Also Not All Feminine Men Are Skinny And Not All Feminine Men Shave But It Feels Like Most People Still

also not all feminine men are skinny and not all feminine men shave but it feels like most people still treat chubby feminine men and hairy feminine men as a joke even in progressive online spaces, like if a man is wearing a dress and is chubby and has body hair then half the majority of the comments r gonna b smth 2 the effect of "actually this joke is transphobic and making fun of trans women" and the other half is people laughing at what they think is a joke making fun of trans women

binary trans women are not feminine men, they are just women, the only time that a trans women would be a feminine man is if she had some really specific nonbinary gender stuff going on that meant that she also identified as a feminine man

the existence of feminine men should not be seen as a joke and not just because "it's offensive to trans women" im sick and tired of seeing art of feminine men and half the comments are saying "this is offensive to trans women" i am a feminine bear of a trans man and i am honestly so sick of people telling me that my existence as a feminine chubby guy is transphobic

if your advocacy for trans women relies on bashing feminine men then your advocacy sucks

The way people depict feminine men online in only like one specific anime catboy kinda way makes me wonder if some of you actually like real feminine men or if you just have a fetish

It's like some people think intersectionality is a math problem?

Trans + man = cancels out so no oppression

Trans + woman = double oppression

And that's just? Not how real life works? Like you can't come to a conclusion via logic math problem and then insist it's reality because it makes sense inside the theory you've crafted.

You have to check it actually aligns with what is happening out in the world - Which is trans men sharing all the ways systemic and institutional transphobia targets us and affects us.

You can't just tell us to shut up because you like your theory better and you're upset our lived experience messes it up.

You can't tell us we don't experience what we live every day?

UPDATE!

so i started having some problems with the disney baby baby bottles, mainly that they started getting really noisy when i tried to drink from them in a way that was really upsetting to me and made it difficult 4 me 2 drink from them (sensory sensitivity) so i decided 2 try out some baby bottles made by NUK and 1 of the 1s i tried out was this new 1 called "perfect match" so i tried those out and they r working out really well 4 me so far! im using the "universal" spout 4 them and so far they r a lot quieter than the disney baby brand baby bottles, they also seem 2 b able 2 do both warm and cold drinks and i haven't had any major issues with them so far

any1 hav any tips on brands that make good sippy cups? asking as a disabled adult who started using sippy cups recently bc i can't drink anything from a regular mug or cup w/out spilling and also hurting my wrists, i previously used water bottles 2 combat this problem but i was still having the problem of them being 2 big 4 my hands and also i then had 2 individually clean all the straws which is a lot 4 some1 w/ my lvl of chronic fatigue and brain fog, w/ sippy cups so far im having an easier time since they r smaller which means they fit better in my hands and also they usually hav a spout but not a straw and i find the spout way easier 2 clean since i don't gotta get in there w/ a special brush like i do w/ straws

tl;dr: help a disabled himbo who probably? also has dwarfism? by giving me some recs 4 sippy cups

-no sippy cups w/ straws since that makes it difficult 2 clean

-no sippy cups specifically designed 4 adults since they would probably b 2 big 4 my hands given that the 1s that r made 4 kids r a better size 4 me

-1s with handles r preferable since they help me keep my grip better but recs 4 1s that don't hav handles r also okay :)

-must b no spill or at least very difficult 4 it 2 spill

this is a post abt disability and i do not want my disability or disability aids fetishised

kink blogs DNI, fetish blogs DNI, nsfw blogs DNI

the Ken tumblr tag is not a safe space 4 oppressed men and that's a real problem (talking abt Ken from the Barbie movie)

i shouldn't b having 2 deal w/ most of the tag being either ppl acting like men can't b oppressed and r always oppressors or sexualising Ken in a rly fucked up and dehumanising way or making fun of Ken having emotions and his own struggles in the movie, none of u learned anything from Ken's story in the movie i hate it here, i hate how even now i feel like i need 2 make this post devoid of my own personal emotions 2 b taken seriously

