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WE LOVE A CONSENTSUAL(is that a word?) KING🤴🏾🤴🏿🤴🏽🤴🏼🤴🏻🤴

; " asking for consent ruins the moment though !! " cool cool but what if I shoved a condom so far up your ass you abort yourself. Then what. Does consent ruin the moment still or did I reach your brain.

Okay, listen. Spur of the moment kisses are great and all, but don't you just love it when they ask?

Like, don't get me wrong, I love it when the adrenaline gets the better of them and they just make out in front of everyone. Or when there's a long moment full of romantic and sexual tension, then they both lean in and just go at it.

But, you know what's better? A and B standing there, close enough that their bodies are practically touching, then, after a tense moment, B whispers softly, low for just the both of them to hear even when no one else is around, "Can I kiss you?" And then, A is silent for just a second, and then, breathlessly, "Yeah..."

It just makes me aaAAAHH--!!

And remember that consent can be withdrawn at ANY TIME!!!

Started but not feeling it anymore? You can say no.

They want to do something you don’t want to do/aren’t comfortable with? Say no.

Wanted to try something new but no longer want to see it all the way through? SAY NO!

Consent is fucking important. Using your voice and advocating for yourself and your boundaries is fucking important.

Anyone who makes you feel or says otherwise is not worth your time and energy.

You do not owe your partner(s) sex. I mostly see this passed around in the asexual community, and it absolutely needs emphasis there, but this applies to anyone of any orientation. You never owe your partner(s) sex under any circumstance.

If your sex drive or libido is lower than your partner’s, you may feel obligated to “keep up” with them to make them happy. But you have a right to say no, or not be in the mood, or be too tired, or just not want to right now. Your partner(s) should respect your right to say no and your bodily autonomy.

If your partner(s) try to harass, manipulate, or coerce you into having sex when you say no, they’re an asshole. Having said yes in the past does not mean you can never say no. It is not your responsibility or obligation to provide sex. You do not need to violate your own boundaries to make someone else happy. Your partner(s) should respect your right to say no, and if they don’t, they don’t deserve you.

Your body belongs to you, and you decide what’s best for your sexual health. Happy Pride

Being in my hoe era has taught me a lot:

The safety of consent and testing

My pain tolerance is higher than I thought

How to release emotions through kink

The more I engage with it, the better it gets and if the shoe fits, wear it.

Like the song goes,

🎶1 2 Buckle my shoe🎶

🎶3 4 I’m a dirty whore🎶

Don’t Be That Guy.

normalize not having sex until you feel comfortable :) normalize not having sex until you meet the right person :) no matter your age! :) i mean it! in your teens! your 20s! your 30s! :) also normalize these things without automatically tying them to some kind of religious or abstinence-based reasoning :) 

this is totally appropriate and necessary to start teaching

an explanation is not owed

wait so is bisexual "i play both teams" and pansexual is "i dont care what team it is i just want them to both have fun?"

had a BF who didn’t understand consent. It took me a while to realize it was toxic as he never really pulled anything but like when I said no he never fully stopped.

IF YOU KNOW SOMEONE IN A RELATIONSHIP LIKE THIS THEY MIGHT NOT REALIZE. HELP THEM!!

Be you but remember 👆