Human Kindness - Tumblr Posts

I hate the idea that helping someone means you want something out of them, or helping means you WILL want something out of them. Why can't it just be, i want to help someone because they need the help and it would be the right thing to do, i wont get ANYTHING out of this except being glad that this person will do at least a little bit better.

It's so fucked that so many ppl say that human kindess doesnt exist while becoming a part of that completely selfish group.

I believe that it can exist, people can be absolute trash yes, but there are truly kind people who genuinely do not benefit from helping but do it anyways.

Today I was helping run the booth for the local queer non-profit at the farmer's market and a woman told me that she would like a flag, pointing to our little bucket of flags. So I picked up the bucket and I brought it over and asked her which one she'd like.

"Well, tell me about them!"

"Oh! Okay! This one is the inclusion flag- its for everyone, including allies."

"What's this one?"

"That's the bisexual flag: it represents people who are attracted to two or more genders."

"Hmm... what about this one?"

"That's the nonbinary flag: it represents people whose gender isn't strictly 'male or female.'"

"Hmm... what's this purple one?"

"That's the asexual flag: it represents people who may not feel sexual attraction the way that others do."

She put her hand to her chest and got this really curious look on her face. "Tell me more about that!"

"Oh, happy to! So like if you're out with your bestie and someone real fine walks by and she's like 'omg look at him' and you're like 'girl get a grip?' Or like you just don't get what the 'big deal' is about sex or why everyone is so weird about it? But there's also room for like- you don't fall in love with the way someone looks, you're attracted to the person- their sense of humor and their kindness, or there's something about their personality that just makes it click for you? That's asexuality, too!"

And she got real quiet and seemed to think about it for a minute. So I grabbed our little informational sheet about different queer identities and handed her a copy. "If you want to do some research, this is probably a great place to start."

She thanked me and took an ace flag, stuck it in her hair.

Sometimes when you're online all the time, its easy to think that 'everyone knows about (topic), there's no reason to keep talking about it so much.' But while the people on the internet are real people, the internet ISN'T real life. And there are lots of people who do need to know that they do have community!

One of the jokes is that I'm a lot of people's 'patient zero' for discovering that they're queer. This is why.

; I truly despise the phrase " people who have nothing will be grateful for anything 🥰 " because actually fucking no, the person who just lost their house to a fire doesn't want your ripped, stained and barely wearable hoodie. I mean honestly it's dehumanizing and offensive. Just because someone got evicted and is now homeless and poor, or they were kicked out of their home by their family or whatever, does not mean you get to treat them like less or give them crappy out of date food because " they'll be grateful anyways 😘 "

; whether they accept it or not doesn't make it any better, you're still being disrespectful.

; 1. homeless people deserve edible food and good quality clothes

; 2. people failed by social services / adoption services deserve edible food and good quality clothes

; 3. people who lost their homes in fires, floods or robberies, whatever, deserve edible food and good quality clothes

; 4. those who have been kicked out of their homes by unsupportive ( homophobic, racist, ableist, fatphobic, against certain religion or career, etc ) families deserve edible food and good quality clothes

; 5. beggars deserve edible food and good quality clothes

; 6. people coming from poor / unlivable countries deserve edible food and good quality clothes

; everyone deserves edible food and good quality clothes, it's a basic human right to that sort of shit. You denying people that, or ignoring them or giving them bad quality stuff just because they'll most likely accept it or " it's better than nothing !! " is disgusting. Do better. ( even if you somehow meant well, it's not okay !! It's just. Eugh. )

Here’s to 2023, a year of as many little courageous kindnesses as possible. ♥️