Writing Thrupples With A 'hinge', From Someone Who Falls Asleep In The Middle Every Night.

Writing thrupples with a 'hinge', from someone who falls asleep in the middle every night.

A hinge thrupple is where two people are dating the same person, but not one another. So, not a triangle.

I don't know any thrupples with a childish Jacob-Edward rivalry over the 3rd person (annoying, overplayed)

I don't know any always lovey-dovey thrupples where the two suitors don't do anything outside constantly showering their 3rd with affection (honestly a bit creepy to me)

I'm bi/pan and nonbinary/fluid. My partners are a big burly cis dude and a tall snarky androgynous lesbian, they're not at all attracted to one another. Sexuality/gender plays a big part in dynamics and what I'm called (one calls me Wife and the other calls me Boyfriend).

Many poly peeps set out with intention to have multiple partners, my situation happened accidentally with some help from my autism. Basically I fell in love with two people like the movies but instead of drama I had an honest conversation and they both agreed to try it out. 🤷

I call both my partners 'babe' which in hindsight maybe I should've used 'hun' for one of them, but it's also so cute when I say babe and have two people turn to me. ❤️ They do have some unique, less appropriate pet names tho.

So so so much communication is needed to make sure you're on the same page as your partners. Google calendar helps, as do chore charts. I have 2 date nights a week, one for each partner. Holiday plans are discussed months ahead of time.

Relationships develop at different speeds! One partner may be ready for a milestone a month in, a different partner may be ready for the same milestone in 4 years.

So many perks! Splitting bills, splitting chores, coordinating when emergencies happen, and VOTING! With 3, the discourse for deciding anything from what to eat to what color to paint a room is SO much quicker.

I think the biggest difficulty was getting over my fear that I was doing something wrong, that I was selfishly drawing 2 people into something that would end in heartbreak. I was also afraid my partners wouldn't get along. 😵‍💫

Minor difficulties include deciding who to take for events that are +1 only, remembering who we've come out to, and getting crushed in the middle of the night when both partners roll towards the center of the bed where I sleep. 🪦

I can only be legally married to 1 partner where I live, but my other partner hates the idea of doing joint taxes so 😂 when we have a wedding one day, we're going to get legal permissions to, say, visit me in the hospital when I'm dying and call it good.

Yes, I can have another wedding and it will be just as beautiful and symbolic as the one that included legal paperwork.

Only two people can be on a marriage certificate, but three people can be on a mortgage! We've jointly owned a house for almost a year and a half and it's been so much work but so nice to have our privacy.

My partners get jealous of one another, that's normal. They know to communicate that feeling with me so I can give them some 1 on 1 time or special attention.

If me and one of my partners are struggling in our relationship, I DONT vent to my other partner and just give a basic 'I'm working through something with X right now'. I know too many polycules that have become a drama mosh-pit. 😓

My partners can be friends, or lovers, or simple acquaintances but THEY decide that and I don't push them to do anything except communicate when needed. My partners are introverts and it's taken years for them to build up their platonic relationship lol

Yes, I do occasionally get double-teamed in sexy ways (less than you'd think). 90% of the double-teaming I get is both of them calling me short or agreeing that I'm cute when I'm angy about trivial things, though. 😾

My partners now consider each other metamores, friends, and team-mates. My lesbian partner calls my male partner their 'husband in-law' sometimes, particularly when they want something from him.

Sometimes my partners bicker and I think it's cute bc it means they've become very comfortable with each other. If they have an actual issue I just encourage them to talk about it/I don't try to fix it for them.

We generally live a comfy, laid-back life and do all the mundane things you'd expect of mid-twenties to early-thirties folk- raising two dogs, fixing the sink, caving and ordering taco bell, forgetting to make that appointment, griping about the economy, bringing home plants, watching birds fight over the bird feeder, and sleeping in on the weekends. We just do it with 3. ☘️

Extra note: Polygamy is a term used in religious and male-centric plural partner situations. We use polyamory, polyfidelity, harem (jokingly), and thrupple to describe ourselves. Maybe some use polygamy and like it, but where we live (Utah) the term is generally reserved for fundentalist mormons.

There's probably a lot more to say, so maybe this is just a part 1. Feel free to ask me questions or comment with your own hinge experience (or tell me about your thrupple ocs)!

How Cuddleable Are Your OCs? Tag

Saw this posted by @talesofsorrowandofruin and figured I'd give it a go!

Premise: Answer the title question using a scale of 1-10 and give context.

✨️I'll be using my 7 Circles characters✨️

Klaus:

7.5/10 Emotionally safe to cuddle with, warm, strong arms, whispers soothing reassurances. Might get fidgety over long cuddles though (has Fae-D-H-D).

Kazimier:

2/10 This restless man not only doesn't sleep, he often gets so wrapped up in his machinations he forgets to feed. IF hes cuddling you he a) is manipulating his way closer to you for crime reasons b) just fed on you and is trying to figure out his exit, or c) is using you for survival body heat. Try instigating a cuddle and you're gonna get the hell scratched outta ya.

Valian:

5/10 So smol, such soft hair, what a cute bean. But he's also a squirmy little bastard with a crass voice and the pointiest knees and elbows. So, cuddles best when unconscious.

Seeker:

9/10 FOUR ARMED HUGS. Hugs with four arms! Also so tall and super nurturing. They could tell me it'll all work out and I'd believe them. Caretaker femme energy.

Tagging @katenewmanwrites @scorpiothesaint and @officialauthorofanotherworld (but no pressure!)

Behold! The main four characters of 7 Circles! 🌐

A Queer, anti-capitalist, urban fantasy

Kazimier,

Sly and manipulative shapeshifter who gets caught by the government 💋🔪

Moodboard

Character Sheet

Klaus,

Half fae renegade hiding among the demonic elite 🌻🥂

Moodboard

Character Sheet

Seeker,

Diplomat from another land with four arms, a big heart, and no idea how bad it really is here 🌠🧭

Moodboard

Mini sheet (better one coming when I learn how to draw 4 armed ppl 😓)

Valian,

Ifrit criminal serving out his contract when he is asked by a demonic Duke to become a spy 🐁⛓️

Moodboard

Character Sheet

I'm going to be talking a lot about these beans ❤️ Asks and reblogs welcome.

(I don't own pics for the moodboards, I simply arranged and edited them.)

Seeker's character sheet! (Until I learn how to draw 4 arm anatomy 🥲)

I learned a lot though, and I'm particularly proud of that earring✨️

Out of all the angles you could have picked, why this one, Jev? I don't think I'll finish this one, but I'm posting so future me can feel good about improving 🥲

The Duke of Greed, Madam Vayne Donahue-Selway.

Drawing my characters is such an effective distraction from writing their story that my writblr is so far just an artblr.