Issues

Issues

We need to teach people how to discuss issues, discuss how an issue affects them, and discuss solutions.

Of course you can change these things. It's called cultural values and laws.

Integrity

Integrity is a social contract that stipulates how you will interact and appreciate others.

Think of three people you know well. How would you rate them in terms of cooperation, collaboration, and teamwork?

If your tendency is to describe others in positive terms is an important indicator of the positivity of your own personality traits. Judge others as enthusiastic, happy, kind-hearted, courteous, emotionally stable, and capable and you're likely to be the same way.

The same goes for the flip side. A huge suite of negative personality traits are associated with viewing others negatively. The simple tendency to see people negatively indicates a greater likelihood of depression and various personality disorders.

Change the characteristic of interest to find the people you are interested in. "Think of 3 people who are ... ", This is an old sales trick, where the sales rep asks you to think of 3 people in your life like you who could use his services. It narrows the field down so that you aren't thinking globally, but very locally.

The Small Things

"Should I leave social media since all my friends are fighting all the time, when I post something?"

My suggestion .. Lead.

Since, Leadership is, "Guiding Intentions with Integrity", you need to show your friends how to have a civil discourse by attacking the issues, vs each other's character flaws.

To attack the issue, it is nessary to break the issue into it's smaller subcomponents. Into things that individuals can relate to. For example, when asked how to disucss ADHD to NeuroTypcials, I suggest that ADHDrs describe the individual symptoms of ADHD, that way NTs will have something they can relate to. IE .. walking into a room and forgetting why you were walking into it.

Through demonstrated leadership, help each friend find smaller common elements that they can relate to and discuss. Where they can describe how life is affecting them as an individual. Where they can describe how they personally resolved or overcame this issue.

Success

I'm responding to a post from Linked In ..

Too many of you aren’t being accountable - you prefer to blame your family, employees, society, or someone random instead of yourself. It’s your biggest weakness and the thing that’s holding you back from happiness. When you learn to blame yourself blindly, you learn how to be happy. Tag the most accountable person you know!

Accountability is the defacto excuse used by successful people on why unsuccessful people are unsuccessful. Esp, when it comes to happiness.

Here,s the problem w that argument. Unsuccessful people aren't unhappy. And, on the flip side .. successful people are not happy either.

But, focusing on unsuccessful people for a moment .. Unsuccessful people are unable to leverage their resources the way successful people can. For an unsuccessful people to invest their time into a pet project and grow it, there has to be a reward waiting. Everything that is done on the project must produce a positive reward. A dopamine kick.

No matter how small the move is .. it must have an immediate reward attached to it. Then, when that project is published, can the proceeds be rolled into the next project and so on.

This is what makes an unsuccessful person successful. Slow, steady, consistent effort toward an overall goal.

Those interest baring investments you made by betting on 1000s of different things. Yes, your skills and lucky helped you to win. Even poker players are proud of you. But, unsuccessful people can't play poker. Nor can they gamble w their rent. No, they are on a fixed income and have a fixed monthly nutt they have to make.

That's accountability