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I am trying to figure out what my options are to permentally stop my period.
I first heard of hysterectomy but then I saw lots of risks like dementia heat flashes and more.
I have also heard of a type of ablation where they destroy the lining in the uterus.
It just is kinda freaky what things could go wrong. I never wanted a period, as a kid I knew I wasn't a girl, but I knew I wasn't a boy, so I decided I had to be a girl, but I felt I wasn't girl enough for all the puberty things I had been told about. When puberty happened my world fell apart.
I'm still too young for any surgery right now, but I feel like I need to better know my options. I want to make the right decision. I want to stop my menstruation cycle permentally, with as few negative side effects as possible.
If any of you have feedback or could tell me about your experiences, I would love to hear it.
I have had a hysterectomy and lemme tell y’all smthn real quick about my experience.
Pros:
No babies.
No period.
Less dysphoria.
Better mental health literally immediately.
Cons:
No drinking/smoking for set amount of time each. (I use cbd for pain and that is not allowed during Big Pain Meds, after which I can have supplements but not carts)
No sexual anything for set amount of time (both external and internal for different amounts of time).
Body requires so much fucking calories and liquids. Get high calorie food and drinks. You will thank me. It’s annoying how often I have to eat.
For the first 24 hours after discharge I could feel the empty space where the removed tissue once resided. This is a wild experience as my body attempts to adjust to the new space and everything fights to take up as much of it as possible, as if they ascribe to Manifest Destiny.
Currently (day 19) suffering the third day of my belly button nerve being triggered from the inside by my shifting organs. This feels like I still have the ghost of my umbilical chord attached and it’s attempting to pierce me and suck out my insides but it hasn’t figured out the sucking thing yet, as well as it’s made of ghost so it’s just… touching the nerves in a ghostly way. Tartarus hath found me before my soul has left mine body and teases me with what is yet to come.
Farting. So much farting. Also, constipation is the worst. Take your anti constipation stuff. It’s not worth shitting rocks.
Will update with more Fun Facts as they come!
In my 40s. Still waiting for the ability to medically transition.
I'm still breathing so there's still hope.
i've made this post before but it bares repeating. it's always so wild to see young trans kids be like "oh i'm 18 it's too late for me" and more importantly seeing that being like, pushed from other trans people bc when i came out at 15 back in 2009, literally What You Did was just. wait to turn 18 so you could move to a major city and start transitioning. i got on hormones at 23 (nhs waitlists) and top surgery right before my 25th birthday. i consider myself a pretty early transitioner. i'm 30 now and i still experience changes from my hormones bc that's what it is to exist as a human and have hormones in your body. you're fine.
"drag kings are boring, they just look like normal guys." this is not true for all drag kings, but it is only boring to you because you have failed to realize that manhood and masculinity also require constant over-performance around the clock, especially with strangers you don't even plan on getting to know.
these things look "normal and dull" to certain folks because they haven't had to live through what it's like to have to literally perform manhood for every single person you meet, because it's expected of you to be stoic, strong, and "manly," and a lot of that is reflected in clothing and personal grooming as well. our society has such a rigid view of manhood that there is basically no wiggle room for personal expression in interests and activities that are not traditionally "manly". men are told they are not men if they do not uphold these traits.
this is a performance.
gender is a performance no matter what you identify as. men and mascs have to over-perform manhood as well, just as women have to, trans or cis.
since the old version of this post was flagged for ‘adult content’…
reblog this post if your account is a trans safe space or owned by a trans person!
along with that, reblog if your account is a non-binary spectrum safe space or owned by someone on the enby spectrum!
Transmasc Pregnancy Resources
I've been on testosterone for 3 years, and frequently people have made comments about how it must be hard because now I can never have children. And for a long time, I would say that yes, it is hard to know that, because my sole regret about going on testosterone was how I'd never be able to get pregnant (as my doctor told me). But now I know that's not true-- transgender men, including those who have been on testosterone for many years, are capable of having healthy, happy babies. I see many posts on here talking about how testosterone should not be used as a contraceptive (true!) and resources for seeking an abortion when you're transmasculine, but I don't see anyone encouraging or providing information to those who may have medically transitioned but still want to pursue pregnancy.
Here is a Guide to Transmasculine Fertility, complete with several "lesson" sections on various topics such as assisted reproduction options and aging fertility rates, written by verified physicians and Trystan Reese, a transgender man who has pregnancy experience. This is an excellent and thorough resource, and not the only article that the site has on transgender pregnancy and parenting. In my opinion, this is the best resource on the list, so it's first.
Here are personal accounts of transmasculine pregnancies from Evan Hempel, Jason Barker, Thomas Beatie, Trevor MacDonald, and there are so, so many more just a Google search away.
Here is a Heathline article that discusses the issue of social stigma around transmasculine pregnancies, and how to combat it.
Here is a (short) NYT article about a reproductive endocrinologist's (supportive) perspective on transgender pregnancies.
Here is a list of resources that covers much of the above, and more.
Many of us are told when we begin testosterone that it can impact fertility, destroy our reproductive organs, etc. and not only is that blatantly untrue, but it's wildly harmful to those of us who want to be pregnant. We deserve this information, we deserve to know our options, we deserve to decide for ourselves what we want to do with our bodies. Yes, transgender men who want to be pregnant are certainly in the minority. But too many of us think we're infertile or are told that we are by doctors who don't know enough about transgender healthcare, leading to irreversible decisions that do render us infertile (such as hysterectomies). While this is aimed at transgender men, it is also worth mentioning that this applies to anyone and everyone who engages in HRT, mastectomy, etc. including nonbinary people, butches, genderfluid people and so on.