Ken is a perfect analogy for being an oppressed man, the fact that he's a himbo makes him a good analogy 4 existing at the intersection of being a man and having some sort of cognitive/intellectual disabilities (speaking as some1 who has brain damage from a traumatic brain injury i suffered b4 i was a year old) and its present in the way the ppl around him treat him, he wants 2 leave Barbie's side for a little bit and she says "don't go 2 far" he wants 2 go 2 the library and she says "don't get in trouble" he's consistently seen as her accessory, the movie mentions how it's not fair that some women are expected 2 "mother" their male partner and that's true its not fair but it also SHOWS us that sometimes women push that onto oppressed men, Ken is very clearly upset when Barbie mothers him, getting upset when she tells him not 2 go 2 far or not 2 get into trouble like he's a child and it's also not fair that some women push that onto men (usually disabled men) and expect those men to just allow them to "mother" them and infantilise them and dehumanise them and then on top of that because of Ken being a man he is taught that the only way he can gain respect is by taking over and starting fights and wars

so yeah, genuinely fuck you guys for seeing a movie about how both men and women deserve better and then choosing to ignore half the message because you would rather get wasted on gender essentialist politics that tells you that women are always safe and men are always oppressors so you can make jokes about killing all men and traumatising all men because each man is the same to you, i am a disabled, gay, trans man of colour and i am so fucking sick of this shit and i genuinely thought i would be able to escape that in the Ken tumblr tag and just be able to see posts from ppl who get it since that's partly what the Barbie movie was about but no, because oppressed men can't have anything, in fact i'm probably gonna get a bunch of comments making fun of me for being emotional because u guys probably also think men shouldn't b allowed 2 hav feeling right?

man vs bear debate my belothed

personally i think he's gay, especially considering the creator of the character says he fits the song "no girl's toy" that was sung by raggedy andy, as a gay guy 2 me personally that song is abt being a gay guy who's tired of society thinking that being a gay guy means u hav 2 b an accessory 4 straight women by being the "gay bestie" that combined with him having a lot of weird feelings abt being around women is super relatable 2 me specifically bc of being a gay guy

if i had 2 guess i think a lot of the reason ppl don't think he's a gay guy is bc of a few misconceptions abt stuff (long rant incoming!)

1) 4 some reason a lot of straight women don't get that we feel uncomfortable around them and don't know that half the time when we do play into the "gay best friend" trope it's as a defence mechanism bc of our gayness being seen as inherently predatory if we don't force ourselves into the "gay best friend" trope and so we're often forced 2 pick between being seen as an accessory or a threat, Jax is in a situation where since he's not part of society in the same way anymore it's a bit safer for him to not rely on that defence mechanism as much, also combining that with my hc that he has ASPD (i hav ASPD and noticed some traits of that in him) i think he's probably just so fucking tired of having 2 put up w that shit 4 so long

2) simply put, Jax has a lot of women in the fandom simping over him so they probably don't want him 2 b gay bc that would mean he isn't into them, not saying this is a bad thing, he's a fictional character and his sexual orientation isn't confirmed rn in any way just saying its probably partly y a lot of ppl r saying they don't think he's gay

3) the creator of the character said that he dresses more modestly and a lot of ppl think that all gay men dress very revealing, nothing wrong with how any1 dresses but it's annoying that ppl don't get that some gay men just prefer 2 dress modestly especially given how sexualised our identities are in society, this is also probably partly what lead 2 a lot of ppl hc Jax as ace

4) in a similar vein 2 the 1st point a lot of ppl heard "Jax feels uncomfortable around women" and immediately assumed this was bc he was a straight fuckboy misogynist

anyway that's just my hc on y i think Jax is a gay guy like me but also my theories as 2 y a lot of ppl think he's either straight or ace

I’d be genuinely curious to know how people headcanon Jax’s sexual orientation, because in my mind he’s like, undoubtedly gay, but that doesn’t seem to be the majority opinion!

Can I do polls? I’m gonna do a poll.