLICE PEOPLE'S IDENTIFIES, YOU DON'T WANNA DATE MAN?? DON'T! GODDAMN

What Narcissism Is:

holding yourself to extremely high standards (if I'm not perfect at it, I'm a failure)

being incredibly sensitive to criticism (becoming suicidal if you think someone thinks you're bad at something)

having a very brittle sense of self-worth that's heavily reliant on what others think of you

What Narcissism is Not:

being uniquely abusive

having no morals

being a bad person

ETA: this is not an exhaustive list of NPD traits! more traits than these are necessary to have NPD! I chose these particular features to emphasize things that aren't often talked about outside of dedicated NPD communities and to highlight the fact that NPD is a disorder based in the internalized fear that you are never good enough.

So many people say aspd means someone is emotionless or heartless. I have emotions, just not as much variety as prosocials.

And my actions, i actually do stuff that helps many others, much different reasons then prosocials.

And so many "caring, empathetic" people do not think their actions through so cause so much harm but just view themselves as the ultimate good cause emotions.

Your emotions don't make you good or bad. Just like me missing some doesn't make me good or bad.

Actions, benefit vs detriment.

No more of this toxic positivity, appeal to emotions, appeal to normalcy, thought crime believing, ad hominem using, appeal to motive, appeal to authority used as a general belief.

Fallacies and biases come up, the goal is to minimize them and their impact, not make your identity around them.