Yet Another Comic About Leaving The Mormon Church That Can Be Applied To A Variety Of Things.

Yet another comic about leaving the Mormon church that can be applied to a variety of things.

It'd be so funny if Nick had an Agatha All Along poster on his wall if Heartstopper season 4 happens

this will never not be funny

hey guys, maybe before you pirate LEARN SOME ETIQUETTE

why are these important? well, if you openly share the sites, they wil get shut down. corporations are willing to copyright strike anything. you are only going to make accessing these resources harder.

remember: LOOSE LIPS SINK SHIPS

if you want to share resources, don't post them on public forums like tumblr, twitter,instagram or any popular site. remember how zlibrary shut down? yall want that to happen to more sites? do you?

also like if they get shut down, people who can't access these otherwise because they don't have the means for it or its banned in their country are losing access.

Don't post links online. Only share in private conversations.

try and avoid linking the sites directly. a workaround is sharing the downloaded files via other file hosting sites similar to google drive and drop box

DON'T SHARE ON PUBLIC FORUMS. EVER. PLEASE

Use a VPN. i personally like proton vpn, it is a freemium model but the free version works fine.

These are just the basics, there are others but please keep these in mind.

.. I just found out the author was at the New Zealand trauma conference 2024 and I chose not to go because it was "too far to travel"

I would've gone if I noticed that.

Reading the body keeps the score and highlighting every second sentence. 🥴

The sad thing about being chronically ill, especially as a teen: how many of your own boundaries you have to jump over to gain support.

I had my first invasive pelvic exam done by a gynecologist at the age of 13. Age of consent is 16 here. I wasn't old enough to consent to having sex but I had no choice but to accept the pelvic exam, including a transvaginal ultrasound, if I wanted any kind of further treatment - I didn't want to let a random stranger feel around inside my body but to for them to continue to testing, I had to. They gave me the illusion of free choice, but realistically, I only had one option if I wanted my pain to go away.

Don't get me wrong, I'm glad I had the exams when I did, and that they meant I got diagnosed with endometriosis in four years rather than the usual seven.. but that's not to say they haven't affected me in the long run.

Lying to keep your system safe.

I've lied to multiple agencies stating we have OSDD rather than DID.

Our local support agents, especially financial ones, tend to label DID as clinically insane and unsafe; we say we have DID and people often make up their minds based on inaccurate and outdated stereotypes. We don't waste our breath advocating for ourselves when we will only meet someone once or twice and opinion is already set in stone based on a three letter acronym.

Our psychologist encourages us to do so. He's written letters on my behalf with the same set of information/symptoms/reccomendations, but saying OSDD & PTSD rather than DID & PTSD. The slight seperation in social perception between 'this person has multiple personalities' and 'this person has periods of disassociation and these other symptoms' is often enough to prevent stigma filled responses.

Other situations where lying or changing details may be wise

If a stranger is being overly pushy regarding your system information especially if they are targeting vulnerable alters.

Online - often avoiding posting full alter counts or details that may trigger others (positive or negative) to front is wise, especially on public forums like Reddit and Tumblr

As many of you know, we use psyudeonums to avoid any links being drawn between our online presence and our private life. Singlets use psyudeonums, as can systems/individual alters.

Stating system origin and syscourse stances can, and unfortunately often, leads to harassment and unfair treatment from all sides of the conversation. Sometimes it's safer not to state it.

If someone is making you uncomfortable with questions; you are well within your right to block them. Minors especially, if your gut says no, listen.

You don't owe the world your system's information, and omitting the truth can be the safest way to keep that private. Hell, we can count on a hand how many people know we are a system in our personal life.- let alone anything more detailed.

In an ideal world, no system would have to do that.

We aren't in an ideal world.

So I leave you with this: sometimes it's okay to lie or omit the truth to keep your system safe. Especially in places where stigma runs rampant or you don't know who you're speaking with very well. Just, do me a solid and try not to lie to your psychs, 'kay?

Sending love and hugs,

System dad, Kyle 💜