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a list of albums that are DBDA coded to me:
The Black Parade - My Chemical Romance
The Tortured Poets Department - Taylor Swift
Twenty One Pilots - twenty one pilots
Found Heaven - Conan Gray
Superache - Conan Gray
Versions of Uncertainty - Vincent Lima
plus some songs I absolutely recommend:
The Circle Maker - Sparkbird
Paladin Strait - twenty one pilots
Skeletons - Brothers Osbourne
Just My Type - Palaye Royale
Sacred Blasphemy - Creeper
Sex Yeah - Marina (this is a Crystal song change my mind)
aight, aside from the fact that 3 houses by Dave Malloy is now gonna Haunt My Waking Thoughts For The Week...
nah, that's it. The only pandemic play I can get behind. Proper amount of drunken revelry, fantastic amount of fairytale allegory, Yes She Does Smoke Weed, vindictive dragon spirits and knockoff tom nooks, cairns of amazon boxes, The Ending, The Set, The Parallels...
and the wolf. Gods help me, but I wanna kiss the wolf on his broken-toothed maw. dance with him. ask him for a metal straw. I'd be a furry for that wolf in his stupid knit sweater.
(And then, the harmonieeeeees my love, they're so perfect and ugly and pretty and the genre shifts and and and)
I'm so happy that we are talking about this! I don't think people realise just *how* mentally draining/taxing it is to be gaslighted. And how powerful it is as a form of psychological abuse. *Especially* if it's from the people around you (in bius' case, it was from his and work, company and all). Because you are more likely to believe whatever they tell you moreso than that of a random stranger (for example, if you were told that you were crazy so much times, then you would start to believe that you were actually crazy)
Being gaslighted, mentally speaking, means that you doubt yourself. That you are less able to see those red flags that everyone may be able to see, because your basic sense of reality has been altered to someone else's choosing. Even if it's just small little things like "you're exaggerating"! Sooner or later, those things start to wear somebody down. Make them question whether or not they are actually exaggerating.
Being gaslighted leads to things like self doubt, trust issues, losing a sense of self, and being able to be manipulated more easily than that of someone else.
And even after being gaslighted, you have to go through the process of unlearning what you thought you know! To have to form your own opinions, and your own sense of self. One that isn't controlled by someone else!
I don't think that people really know how much that mentally exhausts someone. How much trust that breaks, and how much time that it takes to repair that previously said broken trust. I think that they (people) want to, but they don't.
It takes time, and *a lot* of good support systems, but people can heal. And I hope that the support that byls are giving biu is helping him heal from this.
Let's talk about Gastlighting
If you spend time online you will hear this term without fail, because it has become common to see 'people are gaslighting others' or 'he/she was gaslighted'. To be frank, people are even overursing it a bit.
Gaslighting is the action of tricking or controling someone by making them believe things that are not true, especially suggesting that they may be mentally ill. Here, the person invalidates your feeling and usually says you didn't understand the situation or that some events were not what you think they were.
It's difficult to measure the effects and extent of gaslighting, but it ultimately makes the subject lose confidence, self steem, joy and is highly associated with depression and other mental conditions. It's an abusive relationship monster, but work, family and friend circles can also be places where gaslighting frequently occurs.
When it comes down to Biu's case, he was gaslighted by his abuser and probably by people and superiors in his previous work company. He must've been convinced to act a certain way and do certain things. Maybe when he expressed his discontent people belittled him and said his concerns were nothing or the classic "you're exaggerating". We will always wonder and ask ourselves how Biu felt and what he must've heard or been through since June 22 (or even before that).
We fans have been gaslighted by them as well, I'll never forget a certain IG post asking for better treatment and answered with a "he lives in my pocket" sentence, meaning Biu was liked and well treated when their actions always proved the opposite.
Gaslighters lose their hold on people when they are confronted with evidence or facts and when their victims find real support.
Biu is very brave to break the cycle and face his fears, he chose himself and his fans with his honesty. My heart is especially happy seeing him have fun with friends today, Songkran holiday weekend.
If you were wondering, is my favourite character autistic? The answer is most likely: yes, of course.
“Who’s you’re favorite Character.”
I do NOT pick favorites, my good sir!…
but this one.
This one makes me smile, damn it-