If you are a transmasculine individual who wants to explore your options for pregnancy, I hope this helped inform you. If you're not interested in pregnancy, please at least pass this information along, because I'm fucking tired of the incompetency surrounding trans healthcare. Knowledge is power, and it's knowledge like this that allows for self-advocacy, empowerment, and happier lives.
Trans men are not an oppressor class 👍 if you’re so blinded by your own hatred towards us that you genuinely believe we oppress you and don’t experience unique problems and oppression of our own that trans women don’t then you need to do some serious soul searching. Trans men are not an oppressor class nor share the same level in society as cis men because we are trans. Stop demonizing transmascs and ignoring our problems. Send tweet
From my experience, cis and/or endosex feminists expect the following:
You don't exist unless they can use your existence to score points off of right-wingers
Once you do exist, you are expected to be silent
You may repost/reblog their writing with no additions of your own
You now are retroactively considered to be a cis endosex man, regardless of your actual experience with gender or sex
Accordingly, anything critical you say of their posts is you oppressing them
And any attempt you make at expanding the conversation to include everyone affected by a given issue will be taken as a personal attack
If you fail at complying with the above, it's because you're a bigot and a misogynist
I've seen this happen on abortion rights, for example--folks became infuriated when my wife pointed out people other than women need abortions and that not all women do need them. They misgendered my wife and accused them of being a bigot who hated women, because they were, let's be clear, asking people who said they cared about abortion's legality to care about abortion's legality, and not just whether or not cis and/or endosex women can legally access it.
it really is so uncomfortable being a trans man in cis centric conversations of feminism. I just wonder. do they know about people like me? do they care? if I brought it up to them, how would they react? Do they expect me to be their human shield?
My body is a collection of all the parts that came before! 🌱🌱🌱
[Image ID: A drawing of a trans masculine person, nude except for underwear. The figure has top surgery scars, and no head, the bottom of a jaw bone with plants growing from it floating above the neck. There are flowers, mushrooms, and stars surrounding the figure, and a bird flying to the left of the canvas. /. End ID]
Chai Pride Icons
lgbtqia+ jumblr: made you guys a present
+ bonus [pride] playlist
icons: bi | lesbian | trans | pan | lgbtq+ | nonbinary | agender | intersex | ace | genderfluid
Okay but why the hell would you like a bunch of my posts and follow me when you literally have "Men get blocked" in your bio?
Is it because I didn't discuss Man Stuff in the posts you saw and you assumed my gender?
Is it because I don't share my gender or add a bunch of pride flags to my own bio (a thing I should not have to do in order to be Valid) and you're too lazy to determine I should be DNI by reading more than three posts of mine?
Is it because you saw that I'm a trans man but when you say "men" you mean "penises" so I might be okay?
Is it because you don't think trans men are men?
I guess I'll never know, since I blocked the offending account, but yeah, I do wonder.
"real trans men want to go on hrt" "real trans men want surgery" "real trans men only present masculine" shut uppp omfg literally the only requirement to be a man is that you must be swift as a coursing river, with all the force of a great typhoon, with all the strength of a raging fire, mysterious as the dark side of the mooooon
People: Yeah being outed can be really dangerous and no one should ever be outed against their will
Also people: If youre a trans dude who passes you should always out yourself so that other people know you arent a big scary man but also out yourself so if you dont pass we know you are a scary man
I feel like people forget most trans guys still had to grow up as girls.
We were still forced to be mature early
We were still told to not to take up space
We were still subject to female beauty standards
Our bodies were still treated as inappropriate
We were still pitted against each other
We were still excluded from “male” activities
We were still treated as lesser the boys
Those things don’t evaporate once we transition they’re fucking internalized. I constantly have to remind myself I’m allowed to exist. We don’t stop dealing with misogyny.
Pre-T trans guys don't get respect from ANYONE but I know they are some of us that are fighting the hardest, working on miracles, forging their lives from nothing. 👊 respect respect respect, you deserve it.
Hot take apparently but I don't think conversations about trans men's oppression should have to center women.
Just because you sort the world into a binary of oppressor/victim doesn't mean that's what I'm doing when I say I'm oppressed. Saying I experience transandrophobia =/= saying "so everyone who isn't a transmasc is my oppressor." Believe it or not, things can be more complicated when it comes to gender and systems of power.
See, I think I would be less vocal about transandrophobia if the concept of All Men = Evil wasn't becoming slowly but surely ingrained in the queer community.
And it's mostly just repackaged misogyny.
“Is it that time of month?” ≈ “Trans men should take mood stabilizers when on T/Trans men without mood stabilizers should be illegal”
“Women are out to get you” ≈ “Trans men are fowl when it comes to relationships”, “Trans men really are the men of the trans community” “Trans men are favored by the patriarchy.”
“If I offended you, I'm sorry Emily, Sarah, Stephanie, [other “generic white women names”] ≈ “If I offended you, sorry Alex, Sam, James, [other “generic transmasc names”]
Women being hysterical ≈ Trans men being aggressive
Like idk maybe we should look into that. Maybe we should stop the repackaged misogyny from male misogynists and TERFs.
And honest-to-god, I think the thoughts on those people's brains is something like “You don't suffer, you're a man.”