It's Okay To Use Contradictory Labels. I Know, I'm Probably Being Redundant Here. But I Want To Make

It's okay to use contradictory labels. I know, I'm probably being redundant here. But I want to make sure anyone who hasn't heard it today gets to chance to hear it. You're valid. I don't care if you're a boy in whatever way, and you're also a lesbian, nor do I care if you're a girl in some way and also gay. I don't mind if you're omni, pan, bi, poly, or abro and a lesbian/gay. Are you aroace spec as well as mspec? Nice! Are you a mixture of all of these things? Something I missed? Cool!

Complicated identities are no less valid than identities that fit into boxes. And I will keep saying that, because there are still people in the world who insist on what you can and can't be (I swear I've said something like that word for word before, but sbsbs), whether it be your average homophobic grandpa or some exclusionist on twitter.💀

Normalize queer people being weird. Visibly trans trans people. Gender nonconformity. Neurodivergent queer people. Queer people with unconventional genders. Otherkin queer people. Mentally ill queer people. Disabled queer people. Queer people with 'odd' pronouns or pronouns that don't 'fit' their gender. Anyone who's queer and is considered 'odd' or 'cringe' for reasons that may or may not be tied to their queerness.

"how can you be bi and a lesbian that doesn't make any sense" it's called multitasking next question

I'm seeing so many "endos dni" tags and other system/fictive profiles that say "endogenics dni" and it's honest to god so disappointing to see that many people in the plural community reject systems like us so flippantly and dismissively. It's exclusivism like this that actively harms our communities to begin with, as opposed to helping us.

Also to add on to the 'military grade' thing, that literally just means it's the cheapest quality while still being able to function.💀

A few tips for young trans men/boys, transmascs, anybody who wants tips:

If somebody makes you insecure about your masculinity or manhood, 9/10 times, they're trying to sell you something (and the "something" won't be worth you fretting about)

Wash your face before shaving and use a good shaving cream. Always make sure your razors are sharp

Your body doesn't need to look like a Hollywood star's body. They are most certainly dehydrated, and they are not a realistic depiction of a masculine or male form

Dress in whatever way is most comfortable, including dressing like Adam Sandler

Military-grade is often used as a marketing scheme, save your money

If you aren't happy right now, one day you will be. This is a threat and a promise

Your emotions are not "good" or "bad," they are emotions. Let yourself feel them even if they are uncomfortable

Masculinity and/or being a man are yours to define, and I cannot stress how important it is to have a relationship with your masculinity and/or manhood that is defined by you

You're allowed to have any relationship with your pre-coming out self that you want or makes the most sense with your realization that you're trans

Btw your advocacy for aromantics should not start and end at what identities you personally like. It shouldn't end at the labels you personally use. It should be inclusive to aromantic identities you don't understand. It should be inclusive to identities you think are contradictory. It should be inclusive to aros of colour (especially when so much aro media, as little as there is, centres on white aros). It should be inclusive to identities impacted by trauma and mental illness. It should be inclusive to aros who fit stereotypes.

If you exclude certain aros based off what you personally think is worth fighting for, you're not advocating for all aros.